Hello!
For those that may not know, this comment was made during the Briscoes vs Second Gear Crew on Ring of Honor's Honor For All special last night.
I've known the Briscoes now for almost eight years which is around a quarter of my life and a quarter of theirs. In that time, Ring of Honor has had a few openly LGBTQ+ talent and a number that are not out. What is pretty neat about that is that the diversity of individuals has lead to education opportunities for others.
What I see with the Briscoes when the cameras aren't on are two guys who are really great professional wrestlers who FaceTime and call their kids, who are ready to show you their kids' latest milestone. They're excited to tell you about football and cheerleading, they want to show you what they're doing on the farm.
Where this converges is... we traveled together frequently and they knew I was a sex educator at NYU as a student there. They'd ask in earnest without prejudice and without snickering what terms related to gender and sexuality mean. For lack of a better classification, they were asking about some of the "newer" terms. I think of a time talking about seeing "cis" on Facebook and them asking simply when it came into the vernacular, what does it mean, did they use it the right way, etc. I know this is public and I don't want to speak for them too much but their genuine curiosity and willingness to listen and learn was pretty cool.
They never asked "who" the terms might apply to but were happy to know what they meant.
You may ask "if you've known them for almost eight years, why now?" Well, their match with EFFY was important to me. EFFY is a torch-bearer for LGBTQ+ wrestlers and inclusion. I had to know how far I could go with acknowledging everything as I thought that helped tell the best story for everyone. Everyone involved said go for it. Not only are Jay and Mark God-fearing men (which to me, becomes even more important as everyone learns more), but it was important for me to demonstrate on commentary "Yeah. EFFY whoops ass," and also navigate the thought that the Briscoes were also ass kickers without taking it back to something from the year 2000.
You can only judge a person by the actions and words. I used to see them around 50 times a year when we were really rolling with live events. Selfishly, I would have a lot to lose if I made these statements if they really weren't who I am portraying them to be.
To clarify a comment below, I identify as a cis, straight man. But I am active in Allentown as an ally. I have a lot of reasons for trying to be the best ally I can be. My high school English teacher and musical director is a big one as is the man I took to Senior prom who is one of the biggest reasons I have even a little bit of understanding of the challenges Trans folks face. Another big one is Cary who smiled and snickered on our podcast when he said he identified as "pan-sexual" but has also publicly self-identified as gay and bi. I want to have difficult conversations with folks to challenge their assumptions in support of my friends.
The conversations I've had with Jay and Mark are not difficult. They're already there. They're already supportive.
To get back to the "why now?", this match was important to me and the best opportunity ever to acknowledge it. People would like to "see proof" that they've changed and to a degree, I get that. Jay and Mark aren't on Twitter much and mostly post family photos on their Instagram so really you only ever see what is presented to you. But I know that they love and care for everyone. I know they've gone to bat for LGBTQ+ talent. And I understand why folks might snicker at this but they're my friends and I have seen only good. We're closing the book on this era of ROH.
Someone asked why they haven't advocated and I also get this. I will also share my experiences as a cis straight male: it's difficult to know where to start and it can be a struggle to find outlets. It comes down to being a good person and walking the walk. I can vouch for them in the windows I have.
And please, please, please:
1.) Continue to challenge beliefs 2.) Continue to be skeptical
But by doing that, please:
3.) Believe people can change 4.) Help them get new information 5.) Introduce them to new experiences 6.) Know that progress isn't linear
That will going a long way to help wrestling as fans keep the bad guys out and keep the genuine good guys who have a misstep in.