Stop Putting Energy Into Women Brehs....

[Roid Jones]

Because a lot of people, both men and women, lie to them and tell them to put women first or at the center of their lives or at the very least lies to them about what women want. That and we live in a society that uses women and such as currency. There is a reason why "virgin" or "incel" are insults aimed at men mainly.

I agree with OP though. Women should be very very secondary in a man's life.

I agree with all of that, but how does it get fixed? what practical steps should men take? etc etc I see no point in the rehashing of tired threads, people appear to know what a problem is but offer no solutions.

 

[Neo. The Only. The One.]

Women themselves don't like when you put them on a pedestal

They should always be 3rd on your list of importance

1. Your Goals
2. Your Interests/Hobbies
3. Women

I agree except God comes first

 

[The War Report]

Putting energy into women is the worst thing you can do. Invest that energy into yourself.

 

[AquaCityBoy]

@Magic Mulatto why do you feel that women owe you something

 

[AAKing23]

From my experience and learning from others, it's always best to be non chalant with women. Considering women have multiple options, ain't no point in hyping yourself up. Dudes hopes be hella high. Dudes be happy as hell talking about the first date went well, next thing they know, ole girl is ghost.

Automatically assume the woman don't want you and got other interests. Until she suck yo dikk, no point in putting in so much effort and energy.

Rep worthy post

 

[MicIsGod]

Women themselves don't like when you put them on a pedestal

They should always be 3rd on your list of importance

1. Your Goals
2. Your Interests/Hobbies
3. Women

Where is GOD in this brother

 

[The God Poster]

I just miss my bytch man, I don’t want anybody else. It hasn’t even been a week yet

But this thread is exactly what the doctor ordered up for me.

Church.

Man up she was ready to move on. Any breh who actually been with a woman off line been thru it. Can’t force nobody to want you.

Hit the gym, bar something. You’ll be cool

Men should always care about these things before a chick

Their health
Money
Hapiness


If a chick can’t give you the last one don’t even bother, might as well just live the bachelor life until you find the one.

People should care about those things.

That’s one of the reasons a lot of y’all can’t have simple convos with women.

Men & Women make things more complicated than it needs to be

 

[High Art]

I agree with all of that, but how does it get fixed? what practical steps should men take? etc etc I see no point in the rehashing of tired threads, people appear to know what a problem is but offer no solutions.

I do think the way OP's point is put out there helps. There has to be a general acknowledgement that many men have either been lied to or picked up the wrong message. The problem with that is, such does veer into the "redpill" territory a little bit. Men have to be unafraid to give advice, no matter how odd it sounds, if it is correct to each other. That said, threads like this are useful. I think also, have more 'men only' spaces to comment on things like this would help. It would stop a lot of the online simping that sometimes occurs in these discussions as well.

 

[BK The Great]

Man up she was ready to move on. Any breh who actually been with a woman off line been thru it. Can’t force nobody to want you.

Hit the gym, bar something. You’ll be cool

People should care about those things.

That’s one of the reasons a lot of y’all can’t have simple convos with women.

Men & Women make things more complicated than it needs to be

I’ve had plenty of simple convos with women, it’s when things get really deep that it can get complicated.

 

[Magic Mulatto]

@Magic Mulatto why do you feel that women owe you something

If I have put in the work to become a high-value and/or generally attractive man, then I feel like the women that I give my time and energy to could, at the very least, show me some degree of acknowledgment, respect and/or honest consideration…


I would have no problem expressing those sentiments to and accommodating a high-value woman who possesses commendable characteristics and carries herself accordingly…


But that’s just me tho…

 

[The God Poster]

I’ve had plenty of simple convos with women, it’s when things get really deep that it can get complicated.

And it shouldn’t

Honesty & Accountability go a long way.

 

[The God Poster]

If I have put in the work to become a high-value and/or generally attractive man, then I feel like the women that I give my time and energy to could, at the very least, show me some degree of acknowledgment, respect and/or honest consideration…


I would have no problem expressing those sentiments to and accommodating a high-value woman who possesses commendable characteristics and carries herself accordingly…


But that’s just me tho…

What makes you a high value man?

 

[BK The Great]

And it shouldn’t

Honesty & Accountability go a long way.

True but the energy needs to match, otherwise it won’t work out. That’s why most aren’t trying to get into serious relationships anymore. Once something seems off I wouldn’t want to be involved with it.

 

[ItsPeople]

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im no pimp...im no player....i have 2 failed marriages to my resume....but i also have no problem getting female company when i have time....i honestly have too much going on....im busy with my life

Please sensei can we get an abbreviated version

 

[Magic Mulatto]

What makes you a high value man?

I am not one but an HVM has to check off a whole laundry list of admirable and rare traits and accomplishments…