"too much shyt" is subjective. Too much shyt to one man could be talking on the phone for an hour while to the next man it's telling the girl that she's pretty. I don't mean to lay down for a ho, but I mean how much work/patience are you willing to put in for a bytch.
If you Listen to the nikkaz on here, you taking an hour long bus to go fukk with a girl is too much, but to me it aint nothing, so it's not too much.
And with regards to respect b, the only time I girl will lose respect for you is if you dont carry yourself with respect and you are insecure. Girls will TRY you even if you're that nikka (though at a much less clip than if you're a fukk nikka), but having the mentality that you need to assert your strength means you not a strong. The Strongest nikkaz know their capabilities and that's what garners respect not only from women, but from bytches. The nikka that gets the most hoes aint the nikka thats out here trynna chop every girl in front of his boys ect to make it seem like he's that nikka, he's the nikka that knows that when he has that girl 1 on 1 it's a wrap, so he respects himself enough to let it ride, and when he steps to it there's not gonna be any of this lame "I have to prove myself and make this girl respect me" type shyt, because if you a real nikka a bytch gon give you the benefit of the doubt till you prove otherwise, that even goes for fukk nikkas too.
If you have to go out of your way to gain respect by any means other than giving respect, you're a weak nikka that just doesn't naturally command respect.