My confession #2
No human relationship should drain you. We live in a transactional society where people expect to entertain you. Happiness is a inside job, by focusing on the inner, we remove the sorrow of inadequacy.
My experience with friendships:
The best male friendships are those with a code of brotherhood, trust, respect and value. Looking out for their brother and helping others reach their pinnacle.
The problem is we live in a society where most males see each other as competition and one-up egoism. Plus a lot of songs have that "fukk that nikka" mantra, dehumanizing the fellow man. The "shyt on him so he don't shyt on me" mentality - this promotes insecurity and toxic aggression. There's also exceptions, like those with charismatic cool character. Their presence is captivating off the strength off their likeability.
This is why I now prefer the company of women.
With women, men just don't have to put a "front" to impress them. We just attract with our masculine energy, charisma and persona.
Women are about expression. Notice why women look for artists, musicians, poets, dancers, writers, etc. It's the emotion that gets them in the motion. Plus we can flirt with them, kiss them, be physically affectionate, regardless of metoo, women love that shyt. Alas, we have to do better as a species.