I knew a sista that was married to a white man who appeared to be an all-around cool dude. She often disclosed to me how he would get whenever he consumed a few drinks. Apparently he'd be filled with not so nice things to say about blacks or herself. When I asked why she allowed this, she said "he isn't really like this, that's just the alcohol". That was but one of many excuses she made for dude. It was almost like he had her under some mind control or something. I always thought of her as someone who was outspoken, strong, cool, and would never allow someone to openly degrade her or her people. I was way off.