Why is the onus on the women to leave and not the men to stop abusing them?
Have you ever considered a man dangerous enough to beat a woman, may chase after said woman and do her further harm if she leaves?
Because by staying, the abuser continues to weild power over his victim. That empowers them. Without stripping the abuser of that power, the abuser is not likely to stop or even get help.
Abuse isn't necessarily always physical and it definitely doesn't begin that way. It starts mentally, verbally, and even spiritually. By the time, the abuser puts hands on the victim, they've already given the abuser enough power to know that they've accepted this behavior.
And this goes for any relationship. People only go as far as far with you as you permit them. Once you've established how you allow people to deal with you, they will follow until you either establish or re-establish how you deal with them.
That is not saying the victim is wrong, but staying in a toxic relationship isn't safe because the abuser could still kill you if you stay.
@ puff bouncing back
) and he was talking about Biggie fukking some girl while sitting on the toilet and they broke it.... was that an early Puff freak off party? 
