What???
That's just what happens when you don't have the right words to express your ideas.
No woman respects a doormat.
How can you look to a man for strength, security, & protection when you feel like you're stronger than he is?
That's why men need to be assertive, proactive, resolute, decisive & independent.
What confuses some guys is that a$$hole men tend to be independent characters and that makes them stand out. That and they can be very assertive, at least with the women they deal with.
These traits naturally attract women despite the negatives of being an a$$hole.
Other guys see this & mistakenly believe it's being an a$$hole that gets girls or at the very least "not respecting them"