assuming they are truly nerdy and not just into the occasional quirky activity/hobby
Hold up stop right there. You just dropped the most important gem on the topic.
Black culture now more than ever is monolithic af. A museum? Everybody got IG and Eventbrite, that dont make her nerdy. They throw parties at musuems now
A STEM convention, or say Comic-Con, very niche things and THAT is a nerd, when it’s a lifestyle. But that’s not just choosing someone bc you want a nerd. Y’all gotta actually mesh. Wtf you gon do with a comic-con full costume nerd if you yourself ain’t one?
It’s takes a very honest look in the mirror with this question: are you in the black monolith. More than likely you are, which means more than likely your dating pool is in it too. Them nerds ain’t for you bruh