Update: GMB Great girl, cooks, cleans, independent, no male friends, no clubs or social media BUT..

[Stuntone]

She wants all of your free time! I mean damn near all of it.

Me and my girl are best friends, It's been 3 years I still really enjoy all the time we spend together, never get tired of her. Like I still enjoy cuddling with her daily and doing day to day stuff. She very easy to please, doesnt care for fancy clothing and material things, wants a small wedding. She was raised by her grandparents. She gets my humor. We laugh together. Did I mention shes' bad!!! She's a 9 to me, but a solid coli 8. I'll post a pic later. Sex could be better at times, but other than that I don't have any complaints. Her issue is I'm not with her as much as she would like, I work nights and dj on the side. And I go south Louisiana once or twice a week to see family and check on my house. She doesn't really have friends nearby and isn't really close to her family like I am. I have a lot of family and friends I love to visit and chill with. Most of the time I invite her, but she doesn't really care to go, she just want it to be me and her most of the time. Lately she's been telling me it's really getting to her that I'm gone so much. I feel her somewhat bcuz she moved up here to be with me, but at the same time I want a life outside of the relationship. She's real old fashion, so I know there's good and bad any every situation.

I think about dating her in before I met her Hard to find a loyal, no attention whoring, low mileage woman down here in Louisiana.


What would you guys do?

Spoiler: Me and My Girl

 

[mrfortune]

sounds like a reasonable sacrifice for a good women and friend. just make time for what you want to do and balance it

 

[1 other person]

Being real...... It aint much out there in the streets. If you got a real one at home, consider yourself lucky. Keep what you got if you got a real one. Just my two cents.

 

[010101]

ain't nothing you can do everything is on fate*

 

[jdubnyce]

Sounds needy

Does she have a circle of friends she chills with?

If she can't have her own individual social life and/or defines herself only through attachment to you....then ...that's tell tale signs

Run breh

 

[CreepyMcCreeperson]

I'd stay, and put up with it, because a good woman is hard to find.

 

[Rawtid]

If she was going to the club, she wouldn't be clinging to you all the time. Tell her to go get some damn friends. A hobby. A second job. Something.

 

[Swirv]

Sounds like my wife. Took me some time to adjust but she’s worth it. I had a talk with her too and it’s much better.

 

[SnowflakesByTheOZ]

So basically she's nitpicking. Red flag. She's probably already entertaining other guys even if not on an intimate level. I'd tell you to bush her but you're 3 years in with talks of marriage so that's not happening. Keep backups on deck.​

 

[Orange cream shake]

Get married, she’ll be asking for space in no time

 

[Gold]

Kinda how my girl is.

Luckily im a nerd so when i want spac3 i just do some nerd shyt and she leaves me alone

 

[Crayola Coyote]

That is a red flag.

 

[BrehWyatt]

Sounds needy

Does she have a circle of friends she chills with?

If she can't have her own individual social life and/or defines herself only through attachment to you....then ...that's tell tale signs

Run breh

Well, the way OP tells it, she kind of uprooted her life as she knew it to move and be with him.

I'm not saying it's right of her to be stuck on the breh like that ... but I kind of get it.

That said, he tries to include her when he goes and does shyt. That's basically all you can ask of him.

Considering that OP says he enjoys the time he spends with her and doesn't get tired of her (though he wants space to do his thing, understandably so)... it doesn't seem like there's much of a dilemma to address. Why make a mountain out of a molehill?

 

[Silkk]

As soon as you do she gonna get tired of yo ass

 

[ThrobbingHood]

I feel her somewhat bcuz she moved up here to be with me, but at the same time I want a life outside of the relationship.

Nah son. It doesn’t work like that. She made a sacrifice to be with you, so you can’t have your cake and eat it.

You’re right, you should both have a life outside of a relationship but it’s harder for her since she moved to be with you. So suck it up and accept it’s a two way street. You’ll have to include each other in your activities more.