Im genuinely curious - do you sincerely think the man with the bike was 100% wrong in his action? Had I been there watching this live, a part of me would have been thoroughly confused by what I saw - specifically the big man in gray beating down the guy with the bike first versus grabbing the woman first.
I learn a lot about men's mindsets on this site, and this take was a bit confusing. I understand the implications of what you have said, though. What accountability do you think the woman ought to have held in this encounter though?
It was impressed upon me repeatedly as a girl to never put my hands on boys. I bucked against this advice once in 7th grade and quickly found myself on the ground getting hit repeatedly by a male classmate until the teacher broke it up.
Prior to him jumping on me, he had told me to stop vexing him (I was kicking him under the desk to annoy him). I honestly didn't think he would do anything; looking back, I'm not sure as to why that was. Once it was over though, I was embarrassed and had only myself to blame. We both got suspended.
Perhaps he came from a home where his mama told him to keep his hand off of girls, just like I was from one where I was told not to hit boys. But what was he to do when I repeatedly kicked him despite him telling me to stop? How does that conflict with your parents telling you to defend yourself from any person who is hurting you as a child?
He could have told the teacher, and that probably could have ended it. This wasn't normally my way of acting either....I was just being a pest that particular day. I was disrespectful in ignoring him. I was even more so in assuming he would take it, too. Maybe I caught him on the wrong day. In any event, he didn't snap until I kept pushing him.
We were kids, but even then, I had someone telling me to keep my hands to myself, period, unless I was ready to fight. I was to keep my hands off males specifically because they are stronger and can do more damage. We had all seen boys fight as kids and know how they do. So, as a girl, some part of you already knows what could happen if a man turns those hands on you. And yet, if I'm honest, we might have still felt inclined to push because the same ladies who were telling me not to hit men were telling their sons not to hit girls. What about people telling their girls that boys should hold back altogether though?
It is a lot and it sounds confusing, but the gist of it is that most of us ladies know better. We nust do it anyway, relying on your tendency to show restraint because we have been told you should. Society backs us up, too. Some might bank more on you doing what you were told than them doing what they should themselves. Honestly though, people, period, ought not hit one another.. Anytime a woman or a man hits someone, there should be an expectation of violence in response.
I learned that day in middle school and I'm not hitting a man like that unless either mine or my kid's lives are on the line because it is wrong to assume a man wouldn't lay me out. Living in a world of suppositions could be dangerous; I now assume everyone - male or female - is going to aim to do their worse if attacked.
I don't know what the solution is. I don't advocate for women or men, period, squaring up over bullshyt. But there has to be a line. Having seen women square up with and assault my loved ones who are male, I can't say I'm inclined to agree to some extent. When men are taught to exercise restraint as boys, it is supposed to be tempered by ladies knowing they shouldn't be hitting men like that. So, when the random disrespectful outburst occurs, you can check it.
But when you have many ladies showing disrespect en masse, then what?
take
Dint ever let me see you in a fight thread or anything “violent”
