Why some girls can't accept that they just not attractive?

[Johnny Vulture]

The debate is heavy here

I'm trying to squeeze myself into one

I see how you completely stole an opinion and made it a thread

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

I see how you completely stole an opinion and made it a thread

I Did it for the culture

 

[WHIPPEDCream]

if it's not small percentage please provide some statistics.... I'll wait

When someone asks me for proof of colorism I can not take them seriously.I compare that question to when White people asks to "prove," how racism exists.A person who asks for "proof," of systems of oppression that blatantly exist in society is someone who I can not engage in a discussion about racism or colorism with.A person who is oblivious to racism or colorism is someone who is simply unaware & who I consider a lost cause.

Honestly to discuss colorism with black men on this forum (or any other problem that a number of black women face) is completely useless.& Unfortunately, this same tune exists in real life to a certain degree.

 

[thewiz]

When someone asks me for proof of colorism I can not take them seriously.I compare that question to when White people asks to "prove," how racism exists.A person who asks for "proof," of systems of oppression that blatantly exist in society is someone who I can not engage in a discussion about racism or colorism with.A person who is oblivious to racism or colorism is someone who is simply unaware & who I consider a lost cause.

Honestly to discuss colorism with black men on this forum (or any other problem that a number of black women face) is completely useless.& Unfortunately, this same tune exists in real life to a certain degree.

I'm not asking you to prove the existence of colorism I'm asking you to prove the SIGNIFICANT number of black men that partake in it.. you know damn well you're generalizing because you're emotional

 

[WHIPPEDCream]

You must be ugly can be tired but if it fits fukk it it fits. I don't give a fukk who you checked and dikkhead I don't check your post like that so I don't know what you talking about earlier. As far as being ignorant I'll be that and for the most part looking good protects people from saying shyt that don't deal with you looking good except for online where a disproportionate number of victims seem to reside.

That's all that stuckk out to me, even though you didn't have to say that for me to know that.

i've never heard or seen a black man in real life say "i don't date dark women".

worst i've seen is a mixed dude saying he didn't like black girls.

i've met a few black females that told me some shyt like "i usually date mexicans, i usually date asians, i don't usually mess with dark guys, i don't date black guys," or some variations thereof.

When it comes to physical attraction the only people hungup on skin color are females.

People need to stop feeding these trolls. Majority of these females with low self esteem don't even interact with men. They just sit around all day letting nikkas like tommy sotamayor troll them.

If you never seen or heard that first line you typed then you don't live in America.

& How in the hell would you know how black men interact with women?You don't know the things they say.I & other women have more experience than YOU.I know how these n*ggas are & I been realized it a long time ago.This "black male c00ns don't exist," thing you & others are trying to spew is a joke.

 

[philmonroe]

That's all that stuckk out to me, even though you didn't have to say that for me to know that.



If you never seen or heard that first line you typed then you don't live in America.

& How in the hell would you know how black men interact with women?You don't know the things they say.I & other women have more experience than YOU.I know how these n*ggas are & I been realized it a long time ago.This "black male c00ns don't exist," thing you & others are trying to spew is a joke.

Whatever makes you people feel better about yourselves

 

[Couth]

That's all that stuckk out to me, even though you didn't have to say that for me to know that.



If you never seen or heard that first line you typed then you don't live in America.

& How in the hell would you know how black men interact with women?You don't know the things they say.I & other women have more experience than YOU.I know how these n*ggas are & I been realized it a long time ago.This "black male c00ns don't exist," thing you & others are trying to spew is a joke.

Men like attractive women.

if you're attractive skin color isn't gonna change that.

Any black man who makes a habit of belittling black women has low self esteem. Hes a lame. So why would you give a fukk what he thinks?

i could care less what a bedwench thinks.

 

[WHIPPEDCream]

I'm not asking you to prove the existence of colorism I'm asking you to prove the SIGNIFICANT number of black men that partake in it.. you know damn well you're generalizing because you're emotional

The fact that I have to provide you the research is all I need to know to know that I can't have this conversation with you(which I can,but I'm not going to because it is pointless and a waste of my time).I could sit up here and line up 10, 15 page, APA, peer-reviewed articles about colorism & Black men & you will still deny its impact.For someone who has had these dialogues about black male hatred towards dark skin/colorism in general with plenty of black women, it's hard for me to take you seriously.I don't see the point because you will continue to dismiss a significant number of black women's experiences with colorism and blacKKK men.

 

[thewiz]

The fact that I have to provide you the research is all I need to know to know that I can't have this conversation with you(which I can,but I'm not going to because it is pointless and a waste of my time).I could sit up here and line up 10, 15 page, APA, peer-reviewed articles about colorism & Black men & you will still deny its impact.For someone who has had these dialogues about black male hatred towards dark skin/colorism in general with plenty of black women, it's hard for me to take you seriously.I don't see the point because you will continue to dismiss a significant number of black women's experiences with colorism and blacKKK men.

