Ronnie Lott
#49erGang
this whole thread is 
. I can tell that many dudes didnt have strong male figures growing up in life. 
. I can tell that many dudes didnt have strong male figures growing up in life. 
Sometimes I feel like I'll never have sex again...
- Thread starter *L*E*G*A*C*Y*
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this whole thread is
How can you control on where you were born or what people raised you?
We shouldn't tear one another down, because that is something that society wants us to do. We gotta be better than that.
Ronnie Lott
#49erGang
How can you control on where you were born or what people raised you?
im not bashin anybody. Its just sad to see grown men that have a defeated and losers mentality. I know so many cats that are "ugly", short, dark, light, etc, but they still have the ability to go out and get bytches. If dudes think low of themselves, how can they expect for women to look highly of them
Sometimes, you have no idea where people have been mentally speaking; regardless, we gotta strive to do better and help him out step by step
Brandeezy
Superstar
Damn bruh. There's no reason not to at least have friends. Hang out with some coworkers, ex-classmates, something.
http://www.meetup.com/
My coworkers are either too old or too young (Like High Schoolers) and i don't have any ex-classmates
nikka stop lyin
I'm not
Ronnie Lott
#49erGang
i feel that but the op is speaking out of anger and frustration and he said himself that he doesnt even want advice.
BTW, I'm not ugly. That's the thing that gets to me about this...
F*ck it...shirtless gym pic in spoiler...
I just think this mentality has just come from years of mental abuse and constant rejection...
Look how hard I gotta work just to have a woman say hi to me...
Why do I gotta work so hard to do things that require no work for other people?
That's a lie nikka that ain't you.
You're a handsome dude, no homo. Stay in the gym.
*L*E*G*A*C*Y*
Done.
There's been much progress made since then...
Cliff notes:
- I admitted that the OP was a front I made as a defense mechanism to pretend I didn't care when I actually did. (and like you said, it was made out of anger and frustration)
- I admitted that I get nervous with women I really like and I didn't have as much confidence as I would of liked to have.
you might just be a late bloomer, I was too. Once, shy as hell to talk to girls, now I'm juggling numbers. hang in there. But you might just be antisocial. Probably could make things happen if you really wanted to put the effort in.
This isn't the movies breh, everybody is not gonna project the perfect image with swag and confidence all the damn time. I say keep it simple and at least try to be in a good mood when you step out to mingle and socialize. And I do agree with you that you should have a nice fit on when stepping out. But everybody's confidence goes up and down even with the best of 'em. Bullsh*t at your job can have you feelin' down which can lower your confidence. Bills, car troubles, family drama, sickness, etc can f*ck with your confidence at any given moment. That super confident with ya chest out for the 9-5 guy isn't the everyday norm, those are your good days. And if you're a black man we have a smaller window than other races who can get away with all kinds of sh*t that we can't get away with. White dudes are "in-between jobs" but black dudes are unemployedlog off breh, log off of the internet, not just thecoli. I don't even think you try is the problem. I don't think you and the OP have the same issue but you just need to get out and log off. Damn, what type of life are you living breh
They aren't talking to a girl, they are talking to the OP. You really think they would say this loudly to get some play
Breh, he doesn't have a market.
While he's an educated decent looking man, he greatly lacks confidence but he is proud person as well.
Since he is lacks confidence that will kill a lot of chances for him. Confidence isn't just important to get play but it's important within a relationship as well. If you can't give your spouse or partner assurance then they are walking into a potential housefire.
The only types of women who like men who lack confidence are those who like lame soft men with no confidence so they could walk all over them and play by their own rules. Since the OP is a proud man, it's extremely unlikely they will be able to walk over him and they can tell from the jump it won't work. So that leaves him with no market. Now if he had some bank, he could get a golddigger but he has the opposite of bank so no golddiggers will even look his direction.
So what he needs to do is create a market. He couldgood and get married to the educated Christian women crowd. Those are high on morals, don't require as much swag, but like most markets, the men need to be confident to apply.
The educated activity based ladies is a good market as well. They tend to like White men but most really want a Black men who can qualify. They are more worldly based and have had multiple partners but they generally aren't whores and they enjoy their activities like going to meetups, Pilates, movies, the gym, Barnes & Nobles, etc.
For his background and morals, those are his two best fields. Both require confidence but they don't require as much swag which the OP lacks as well but that's hard to attain than confidence.
Clothes matters- Dress nice and look good. It doesn't need to be the latest and greatest and if you get women you don't need this but the OP needs any edge he can get.
Stay involved- Get in clubs, meetups, get friends, you are in Brooklyn of all places, this is one of the last places you should have this issue.
Work on yourself daily- Books, Reading the Bible, the gym, the right foods, etc
Balance your time- This isn't a must for anyone but it's better if you do.
-I say be in good spirits when out and gettin' your mack on. Broads already know if they feelin' you or not in most cases. And on top of that most of these broads out here ain't confident for sh*t they damn selves. I done met bad educated b*tches and I'm like(to myself) "This broad got it crackin', she's livin' that lifestyle". Strip away a few layers-come to find out she's broke as f*ck, student loans, behind on her rent/mortgage, goin' through it with her family, license suspended, $2000 in unpaid parking tickets, etc etc etc... So go ahead and be confident- but keep that sh*t to a minimum. Don't stress that sh*t
Man this guy has balls. He said all that shyt about pretty much being a social failure but he still posts up a full face pic of himself. I wouldn't dare do such a thing because I've no idea who is really behind these screen names and who is lurking. 
@*F*U*N*E*R*A*L*
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Brandeezy
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