So I asked a guy out...

[mcdivit85]

I agree with what you said but you completely ignored the last part of what I said. I didn't say I don't believe in balance. I do but money is not the only way to have balance. I use to have an ex who would always pay when we went out and cook for me. In return, I would always come to see him and he lived 25 minutes away. He was very happy with that.

I don't believe in breaking bread when the majority of men are just out here trying to add notches on there belt. Nah. If he wants to do the free date thing that's cool but asking to go dutch when you are the initiator will never happen. I pay woman out here aren't doing that. There are too many men out here who want to treat you well to be messing with a dude trying to nickel and dime you.

I wouldn't consider that example of your ex being balance. If he was paying for every(or vast majority) date AND cooking for you, then you are receiving output from that association with that man. All you had to do was drive less than a half hour and he was happy. That is not balance. He may have been happy with that for a myriad of reasons, but based on your statement, he was not receiving equitable input for his output.

I mean, that was your dude....why wouldn't you go see him as much as you could?

And to alleviate any needless typing, things that are standard and appealing to both parties are not considered output: sex, time together, loyalty, etc. Those are pre-requisities and go without saying. Nor should they be used as a measuring stick for who does what. The essence of that is a trick-ho relationship, which I assume wasn't the case between you and someone you consider an "ex."

Balance could've been he paid for dates and cooked while you made sure his spot was always clean and his clothes always smelled like Tide and Bounce. Or some other variation as long as he was receiving equitable input from your output. Mind you, I'm responding based on your statement and nothing else.

I can understand the nickel and dime statement, but expecting a working woman, who also espouses the ideals of feminism if I'm not mistaken, to contribute financially at some point is not nickle and dime. That's called "walk your talk." I have no issue with chivalry when its deserved and I have no problem with traditionalism....but any man that allows a woman to have it both ways is doing a disservice to himself and even the woman.

There are many men who want to treat women well. Its just some dudes expect the same treatment in return....no getting over, just quid pro quo.

Peace

 

[↓R↑LYB]

13 pages of replies from dudes on this hoes dating situation.
I'll chalk it up to absent fathers. You little miss muffet fakkits never stood a chance.

I'll just go ahead and quote the good brother @Kunta

stop giving these whores audience

 

[LordTaskForce]

y'all know this is **** right?

 

[lightskinjezebel]

I am a open-minded person generally but for some reason I notice women who tend to take on professions like stripping or escorting tend to have a very masculine (assertive, aggressive, dominate) energy to them.

 

[Kalik]

Didn't read previous story... read the OP on this one.

Dude is known as the A8 guy and people wonder why nikkas be getting certain cars. That's how they remember you.

 

[Chesirecatdaddy]

14 pages?

 

[Turbulent]

The game is real brehs

Dudes talking sh#t in this thread but still trying to get at the chick on the PM tho....based on only two body pics...that thirst be real tho

I actually applaud this chick. Why? Because at least she's real about her intentions and what she is.

If dude accepts her "you pay for my time" contract, then that's what it is. No use in hating on her because there's more than a few women who think the same way. And there's more than a few dudes who go for it. Usually because the chick looks good or has the type of body dudes dap on Internet forums...yea I'm talking to Le Coli dudes right now.

Social interactions are mostly who accepts what from who. So, if a dude accepts what she's kickin, then that's on that dude. Because there's going to be other dudes that would tell her to kick rocks. And she would have to accept that or break bread.

I know plenty of chicks who think the same way, and they know not come at me even if they know I have my own. Because they know I believe in quid pro quo, which means "one hands washes the other." You not helping me come up, then I can't help you come up...that simple. No need for mud slinging on either side and we can still be cordial when passing by.

Solution: Don't be that dude

Peace

P.S. Why are dudes on Le Coli so caught up with this? I thought most of the dudes on here live at home with mom on some "its hard out here" sh#t or "there's no shame in staying home" sh#t. Its funny to me how dudes who can't even handle an apartment are worried about some chick trying to get in their pockets.

this is my philosophy as well. there is no "should". it's not about "the man should pay" or "people should go dutch" or "both should alternate". it's about who accepts what. I just get annoyed when people (mainly women) try to justify why men should pay based on BS criteria of chivalry or tradition. Or when they try to shame people into accepting their way. Just keep it real and say that's how you prefer things and that's it. I'm not the one but i can respect that.

there is no "should".

 

[Jayson_bourn]

A8 as in that's what he drives? I'm certain that the fact that you mentioned what he drives in the second sentence of your story carries a long list of implications...

With that said, good luck on the date.

 

[92Inc]

if your a female you get a 14 page thread about nothing

 

[USSInsiders]

She post a dry ass story about her approaching a guy and her thread gets 115 replies

wow

sliiiiiiimmmeee

 

[1thouwow]

add me on twitter brehs

 

[Vilified not verified]

So this ain't **** your talking to? I mean anyone can take pics of their friends facebook crop the head off and say its them but uou all seem convinced your talking to the real deal. What did I miss?

 

[Vilified not verified]

All you nikkas is basically drake's sons

 

[Blackking]

I don't plan on having sex with him anytime soon and he doesn't seem pressed about.

this is kinda fukked up... seems like he earned it by now, especially considering your a woman that gets naked in front of strangers.

 

[MooseMouthMthafuga]

yo brehs, to keep it all the way a 1000 with yall, i can honestly say that 80-90% of all strippers have turned a trick/sold that thang on the side for the right price and the right client. Im not sayin that the OP is sellin ass on the side tho.

But trust me, no bullshyt, i have bagged my fair share of strippers/get it girls and i even have a few homegirls who strip. And they have ALL told me the same thing. Theres gonna be a trick thats gonna offer the right price that they cant refuse

Strippers, prostitutes, and porn all fall under the same umbrella.

It's almost a progression like freshmen, sophomore, and junior.Senior is when you graduate to the next level and snatch up a baller.


Chicks who just strip, but don't get involved with the other two(prostitution, porn) are rare as fukk.Anomalies

As you say, eventually, somebody's going to make them a offer that can't refuse.Next thing you know, she's accepting bids on her pink parts.