When I said "typed a police report describing Bigfoot", I'm saying that the shìt I want to see change is mythology. It's not happening.
To me this is an inversion of that same energy your peers will tell someone my age (31) regarding the nostalgia y'all have over phenomena from the mid 80s-2000. "You weren't alive/a baby, you had to be there." Yeah you're technically "here" but you're not in the thick of it at this point. A 45-50 y/o man is past the angst of missing or making particular dating/social benchmarks.
I've never heard/seen NAWALT as an acronym until now and had to look it up lol. Not sure I'd call Looksmaxing a cope as it's an active path of improvement, though it gets extreme.
The bolded is more or less where I'm at. If this is your way of pushing back and trying to say "you don't try/date enough", your be correct, because I don't feel I need to. I'm in an extremely small minority but I believe that personal experience can be and purposely gets overrated in order to herd the sheep to the median.
If you can observe a strong enough pattern or school of thought within six degrees or separation, and match that pattern/philosophy to groups in different regions expressing or dealing with the same thing, you should have enough of a simulation to understand how you think you need to move in your time and place. I don't believe I need a dozen exes to say I'm "right or wrong".
I work a blue collar job with long hours. 13-15 hours a day, we get breaks but immediate traffic discourages you from leaving so you're locked in twice as long as the average person. Is not solidified but that's supposedly going to change soon. The hours will still be odd but not quite as it is currently.
3 years there. Year 1 I entered 6 figures for the first time in life at 28/29 because of COVID backlog. Year 2 & 3 I didn't, which is the norm due to seniority or a lack thereof, but moving forward I'll have to be sick or injured for a good deal of the year to miss 100K again.
Casual dress so "I love a man in uniform" shìt while running errands doesn't work.
I'm in the gym. Pretty much have to adapt my sessions to hit everything due to work. Sometimes traffic is okay enough for a group of us get to a nearby gym to work a particular muscle group for about an hour, but mostly I grind solo, full body work 3x a week. If the schedule changes as anticipated, I will try to shift to an Upper/Lower/Upper/Lower split, but I may not get to because...
A more open schedule allows me to commit to finally getting into boxing/Muy Thai/eventually some kind of grappling. That in itself is a workout so 4 lifting sessions a week may be too much. I'd also like to return to music and story writing.
The regimen I just described places a priority on athletic clothing and not fashion. I can't justify spending what's necessary for a grown man to "look good", and frankly my parents probably warped my threshold of what expensive is or isn't.
I also am not with the barber every week or every other week. I was taught every other week but I originally would forgo it for creative sacrifice of vanity while recording music. As I got older I came into a sense that our fixation on perfect harlines and a low cut is a bit of programming. I also believe that black men don't let their natural hairlines breathe and this eventually lose it.
2020 Honda Passport bought in 2022. Likely keeping it till it no longer runs or I can upgrade/modernize for next to nothing. I eventually want a luxury vehicle but that's over a decade ahead and it still be a weekend you not a daily driver. Behold another chance blown to demonstrate my income.
I live at home and my grandmother cannot take care of herself so she's here also. Outside of extreme or emergency circumstances, I'm not renting because I realized I don't purchase within the window of this decade, I will be priced out of owning. A decent house in a decent area isn't less than half a mil here. So until my climb up the pay scale ladder starts, and I have better control of my hours to ensure I'm getting the same baseline income every week and therefore every month, I'll be here.
All in all, I'm looking forward towards my hobbies, physique/health, and building my own foundation instead of having to shack up with someone just to say I left the nest, which a lot of men/people do. Physique is the most superficial thing here.
My progression is largely insular and left of a proverbial center that would put me in front of women. Oh well.
Maybe one day my body will get to the point where 3PT shots become short jumpers and layups become two-handed dunks based on vibes and attraction. Maybe not. I still gotta be healthy and strong regardless.
Maybe one day a mixtape of mine might make some noise, or a story i pen gets developed. Most likely not. I still gotta express.
Just about any man can work to "have" a woman, myself included. But how much work and how worthy is the reward is the question most men in prime dating market age asking. A generation of women who have been cultivated and enabled to be extra hypocritical about what they should bring into a partnership ain't it.
The sighting of Young Chop Anonymous with Great Value Brittany Renner at the movies/restaurant is a popular dismissal tactic here but it's unknown what dude has to deal with to be sighted with her. What the financial weight is. The emotional weight is. If he's actually enjoying that body regularly or just enough to get a baby and keep him around as the workhouse. It's always assumed he mouthpieced/late night talk show hosted his way in.
Most of what I'm talking about applies to American women at large but white and black women the most and with our women there are cultural and historic details that amplify the worst of the two genders not being on the same page, with our female half trying to standardize things that never applied and are currently realistic, while broadcasting that the supplemental functions needed on their end are controlling/misogynistic/outdated.
I understand the value of a great partnership but I'm past the phase of my 20s where not having immediate/superficial success getting women is baffling or stressing me. And I understand that my unwillingness to enter a legal marriage in this world as is makes me a time waster for 99.9% of women. If I did meet someone, they'd be privy to this information early on.
But dying alone doesn't scare me the way it does others because I've been forged at that way for most of 3 decades already.
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