This attribute is the most underrated in a relationship and takes a while to find out...

[Chesirecatdaddy]

That's why Black men be so stroking and having heart attacks. We hold all that shyt in, no one to vent to. A lot of these women aint trying to hear it. I rarely vent, but I know I need to. We all do.

I agree, it just seems like sometimes black males have nobody to speak to. Can't always talk to all your friends about everything. Then some of us have shytty women that arent tryna hear shyt... I mean shyt... nada... they'll lose respect for you after you come to them with your problems more than once... and not even to solve the problem.. but just to vent... I guess that's why messageboards are so popular... u can vent anonymously

 

[Akata Man Bromo]

I totally feel where you're coming from OP trust me

 

[Action Jackson]

The way I was raised grown men handle their problems differently than woman.

 

[The 2020 New Member]

yeah i've had this happen. i had a chick get mad at me because i don't have a job and i'm on unemployment. i lost my job right after my mom died. i was taking steps to get back into school and i was trying to explain to her why i wasn't in a hurry to go back to work (school, grieving) and she wasn't hearing it. she pulled that 'just get over it' and then proceeded to talk about her job ad nauseum...as a waitress. that was last week. called the chick yesterday and her grandma passed away...and this shoulder was not there to cry on. fukking a$$hole.

 

[Stuntone]

Women vent all day, everyday to their homegirl. Man attempts to vent for a few minutes every 5 years and he's weak and a cry baby.

 

[NairobiFire]

This is absolutely true..It applies to friendships as well...I have got rid of few friends..

 

[Auger]

The way I was raised grown men handle their problems differently than woman.

Does it always work? and should it apply to everyone?
I would guess no on both accounts.

 

[OliviaTwist]

yeah i've had this happen. i had a chick get mad at me because i don't have a job and i'm on unemployment. i lost my job right after my mom died. i was taking steps to get back into school and i was trying to explain to her why i wasn't in a hurry to go back to work (school, grieving) and she wasn't hearing it. she pulled that 'just get over it' and then proceeded to talk about her job ad nauseum...as a waitress. that was last week. called the chick yesterday and her grandma passed away...and this shoulder was not there to cry on. fukking @sshole.

She told you to get over your mama dying brah?

 

[The 2020 New Member]

She told you to get over your mama dying brah?

yup. she even told me not to go to college because everyone that does is broke. she told me to wait tables instead.

i was like...i'll take these student loan debts and press my luck starting my own business, thank you very much. i can be a waiter with a degree, push come to shove. lmao..thinking about that whole convo she was wildin. she was trying to tell me i don't deserve my grants.

 

[OliviaTwist]

yup. she even told me not to go to college because everyone that does is broke. she told me to wait tables instead.

i was like...i'll take these student loan debts and press my luck starting my own business, thank you very much. i can be a waiter with a degree, push come to shove. lmao..thinking about that whole convo she was wildin. she was trying to tell me i don't deserve my grants.

The fukk?? So what the hell does she plan to do besides wait tables? I couldn't imagine being a dude dealing with selfish/ dumb ass females

 

[Theabbot]

They way they respond when you're going thru hard times. Not just possessing sympathy and empathy, but do they help sooth you and see you thru it? Do they listen and try to get a real good picture of what you're going thru? Do they try to help solve the issue? Or does she tell you it aint' that bad, or you should move on, so she can talk to you about work and shopping for hours?


Problem is, you can date a person for months and everybody is great and you not see this come. Someone is sick close to you and they act like it's nothing and can't put their pity grievances with you on hold.

Real talk breh. Perhaps the MOST underrated aspect of being in a relationship.

 

[The 2020 New Member]

The fukk?? So what the hell does she plan to do besides wait tables? I couldn't imagine being a dude dealing with selfish/ dumb ass females

yeah i don't know or particularly care. i live in vegas, tho. a service job is something a lot of people do for life.

Spoiler

and i'm dating more dudes now, so it's not all bad.

 

[Action Jackson]

Does it always work? and should it apply to everyone?
I would guess no on both accounts.

For me, it does work. I find other ways to cope with my problems then crying to loved ones.

But you may be right, it probably doesn't apply to everyone.