What is love bombing?

[The Wolf Among You]

Love-bombing is when person A showers person B with excessive affection, attention, and love. But at some point completely goes cold, making person B wonder what they’ve done wrong therefore, making them more willing to appease person A to gain that affection back.
It’s a manipulation tactic, and both manipulative men and women use it so, no it’s not a made up term by women.

 

[cyndaquil]

Y’all cannot be serious.

“It’s not my fault I give this person so much of my time, attention and energy and then when I pull back they get upset. I told them I didn’t want anything serious in the beginning even though my actions show otherwise!”

Are yall grown adults? If this happened not just once but multiple times, why not adjust your actions and the way you move going forward?

We all know actions > words. Just because you say something, if your actions show otherwise even for a short period.. it will cause confusion.

Yep so very true. The people defending it don't want to accept accountability.

 

[Taadow]

Love bombing is not a real thing. It's just a cop-out term that women made so they can play the victim

It's also a way to shame good men for showing kindness and respect to a woman.

Almost.

It’s when you’re a “good“ dude and you try to show a woman you are willing to be
“good” to her upfront/early in your interactions with her.

That is ”toxically masculine” because if you act “good” you are subconsciously pressuring a woman
to act “good” also toward you also, and she may not want to consent to that.
You do not have the right to bully (yes, “bully”) a woman into being nice to you.

Remember that since you are bigger and stronger than her, you are a Male Oppressor Patriarch
and have control over her feelings and mind.
She is helpless against your Masculinity, and also might fall in love with you against her will because
you were acting so nice (because women cannot resist Nice men) - which is Rape.

You should only want to be “good” when it’s time for that -
and you just have to know when it’s the right time and way to be “good”. It’s not a woman’s job
to tell a grown man when it’s the right time to be “good”.

 

[maxamusa]

"love bombing" is yt slang for running game. welcome to the 2k24.

 

[MicIsGod]

These are the same people that think narcissism isn’t real.

 

[trap101-ETHout-Allegri-In]

once i realized what this really meant i feel like i am a love bomber.
i generally call it "sucker 4 love" i be throwing the love out there full force, meanwhile i be knowing that i probably don't really have plans to be in a long term relationship.
just be on some whirlwind ish enjoying the ride with no real intentions other than to live and feel . i see how this can be confusing for some people who think love should only be given at a certain level. i don't mean no harm though.
happy friday yall!

with that sort of philosophy and the language you used I know you're down with poly-life and open relationships.... #RealRecognizeReal...

 

[trap101-ETHout-Allegri-In]

But seriously I've been called a love bomber multiple times by chics. But it's usually the ones I tell I'm not looking for a serious relationship from them. When we kick it we might go out for dinner have a good time and I'm going all out just enjoy the ride while you're on. But once I'm done I'm outta there. Even being upfront like that they still made the accusations. But I also learned that a lot of chics getting the bare minimum out here. So everything I do seems like extra because they're just not used to anything lol

I recognize this behaviour too as I just memtioned to @bourgeoisie tall freak , if we may have an intense sexual relationship the bare minimum should be to treat you with respect and accentuate the good times we share. But most women can't disassociate this from meaning one wants a monogamous relationship.... I'm out here enjoying the ride of life..

 

[bourgeoisie tall freak]

with that sort of philosophy and the language you used I know you're down with poly-life and open relationships.... #RealRecognizeReal...

nah i don't even date tbh. i haven't fd in 2 years. im pretty picky. i be waiting for beautiful and cool dudes to come around. that's probably another reason why i'm so easy with them lolol

but here's to the lovers.


aint it interesting how people get the point when it's over a hot beat but, but then be mad when you really living that life

 

[trap101-ETHout-Allegri-In]

nah i don't even date tbh. i haven't fd in 2 years. im pretty picky. i be waiting for beautiful and cool dudes to come around. that's probably another reason why i'm so easy with them lolol

but here's to the lovers.


aint it interesting how people get the point when it's over a hot beat but, but then be mad when you really living that life

Just cause your picky doesn't mean you ain't with it.... one should be picky. Not everyone should get the goods...

 

[Ohene]

Love bombing is telling the person you want a future with them after the first date, and displaying very strong feelings right away in an attempt to manipulate the person into developing feelings for you quickly. Then, once they get what they want, the attention fizzles.

Good description
Nigerian breh playbook

 

[bourgeoisie tall freak]

Just cause your picky doesn't mean you ain't with it.... one should be picky. Not everyone should get the goods...

i aint with it

 

[TheJet]

According to Psychology Today, “love bombing is an attempt to influence another person with over-the-top displays of attention and affection.”

That shyt that Urkel used to do.

 

[Ozymandeas]

Telling a girl you love them, that you want her to meet your parents, looking deep into her eyes while smashing, saying she's the one.

Then never seeing her again

 

[Umoja]

Just cause your picky doesn't mean you ain't with it.... one should be picky. Not everyone should get the goods...

You're embarrassing yourself