I went to a party with my girl's family some time back. We end up sitting at a table with a couple and talking about life. They have kids and found specialty grocery stores expensive.
My girl and I have no kids and I shop exclusively at specialty stores.
They have car payments they worry about. My car is literally paid off next month.
They like fried catfish. I like pan seared seabass and steelhead trout.
We understood each other, but anytime I indulged in some of my hobbies, they made it clear they couldn't afford that stuff.
Now imagine you have family who aren't super close but yall are cordial. They aren't well off but every time you show up, you have a visual
reminder to them that they shyt ain't working out. You would be surprised how often folks get back-doored by their own family because of this.
To further illustrate the point, my professional friends had bills for sure, but our conversations were about careers, taking trips, photography, etc.
For my friends in blue collar work, the conversations are quite a bit about bills and what they deal with daily. At a certain point, you gravitate to those
living similar to you. I make the kind of money where a $400 surprise bill is a minor annoyance. A $1000 bill is a grumble and eye roll. Most people statistically
are going through it when some shyt like that hits and it will affect how they act.
"I can't afford my bills."
"Sorry. Can't relate."
Nope. Avoid that type of shyt. Even if you don't say it, it can be said just by how you living.