As a recently married breh of two weeks I started looking back at the women I thought I'd end up with, which made me realize everyone all those girls eventually grew/matured so much faster than I did.
I stumbled onto this old reddit thread which reminded me of just how fast late-teens/early 20s girls quickly outgrow their male counterparts.
The common theme is "not wanting to grow and improve".
The early 20s of most young men are the hardest in terms of figuring life out. So most women that age get very frustrated with their brehs
R1: "I was with him for 2 and a half years, both in our mid 20s. Everyday there was a new career idea, comedian, marine, Sargent, fireman, policeman, estate agent, actor, contractor and lawyer to name a few. There is nothing wrong with not know what you want to do, but I supported all these ventures financially and emotionally until I just couldn’t do it anymore when he did eventually settle"
R2: "They were content with just "existing" while I wanted (and still want) to live. They didn't want to leave their comfort zone and it got super old. I want a partner to grow with and when they wouldn't, I resented and lost respect for them and broke it off."
R3: "This happened to me twice. I encouraged my then boyfriends to do the work to grow and make progress in the areas I was outpacing them (1 emotionally and 1 intellectually)... Both felt they were perfect the way they were (emotionally immature & uneducated/unwilling to learn)... so I left both"
R4: "I’m actually planning on breaking up with my boyfriend of two and a half years soon. We’ve been together since the start of senior year and I’ve realized in the past few months that I’m the only adult in the relationship. He can’t cook or clean, he won’t even shower unless I tell him he has to. I hope not all men have to be mothered like he does, or I’m definitely settling down with a wife"
R5: "I was with my first boyfriend for over 5 years. Started in high school and throughout my studies. He couldn't find a study that fit him, but also never put in the effort. That was also the way with other things, he would pour his heart into something and than, when it was too much effort, would stop. I was very supportive for a long time, because I could see the potential. But when I reached the end of my study things started to click in my brain. I wanted more out of my life and felt held back, also in other parts of my life because of the relationship. I think it felt like I gave so much to that relationship but it didn't get me to where I wanted to be. I got out of that relationship, got a job, moved cities and am much more active in all aspects of my life."
I stumbled onto this old reddit thread which reminded me of just how fast late-teens/early 20s girls quickly outgrow their male counterparts.
The common theme is "not wanting to grow and improve".
The early 20s of most young men are the hardest in terms of figuring life out. So most women that age get very frustrated with their brehs
R1: "I was with him for 2 and a half years, both in our mid 20s. Everyday there was a new career idea, comedian, marine, Sargent, fireman, policeman, estate agent, actor, contractor and lawyer to name a few. There is nothing wrong with not know what you want to do, but I supported all these ventures financially and emotionally until I just couldn’t do it anymore when he did eventually settle"
R2: "They were content with just "existing" while I wanted (and still want) to live. They didn't want to leave their comfort zone and it got super old. I want a partner to grow with and when they wouldn't, I resented and lost respect for them and broke it off."
R3: "This happened to me twice. I encouraged my then boyfriends to do the work to grow and make progress in the areas I was outpacing them (1 emotionally and 1 intellectually)... Both felt they were perfect the way they were (emotionally immature & uneducated/unwilling to learn)... so I left both"
R4: "I’m actually planning on breaking up with my boyfriend of two and a half years soon. We’ve been together since the start of senior year and I’ve realized in the past few months that I’m the only adult in the relationship. He can’t cook or clean, he won’t even shower unless I tell him he has to. I hope not all men have to be mothered like he does, or I’m definitely settling down with a wife"
R5: "I was with my first boyfriend for over 5 years. Started in high school and throughout my studies. He couldn't find a study that fit him, but also never put in the effort. That was also the way with other things, he would pour his heart into something and than, when it was too much effort, would stop. I was very supportive for a long time, because I could see the potential. But when I reached the end of my study things started to click in my brain. I wanted more out of my life and felt held back, also in other parts of my life because of the relationship. I think it felt like I gave so much to that relationship but it didn't get me to where I wanted to be. I got out of that relationship, got a job, moved cities and am much more active in all aspects of my life."
