he's 35 and way too old

to be dating some 19 year old. i feel like the age difference is always a way for guys to take advantage. he is practically middle aged and she's a teenager.
she shouldn't be struggling with some dude at 19. she should be in school or working. yes he was dealt a bad hand, but that doesnt mean he's stuck living on disability. plenty of people find stable income outside of the tradtional workforce. she needs to be with someone in her age range, who is still excited about life & adulthood, and who is feeling more motivated.
and unless this guy has a bunch of black ex-girlfriends then i dont see how you guys are making judgments on bw as a whole over one teenaged hippie's decision.