Why do women need closure?

[Thurgood Thurston III]

Women have this thing where they always want to end on good terms.

So they'll try to see if you're still cool but ghost you right after. They even do this shyt to their female friends.

For example: I had stopped hitting this one girl I had class with after she seemed uninterested.

One day she just randomly seemed eager to speak to me. She even texted me and said she missed me.

Then she abruptly stopped hitting me up. I saw her around and it's just hi and bye.

My sister had this happen to her several times by some of her old friends.

 

[Thanos]

I know a person who broke up with a dude 4 years ago, and she still wants closure. I think people want closure want to end things generally well. But imo, no one owes you shyt and you need to move forward.

 

[Caca-faat]

Women have this thing where they always want to end on good terms.

So they'll try to see if you're still cool but ghost you right after. They even do this shyt to their female friends.

For example: I had stopped hitting this one girl I had class with after she seemed uninterested.

One day she just randomly seemed eager to speak to me. She even texted me and said she missed me.

Then she abruptly stopped hitting me up. I saw her around and it's just hi and bye.

My sister had this happen to her several times by some of her old friends.

I haven't thought about it before; but we do do this sometimes. I would imagine this would be get us back on a level playing field or a reset; go back to being strangers kind of thing.


Human beings need closure, we are hard wired through curiosity for feedback. People who run from deep emotional connection and vulnerability avoid this when the emotions are fresh because the wound is raw usually when they inflict the pain in the first place. Then 4 years later at 3am text you telling you you were a good person and they miss you. We could have had the reset ages ago. See above.

 

[CodeBlaMeVi]

People don’t really want closure. They just want to give the other person the opportunity to say all the right things to make it right again.

This and I’m guilty of that.

That’s what it truly boils down to.​

 

[CodeBlaMeVi]

Well, the last woman I was talking to, I got closure from her but it wasn’t enough. One’s self has to make sense of a situation and why it ended the way it ended. I did when the second to last time we talked, I realized what she’s been telling me and was that she changed and was going down a different path. She wasn’t the woman I’ve fallen for anymore.

 

[Samori Toure]

Ego.

And Control.

 

[Gold]

I feel like that a human thing not just a “woman” thing... right???

I think its more of a Western Society thing.

 

[Sugarbush]

Ego.

/thread

 

[DatNkkaCutty]

"Closure" always seemed like a code-word for "johnson" to me...

Usually meant they wanted that last rodeo. "C'mon over so you can get some "closure"...

 

[Cel 510 kid ados forever]

both men and women need closure

 

[Rawtid]

Once some people learn they will never get the answer they WANT to hear, they will ease off.

 

[Estarossa]

lol at needin’ closure... ex knew damn well the relationship was in shambles. I tried to end it on good terms but she just went batshyt. Then she got the nerve to come around asking for closure after threatening to burn down my house and showing up on my job after I put her out. bytch...