I don't take dating advice from women. It's worthless.
Why women love jerks, and why you should be a nice guy anyway
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Neil Tyson
YYZ
I'm a nice guy to nice girls. 
I can usually pick up the aura of c*ntiness/thotness. Some women are exceptionally good at hiding it though.
I can usually pick up the aura of c*ntiness/thotness. Some women are exceptionally good at hiding it though.
shyt has served no purpose since the beginning of time
Tenchi Ryu
Ashtray B!tch
You get called a loser for saying this shyt, but its true.
Taking dating advice from the opposite sex is not really smart
I get what she's saying
basically what she's said was the same qualities players have that attract women for casual sex is the same traits that'll push them away from you in the long run, making relationships with substance rarer. The nice guy or whatever may have less relationships and sex with different people, but their relationships tend to be more fulfilling and last longer.
This generally seems to be true but what skews everyone's perception is that the a$$hole/jerk always seem to have access to hot women , and every man wants that, so it's not really as level of a playing field as the concept would suggest. In teens and 20's I'm sure most men would give up stable relationship qualities for the kind that get the baddies wet.
basically what she's said was the same qualities players have that attract women for casual sex is the same traits that'll push them away from you in the long run, making relationships with substance rarer. The nice guy or whatever may have less relationships and sex with different people, but their relationships tend to be more fulfilling and last longer.
This generally seems to be true but what skews everyone's perception is that the a$$hole/jerk always seem to have access to hot women , and every man wants that, so it's not really as level of a playing field as the concept would suggest. In teens and 20's I'm sure most men would give up stable relationship qualities for the kind that get the baddies wet.
They typically don't understand what we go through because majority of women don't approach. They literally seem to think both genders have the same desires and stations in dating.
Prince Mongo
Banned
People are too dynamic to take "nice guy, bad boy" shyt seriously. If y'all nikkas really lived in an urban black environment, you'd see where "thug" nikkas come from, and why they choose that lifestyle. Most "thugs" aren't thugging by choice, they're thugging out of necessity because they live in poverty
That was a white ass article btw, it doesn't relate to the dynamics of black dating
That was a white ass article btw, it doesn't relate to the dynamics of black dating
I used to think and also people, especially women, used to say/tell me that it was young girls who liked jerks/a$$holes.
However speaking to women in their mid to late 30s and even 40s I've heard a lot of them admit that there is a certain attraction about men that are a$$holes that they struggle to resist.
Mind you these aren't ratchet types either.
Edit: one of them did say that she thinks the reason why she is so attracted to a$$holes was because her father was like that. I'm not sure how to interpret that because I don't understand iy but that's exactly what she said
However speaking to women in their mid to late 30s and even 40s I've heard a lot of them admit that there is a certain attraction about men that are a$$holes that they struggle to resist.
Mind you these aren't ratchet types either.
Edit: one of them did say that she thinks the reason why she is so attracted to a$$holes was because her father was like that. I'm not sure how to interpret that because I don't understand iy but that's exactly what she said
pretty much its like they rationalizing with themselves and their own cognitive dissonance....
So how do you explain the attraction?
Flywin Lannister
Superstar
She's a little contradictive:By Duana C. Welch, Ph.D., author of Love Factually: 10 Proven Steps from I Wish to I Do, available now
Your thoughts?
Being a jerk leads to status, leads to girls.
Being a jerk leads to money, leads to women.
BUT
Women want a nice guy.
These are clear contradictions^
You can't and be a jerk and show you really like someone.
I think many men have tried the open, honest 'girl, I'm really into you' approach only to get dumped.
This goes beyond: be a jerk if you want casual sex easily but be sweet and nice if you want love.
Many women stay years with a jerk trying to get him to love her and when he finally does she gets bored
This piece also doesn't take into account that people gradually get more serious. So the person who has partner after partner between 16-26 may want to slow down and will then be more receptive to a nice man. Also beautiful women who 'are replaced with a newer model on the market' (when they get older) take the arrogance and hard to get stuff that can only be broken by a jerk a few levels down and they become more approachable - since there are less options.