When I was 20/21. I fell for this pretty girl with an amazing personality.There was only one problem
- Thread starter Brandon M.
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It's tough. My brother has recently found a girl that is the total package (looks, personality, occupation etc) but she has a son too. Dad isn't involved though.
I told my bro as long as she keeps all her child related shyt separate then go for it. She handles her business and is a good girl so don't pass it up. He's like 27 so its only right. Cause at that age...he's either finding a girl whos dope with a kid...or a crazy, insecure broad or whatever is inbetween
I told my bro as long as she keeps all her child related shyt separate then go for it. She handles her business and is a good girl so don't pass it up. He's like 27 so its only right. Cause at that age...he's either finding a girl whos dope with a kid...or a crazy, insecure broad or whatever is inbetween
Nope....Atlanta with another chick and a couple kids they have. Left here because he was in some legal trouble and won't be back. Even if he did he has no connection, and doesn't try.
is the dad in the picture?:
Doobie Doo
Veteran
Op did the right thing. Think about how many single mothers and b*stard kids are out here cuz mama went with her heart for the thug instead of practical with the nikka handling biz
same here biological father left when i was really young step father which i hate too type stepped in raised me and my siblings and is still married with my mom
I'm raising wifey daughter as my own too cuz she is my own. real father aint shyt at all. wasn't in pic till i got with her and then tried too pop in for a lil bit then bounced again does it all the time.
she knows who he is but doesn't ask bout him at all. only his mom keeps in contact with her and she calls my cell too talk too her grand daughter too and calls me a great father to her grand daughter
she told us these convo they had
the times he has seen her she didn't want too go but did briefly tried too tell her I'm her step father she was like no he is my dad he was like
he was like I'm a giants fan u should be one she goes no my dad likes the cowboys so I'm a cowboys fan he was
i knew the risk that he could pop in every so often and was willing too deal with it and I'm able too handle it cuz he dont really see her and doesn't really try too be part of her life so it makes it that much easier
Brandon M.
City of Angels
some of the realest shyt in hereyou probably did the right thing breh. I understand we all have emotions and aren't robots but there's a difference between acknowledging (and managing your emotions) and being a slave to your emotions. IMO the key to happiness is to find ways to manage your emotions logically. Chick had a kid. Father is still in his life. You could probably see all the potential drama and issues. and although she could have been a cool chick, you probably felt like you had better options in life.
you got the other girl. you prefer the first girl BUT you prefer the second situation or "package". You did good breh cause the second chick is still a great girl as you said.
remember one thing in life breh. There is no such thing as "unconditional love". The sooner you realize this, the happier you will be. Don't let people try to guilt trip you into "if you would have loved her you would have accepted her kid as your own"You loved her while you were with her but you felt like it wasn't right for you. now the left over emotion is attachement. advice i'd give you is to try and focus on the good things your wife does for you (without comparing) and whatever you would like from her to be happier. Maybe you'll realize that your wife has an even bigger potential to support your happiness than Kay ever could.
Personally, the only way i could be with a single mom is if the father is dead (even then i probably wouldn't unless i have no other option but that's the only way i would consider it.)
No matter what fam, you did the right thing....her allegiance is a testament. I salute you breh, you a stand up dude, and it ain't easy. I wish nothing but blessings to yousame healogical father left when i was really young step father which i hate too type stepped in raised me and my siblings and is still married with my mom
I'm raising wifey daughter as my own too cuz she is my own. real father aint shyt at all. wasn't in pic till i got with her and then tried too pop in for a lil bit then bounced again does it all the time.
she knows who he is but doesn't ask bout him at all. only his mom keeps in contact with her and she calls my cell too talk too her grand daughter too and calls me a great father to her grand daughter
she told us these convo they had
the times he has seen her she didn't want too go but did briefly tried too tell her I'm her step father she was like no he is my dad he was like
he was like I'm a giants fan u should be one she goes no my dad likes the cowboys so I'm a cowboys fan he was
i knew the risk that he could pop in every so often and was willing too deal with it and I'm able too handle it cuz he dont really see her and doesn't really try too be part of her life so it makes it that much easier
aqualung
I wear a crown of curls.
You wasted 3 years of her youth. Congrats, a$$hole.
No matter what fam, you did the right thing....her allegiance is a testament. I salute you breh, you a stand up dude, and it ain't easy. I wish nothing but blessings to you
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u for stepping up like a real man taking on another person kid and not looking at her as some female who isn't no good cuz she got a kid. u came into her life and kid life and took on the responsibility with no questions asked and raised that kid as your owni get people are against single mom's and thats not their thing which is fine i aint even mad but I'm like there are some damn good one's out there too
Brandon M.
City of Angels
u cant be serious. shes about to be 26. She wanted me as much as I wanted her.. "the older and more mature I got" i started realizing this was going to be hard. Again , there was no attachment with me and her son. It was minimal. The only time i felt something was one time..i was speaking to her on the phone, and her son was sick, he was crying. he was like 2. I told her let me speak to him. I spoke to him and he stopped crying. I was only 22! i was playing the whole situation on the fly trying for the best, i was trying my best..dont call me an a$$hole
Brandon M.
City of Angels
Thanks fam....and she turned out to be a hustler like a assumed she would and we started a business together. If you knew the whole story its pretty cool, and I wouldn't change a thing. Each person in our lit tle family needs each other for a specific reason, I feel I'm on the right path...salute brehtwan83 said:me I
i get people are against single mom's and thats not their thing which is fine i aint even mad but I'm like there are some damn good one's out there too
aqualung
I wear a crown of curls.
I was not there, so I do not know. It took ya all 3 years to figure out that you were treading water in that 'ship? To cut bait? -_-
Newsflash: marriage is hard. So is parenting. Both require WORK and compromise. You will not like or love your spouse and kids every minute of every day for blissful years.
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Brandon M.
City of Angels
aight whatever.ur clearly being a prickI was not there, so I do not know. It took ya all 3 years to figure out that you were treading water in that 'ship? To cut bait? -_-
Newsflash: marriage is hard. So is parenting. Both require WORK and compromise. You will not like or love your spouse and kids every minute of every day for blissful years.
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