tired of females asking me.. "what do you do for living"

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That's you, I don't need a chicks money, as long as she works hard at what she does and takes care of herself, who am I to judge.

I've dated women who had their MBAs, llbs and .Ive dated women who were waitresses or bank tellers. Their designation or career had no impact on how I viewed them


Well she either still be in school OR a RECENT (< 6-8 months) graduate.
 

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Be honest, would you date a girl that is a cashier at Walmart or McDonalds, that is not a college/higher educational student? I'm sure u would want someone with some kind of drive in life.
No price can be put on a woman who loves you to death....As long as she is striving to get better and has a decent job I'm good
 

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This doesn't bother me since in many cases I see it as just a conversation piece. Now, if she's asking you within the first few questions of ever meeting you, then that's a rd flag. But if you've two have had a conversation or two, then I don't see the problem. I mean, isn't what you do apart of your everyday life? Isn't the sum of what you do everyday a large component of who you are and how you identify?

Besides, in most cases, I've asked women what they do before they ask me. Part of it is simply a conversation piece to understand what type of field she works in, why she works in it and what made her go in that direction. To me, that helps me understand her personality better. Because if she's a teacher that tells me one thing versus if she's an engineer.

And to be honest, another part of it is me gauging where she falls on the socioeconomic scale. Not because I'm looking to rip her off or because I'm looking for a free ride. Moreso because I want to see if our lives and lifestyles are compatible.

The reality is, a banker and an IT worker probably work better than a banker and round-the-way haridresser. Is one better than the other? Not at all, but two different lifestyles and two different views on how to make money can cause issues for people who are entrenched in their own views.

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Just say you're an engineering student or a student studying a really important degree like law or medicine which is guaranteed money once you finish.

When I was studying, I was also working as an intern at an oil firm and even though I wasn't getting paid, when people asked me what I did for a living, I would just say engineer; and technically it wasn't a lie anyway.
 
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It is pretty annoying. It's peoples way of putting you into a box. For example if you say Cashier at McDonalds vs Law Student, right away you've now changed in the persons eyes, before they even got to meet you, get to know your character. Apparently how you make cash is what defines who you are and what your characteristics are like.


I was just about to chime in with the bolded.
 

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You could have the greatest personaliy in the world...
You could be as knowledgeable about art, music, literature, fashion, media, entertainment, science, philosophy, etc. as anyone could be
You could be athletic and inspired...
You could be funny, witty, and articulate...

But if you aren't doing anything impressive for a living (see Tommy Knocks comment) or anything at all (that brings in money)...tough sh!t. LARF!
 

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Part of it is simply a conversation piece to understand what type of field she works in, why she works in it and what made her go in that direction. To me, that helps me understand her personality better. Because if she's a teacher that tells me one thing versus if she's an engineer.

The reality is, a banker and an IT worker probably work better than a banker and round-the-way haridresser.
I disagree with this wholeheartedly. Within careers people maintain their characteristics. You don't get into a profession because of your character. You maintain that no matter what you do for a living, character is built based on life experiences. A teacher can be very very liberal, funny, free thinking and open minded, or they can be very close minded, analytical, conservative, nit picky and fierce. All you have to do is look around your own office to see different characters. All those within the same profession do not have the same character. Your character is what defines YOU. A Farmer and a doctor can have more in common than 2 doctors.
 
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