Steve Piffler
I got them CERTS
our lease is up in January and we gotta be gone before Feb. 1st. i already got my accommodations together, deposit paid, furniture ordered. i told her that she will need to get on her shyt so that her and the boys can have an easy transition. i also told her that i'd help her in any way that she needed me to so that it can be easy for everyone. she calls me today and tells me that she can't find any apartments or townhomes with 3 bedrooms that she could afford in our current area (she wants to stay there so the kids don't have to change schools). i suggest to her that if she can't find anything that she could afford, that I would stay in the area also, let my son stay with me and he could go back and stay with her when she gets her money up so she could get a bigger place. this is pretty much how it went:
her:
nikka you crazy! i ain't splitting up the boys! he ain't going nowhere!
me:
(cause her tone caught me COMPLETELY off guard) first of all, DON'T TALK TO ME LIKE THAT!!!! don't address me like i have no right to be concerned about my childs well being! i never said that i wanted to split up the boys. all i'm saying is that worst case scenario, if you can't find an affordable spot right now, he can live with me until you can. after you get a better place, he can go back with you.
her: whatever!
you just wanna take him from me and i'm going to let you do that!
me:
what do you mean LET?!! stop acting like i'm not just as much his parent as you are. i been living under the same roof with him and taking care of him since day 1, just like you. if any decisions are gonna be made about our son, it will be by US. you being his mother does not give you the right to automatically have more rights than me by default. and besides, i never said that i would take him from you permanently. it's just an option if you can't find a place. why are you acting like this? 
her: i'm his mother, and he needs to be with me.
me:
I'M HIS FATHER! he needs me too!!! what makes you think that he doesn't need me just as much???!!!
her: *hangs up telephone*
me:
WHAT THE fukk???!!!! i certainly didn't see that coming!
Ladies, what's your take on this? Fellas, i already know your take on this...
her:
nikka you crazy! i ain't splitting up the boys! he ain't going nowhere!me:
(cause her tone caught me COMPLETELY off guard) first of all, DON'T TALK TO ME LIKE THAT!!!! don't address me like i have no right to be concerned about my childs well being! i never said that i wanted to split up the boys. all i'm saying is that worst case scenario, if you can't find an affordable spot right now, he can live with me until you can. after you get a better place, he can go back with you. her: whatever!
you just wanna take him from me and i'm going to let you do that!me:
what do you mean LET?!! stop acting like i'm not just as much his parent as you are. i been living under the same roof with him and taking care of him since day 1, just like you. if any decisions are gonna be made about our son, it will be by US. you being his mother does not give you the right to automatically have more rights than me by default. and besides, i never said that i would take him from you permanently. it's just an option if you can't find a place. why are you acting like this? her: i'm his mother, and he needs to be with me.
me:
I'M HIS FATHER! he needs me too!!! what makes you think that he doesn't need me just as much???!!!her: *hangs up telephone*
me:
WHAT THE fukk???!!!! i certainly didn't see that coming!
Ladies, what's your take on this? Fellas, i already know your take on this...
