Shhhhhhh it's impossible not to be the man's fault
There are TWICE as many single men than women - Black men are impacted the hardest - Ages 18 - 29
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The other issue w/ a lot of dating discussions is, y'all give too much energy to people you aren't even compatible w/. They aren't even a viable choice.
"What about 4,5,6s with high standards? They not settling w/ me."
"All these women want 200$ dates?, what about my coffee date"
If you aren't trying to date these type of women, stop worry about what they doing and worry about if you are in a good place in general w/ your shyt. If I want people my life who value x,y,z and that shyt nonnegiotable, I ain't looking at someone who can't do x,y,z. They not my mind.
"What about 4,5,6s with high standards? They not settling w/ me.""All these women want 200$ dates?, what about my coffee date"If you aren't trying to date these type of women, stop worry about what they doing and worry about if you are in a good place in general w/ your shyt. If I want people my life who value x,y,z and that shyt nonnegiotable, I ain't looking at someone who can't do x,y,z. They not my mind.
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Average looking men can and often do treat women the same way. Especially if they feel the woman is not very attractive. Average men don’t always = good men. And good looking/successful men doesn’t always equal being a bad man and looking to “smut” a woman. Any man can have a good or questionable character, or be in a stage of life where they aren’t looking for a relationship but still string women along.
The thing is a lot of people settle just to say they have someone. A dude who is out here starving may have “standards”, but when push comes to shove they gonna take whatever they can get.
Let’s quit the bullshyt and just stick to probability men in general willingly except our level and settle for what is a lesser quality woman. It’s women who are hypergamous it’s just human nature. Women want men other women want it won’t change.
Men just want the best deal we can get and usually never leave the relationship. I hate to say it even if the man isn’t happy they will stay. It’s women who leave and rarely if ever does it work out for them.
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Scratch the surface of most women who move like this and you'll almost always find fukked up childhoods and unresolved trauma at the root.
Beggars can't be choosyThe other issue w/ a lot of dating discussions is, y'all give too much energy to people you aren't even compatible w/. They aren't even a viable choice.
If you aren't trying to date these type of women, stop worry about what they doing and worry about if you are in a good place in general w/ your shyt. If I want people my life who value x,y,z and that shyt nonnegiotable, I ain't looking at someone who can't do x,y,z. They not my mind.
Virtuous_Brotha
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The issue is the worryingly disproportionate amount of women with ridiculous standards that's why brehs are concerned since even simply going for other types of women is becoming unfeasible for some, it's reaching a point where even homely women are becoming unobtainable tbh. Dudes saying fuk it and going the passport bro route quite often better looking broads, less bs.The other issue w/ a lot of dating discussions is, y'all give too much energy to people you aren't even compatible w/. They aren't even a viable choice.
If you aren't trying to date these type of women, stop worry about what they doing and worry about if you are in a good place in general w/ your shyt. If I want people my life who value x,y,z and that shyt nonnegiotable, I ain't looking at someone who can't do x,y,z. They not my mind.
LMAO PLZ, Most women don't have high standards. Literally, just be intentional, aware, fun to be around. You will get somebody. The issue w/ some of your frustration:
- Overemphasis on focusing people that you can't compatiable w/ at all (explained before)
- Entitlement because I have XYZ, people should love me (This is the passport people)
- You just be dusty and you probably need to change.
Virtuous_Brotha
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Yet majority of men can't even get a right swipe on a dating app, stats don't lie
A lot of women got off dating apps when they realized it was full of grimy men just looking for sex. I believe many posters have also admitted to this on the Coli. Average looking women do not have Idris Alba’s and Michael B Jordan’s flooding their inboxes. But they do have lots of average men that are only looking for sex and to build their roster. A lot of what men are experiencing is an over correction from the Netflix and chill era. If a woman is only getting sex out of a “relationship” why not hold out until you feel like and have it on your terms. 
Women do not turn down average looking men who approach correctly and are worth their time. But they have gotten tired of receiving the literal short end of the stick; which is where this new “standards” wave comes from.
Women do not turn down average looking men who approach correctly and are worth their time. But they have gotten tired of receiving the literal short end of the stick; which is where this new “standards” wave comes from.
Virtuous_Brotha
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They still manage to swipe left on the majority of profiles they see, which says a lot.
The answer is simple. Just pay for the p*ssy so you can get what you actually wanted in the first place.
