There's a lot of these themes throughout, even watching the first season, there's a lot of subversive, barely below the radar themes about resentment of the American dream, the feeling of being left behind in a changing world, that probably really really grabbed a lot of HBO watchers. A mediation on America and American values at the turn of the century. 40 year old white men who related to Tony's struggle of marriage, legacy, family. Lots of women would connect to Carm. Distant, less than faithful husband, making decisions about her life.
The Sopranos, is probably the greatest domestic drama show ever made, in addition to being about the Mob, it was always about family.
he violence and sex just get viewers more into the kind of fantasy, but deeply cathartic watch, as a lot of them probably really connected with Tony. Also, maybe the greatest performance of all time. Funny, sad, inspiring, pathetic, he did everything.