What Would You Do If Your Wife Wants Kids But You Dont ?

[raul04]

Well that that point, one of you is not getting what you want. You have only one life, I'd say choose your own happiness over hers. It'll probably lead to divorce if you cannot come to a compromise; it's a pretty polarizing issue.

I'm kind of in a similar situation here. At first I was on board to have a kid but over the past couple of months my mind had changed. I am not married to her but I can only imagine with her friends having kids that the subject will keep coming up, the clock is ticking. The good thing is I had a vasectomy so i'm not worried about some trickery but i'm sure she will find someone else that is willing to have a child. Sucks cause I really do care about her.


EDIT: No way in hell i'm getting a reversal either, no guarantees even if I wanted to.

 

[msims]

I'm kind of in a similar situation here. At first I was on board to have a kid but over the past couple of months my mind had changed. I am not married to her but I can only imagine with her friends having kids that the subject will keep coming up, the clock is ticking. The good thing is I had a vasectomy so i'm not worried about some trickery but i'm sure she will find someone else that is willing to have a child. Sucks cause I really do care about her.

When the talk comes about, tell her to give you time. If you haven't changed your mind in X* amount of time, then maybe things won't work. In reality, if you felt like you wanted them at first, the spark is still probably there. You might have just been turned off of the idea, because of recent events. Or you might just want them a bit further down the line; just not at this very moment. Hopefully, she'll understand and give you a bit of time to warm up to the idea.

*X = a compromised time for you both to warm up to the idea of having kids. It has to be long enough for you to really think things through, yet short enough for her to feel like she can actually wait. She won't wait on you forever.​

 

[BlvdBrawler]

I'm kind of in a similar situation here. At first I was on board to have a kid but over the past couple of months my mind had changed. I am not married to her but I can only imagine with her friends having kids that the subject will keep coming up, the clock is ticking. The good thing is I had a vasectomy so i'm not worried about some trickery but i'm sure she will find someone else that is willing to have a child. Sucks cause I really do care about her.


EDIT: No way in hell i'm getting a reversal either, no guarantees even if I wanted to.

It's the biggest decision you'll ever have to make so don't rush it.

 

[Still FloW]

I'm kind of in a similar situation here. At first I was on board to have a kid but over the past couple of months my mind had changed. I am not married to her but I can only imagine with her friends having kids that the subject will keep coming up, the clock is ticking. The good thing is I had a vasectomy so i'm not worried about some trickery but i'm sure she will find someone else that is willing to have a child. Sucks cause I really do care about her.


EDIT: No way in hell i'm getting a reversal either, no guarantees even if I wanted to.

Kids free life brehhhhhhhhhh, spend all those college funds on getting an Audi R8 >>>>

 

[raul04]

When the talk comes about, tell her to give you time. If you haven't changed your mind in X* amount of time, then maybe things won't work. In reality, if you felt like you wanted them at first, the spark is still probably there. You might have just been turned off of the idea, because of recent events. Or you might just want them a bit further down the line; just not at this very moment. Hopefully, she'll understand and give you a bit of time to warm up to the idea.

*X = a compromised time for you both to warm up to the idea of having kids. It has to be long enough for you to really think things through, yet short enough for her to feel like she can actually wait. She won't wait on you forever.​

We did discuss this to allow some time for me to rethink this decision, she's cool with that but I'm 37 and she's 27. I already brought up a 16 year old kid who is about to go to college I have to make sure that kid gets his degree first.

 

[Dirty_Jerz]

ask her if she would be fine having your kids while your tour the world

 

[Still FloW]

ask her if she would be fine having your kids while your tour the world

I'd rather have no kids than have kids and put my joy ahead of raising them...

Thats why..

#TeamNoKidsAndLiveLongerNoStressDrivingThatLamborghini

 

[Objection]

When I got married my wife didn't want kids. She has now had a change of heart. It's just one of those things you have to revisit as your relationship with that person goes along. Anyone can say marry someone that doesn't want kids but what's to say that person won't change their mind? If they do, are you going to leave them? Not every relationship has to end just because you can't have everything that you want.

 

[Dirty_Jerz]

I'd rather have no kids than have kids and put my joy ahead of raising them...

Thats why..

#TeamNoKidsAndLiveLongerNoStressDrivingThatLamborghini

this decision is respectable breh, atleast if you ever changed your mind men can make babies their whole lives

everyone wins

 

[HookersandIceCream]

Simple

You shoulnt be married to get in the first place

 

[Still FloW]

this decision is respectable breh, atleast if you ever changed your mind men can make babies their whole lives

everyone wins

You're right... dont try and make me have kids now...

 

[Taadow]

What if we were on the same page in the beginning then after watching KUWTK and catching KimYe & BeHovce fever she wanted a baby too

...Then you STILL lost for wifing a broad who looks up to celebrities...that's the kind of thing you find out while dating also.




What do y'all do on dates?

 

[Taadow]

When I got married my wife didn't want kids. She has now had a change of heart. It's just one of those things you have to revisit as your relationship with that person goes along. Anyone can say marry someone that doesn't want kids but what's to say that person won't change their mind? If they do, are you going to leave them? Not every relationship has to end just because you can't have everything that you want.

...bro, you can run that same drag to your wife.

"Hon - I don't want kids. You didn't want kids. We have a deal. Our relationship doesn't have to end just because you can't have everything you want..."

 

[Still FloW]

...Then you STILL lost for wifing a broad who looks up to celebrities...that's the kind of thing you find out while dating also.




What do y'all do on dates?

Hold hands and feed each other straw berries and chit...