This girl a cotdamn liar lol. I'm texting her right now saying that the reality behind dating is that a person typically has to be physically attracted to someone before they start actually talking to one another which leads to picking each other's minds to gauge who they are on a interpersonal, professional, religious, etc. level; at that point compatibility and comes into play and you can essentially determine if you are still interested and if so, in what capacity.
She read ALL of that and her takeaway is "Oh, so you're telling me that if I was unattractive to you, you wouldn't even bother talking to me?" I said yes () but also added the fact that I got to know her and she's definitely an intriguing person with whom I am interested in getting to know further.
I also said that if she didn't find me attractive and/or if I was like 50 lbs heavier with fat and 6 inches shorter she wouldn't have been interested in me...she said "Uh, no I would still like you"
She may be right. Other things can compensate for looks. Looks grab attention but it doesn't keep attention.
That's why some ppl can fall in love via online (without even seeing the person).
Just like if you are attractive, if you come across mean/disagreeable/loose etc, ppl won't find you as attractive and may even find you ugly.
Attraction has layers.