The OFFICIAL Red Flags When Dating Men Thread

[Ms.CuriousCat]

What are some of the red flags women should watch out for?

1. Overly concerned about what you wear and tries to influence this

2. Ducktales to make himself look a certain way

3. Telling you what he thinks you want to hear and not having a real conversation

4. Doesn't include you in the big decisions

5. His actions don't match his words

 

[ColdCutKing]

Hopeless romantic type nikkas that write poems and are obsessed with grandiose love and other fairy tale bullshyt.
Disconnected from reality probably has mental problems etc. hard to get rid of.

 

[King of Creampies]

In!

Let the fukkery begin!

 

[TELL ME YA CHEESIN FAM?]

Mods move this shyt to the Hen's House

 

[Ms.CuriousCat]

Mods move this shyt to the Hen's House

Feels a sense of entitlement to TLR, the remote or anything that is supposed to be shared

 

[InDePickWest]

-Believes women should live their lives to please men

-Mom was a whore (they usually grow up thinking this applies to every woman)

-Too quick to sex (if he doesn't value himself by waiting for you don't value him by giving him your coochie)

-Is ok living off women (in this case he may have chemical imbalances because men are wired to provide). RED FLAG. He's probably very emotional and tries to mask it with acting tough

-Thinks hygiene is for women

-Doesn't see the point in two parent households for children

-Thinks time spent equals sex owed

-Is ok with bum woman as long as she's putting out




Some of these were told to me by my own dad. Mostly about the working part but he told me about promiscuous males too

 

[Prynce]

Move this to the salon

@Barnett114 @Rarely-Wrong Liggins

 

[Colicat]

Inconsistent availability

Answers his phone/ texts immediately while with you but your texts/calls go unanswered for hours


You: Where are we headed?
Him: Let's take it slow *tries any and every maneuver to gtd*

Sagging Skinny jeans

Luxury car, hood spot

Lives with his mother/parents

Can't hold down a job

Has no retirement plans

Thinks that manhood starts and ends in his pants

Comfortable seeing you struggle

Doesn't look to protect your best interest

 

[MyApps]

 

[Colicat]

And it was moved to the salon

Hates to see a woman shine

Always cynical/sarcastic and believes cynicism/sarcasm makes them witty

Wears timberlands/ Jordan's as a fashion staple

Holds traditional gender values but can't fulfill traditional male roles

6 figures, 6 certs, 6 women

Has paid for sex

Can name porn stars

 

[Ms.CuriousCat]

Doesn't know what he wants out of life beyond the now

Repeats the last few words of what you just said on a regular basis (he's not listening or he's trying to come across as agreeable )

 

[King Musa]

- When you ask about his celebrity crushes and he's naming all them White broads in the industry....No, but, seriously, ask some brehs ya'll dealing with about this and see if they name dropping the Scarlett Johansson or the Nia Longs of the world.....It may seem petty right now, but, it'll essentially tell you all you need to know. But, in general avoid dude's who show unrelinquished admiration and affinity to Non-Black women...On a sub conscious level he likely resents you for not being what he truly desires...A Non-black woman...So, you're more likely to be subjected to physical, emotional and, verbal abuse due to this fact....

- He has a constant need to point out any little fault in what you do....Even the little things. "Why you always wearing open blouses all the damn time in public, woman?"

- He cares way too much about shyt women usually only care about....."But, but, your weave...But but, why you wearing that deep red lip gloss with them high top stilettos? You looking like a hoe right now, love.."

 

[Krazy K]

-Believes women should live their lives to please men

-Mom was a whore (they usually grow up thinking this applies to every woman)

-Too quick to sex (if he doesn't value himself by waiting for you don't value him by giving him your coochie)

-Is ok living off women (in this case he may have chemical imbalances because men are wired to provide). RED FLAG. He's probably very emotional and tries to mask it with acting tough

-Thinks hygiene is for women

-Doesn't see the point in two parent households for children

-Thinks time spent equals sex owed

-Is ok with bum woman as long as she's putting out




Some of these were told to me by my own dad. Mostly about the working part but he told me about promiscuous males too

And it was moved to the salon

Hates to see a woman shine

Always cynical/sarcastic and believes cynicism/sarcasm makes them witty

Wears timberlands/ Jordan's as a fashion staple

Holds traditional gender values but can't fulfill traditional male roles

6 figures, 6 certs, 6 women

Has paid for sex

Can name porn stars

 

[Barnett114]

What are some of the red flags women should watch out for?

1. Overly concerned about what you wear and tries to influence this

2. Ducktales to make himself look a certain way

3. Telling you what he thinks you want to hear and not having a real conversation

4. Doesn't include you in the big decisions

5. His actions don't match his words

You didn't have to neg me

 

[Ms.CuriousCat]

If you have a disagreement and he gives you the silent treatment