Again majority of black men are with brown and black skin women and you tried to say that most men you see in real life talk down on dark skin women.. even if that was true your experience isn't representative of dark skin women as a whole and neither are any of those peer reviewed articles with their small ass sample sizes and I know you've never taken a research methods class so you wouldn't even be able to recognize or interpret any skewed data presented to you

 

[WHIPPEDCream]

Men like attractive women.

if you're attractive skin color isn't gonna change that.

Any black man who makes a habit of belittling black women has low self esteem. Hes a lame. So why would you give a fukk what he thinks?

i could care less what a bedwench thinks.

Well I & many others come across those frequently,I was just having a conversation about this with my sister the other day(who has also had conversations about this with her black female friends).

It's not necessarily about me giving a f*ck, it's more so about black women defending themselves.F*ck being quiet when black men degrade them for their skin tone.I'm more for a Malcome X approach than a Martin Luther King one.

 

[BaggerofTea]

I love dark women but dark women don't love me


And then they get mad when they see me with a white wpman talking about colorism n shyt.

 

[Tropical Fantasy]

The fact that I have to provide you the research is all I need to know to know that I can't have this conversation with you(which I can,but I'm not going to because it is pointless and a waste of my time).I could sit up here and line up 10, 15 page, APA, peer-reviewed articles about colorism & Black men & you will still deny its impact.For someone who has had these dialogues about black male hatred towards dark skin/colorism in general with plenty of black women, it's hard for me to take you seriously.I don't see the point because you will continue to dismiss a significant number of black women's experiences with colorism and blacKKK men.

ma'am no one here is denying the impact colorism has had on the black collective conscious

it's that youre making these sweeping generalizations about how most of us black men hate dark skinned women.

do those men exist? absolutely

are those men very vocal with their disdain for darker women? absolutely

do they make up the majority of black men? absolutely not


that's what we are saying

but youre parading your perceptions and experiences as fact when it's really just conjecture.

dont ascribe the actions & thoughts of the few to the entire populace, those are white supremacist tactics :jrdnkak1:

 

[WHIPPEDCream]

Again majority of black men are with brown and black skin women and you tried to say that most men you see in real life talk down on dark skin women.. even if that was true your experience isn't representative of dark skin women as a whole and neither are any of those peer reviewed articles with their small ass sample sizes and I know you've never taken a research methods class so you wouldn't even be able to recognize or interpret any skewed data presented to you

I'm a psych major. My whole college career was research.Statistics all the way through "Experimental Methods," was a requirement.& I'll be doing the same thing when I'm in grad school.

& What you said in the first 2 lines of your post is what everyone says when the topic of colorism pops up.Clearly,everyone has there own individual experiences.Based on your post, you're making it seem like it's not really a problem.So if colorism is not really a "problem," then why should it be discussed at all?

 

[WHIPPEDCream]

ma'am no one here is denying the impact colorism has had on the black collective conscious

it's that youre making these sweeping generalizations about how most of us black men hate dark skinned women.

do those men exist? absolutely

are those men very vocal with their disdain for darker women? absolutely

do they make up the majority of black men? absolutely not


that's what we are saying

but youre parading your perceptions and experiences as fact when it's really just conjecture.

dont ascribe the actions & thoughts of the few to the entire populace, those are white supremacist tactics :jrdnkak1:

I never said that this was what most black men do,but the number of black men who do this is significant enough for it to be considered problematic.It is both accepted & tolerated for black men to sh*t on dark skin women in the black community.Who comes to their defense?No one.No,I'm not going to turn a blind eye & be like "but but but not all black men are like that."Black women should not allow black men to treat them in such a disgusting & degrading way.

The way Blakkk men view skin is disgusting.They will put a woman's whole entire value & worth on her skin tone,but these same black ass n*ggas don't want their skin tone to come into play when they are being judged by the world though.TRUTH.

 

[thewiz]

I'm a psych major. My whole college career was research.Statistics all the way through "Experimental Methods," was a requirement.& I'll be doing the same thing when I'm in grad school.

& What you said in the first 2 lines of your post is what everyone says when the topic of colorism pops up.Clearly,everyone has there own individual experiences.Based on your post, you're making it seem like it's not really a problem.So if colorism is not really a "problem," then why should it be discussed at all?

I wanted you to stop generalizing and colorism honestly shouldn't be discussed..if some dark skin nikka doesn't like you cause you're dark skin who cares? That's life, not everyone is gonna like or find you attractive, go find a dark skin nikka who likes dark skin women.. this shyt is so stupid