Hey ladies! Need some advice from my brehettes.
So, since I finished up my LLB, I've been training at a law firm, it doesn't pay the best, so I kept a second job that pays pretty well, part time. Both jobs are demanding, and require a lot of focus, I barely have any free time. I'm currently saving for my L.E.C. so I don't want to drop one of the jobs. I hired a babysitter to stay with my son during the week, five days a week. She's off on Sunday and whatever day she chooses in the week. She'll tell me the week before if she has anything going on, and we work around her schedule.
I make sure my son and I have breakfast together every morning and dinner together at least three times a week. I work late maybe 3-4 nights a week. Sunday is our day, where he choose what he wants to do. I left work early last week and took him to see Justice League and gave her the afternoon off. Side step: Do any of you busy Moms have any advice on how to cramp more time with your kids into a hectic ass schedule?
ANYWAY, the issue! Her daughter is pregnant, five months along. She's 19. Whenever I come home, her daughter is usually at my place. That's fine, I don't care. I have explained at length to the babysitter that I give her the option to choose her day off the week before, because my schedule is super strict. I also work in a firm that's basically all men, and I am judged so much harder on everything I do, every time I leave early, or because "my babysitter flaked." It makes me look unprofessional.
She has taken numerous days off because of her daughter's pregnancy. She must be present at all doctor appointments, clinic visits, ultrasounds, if her daughter is feeling off, she takes the day off. I told her earlier this week, I have a VERY BIG MEETING on Friday and I cannot miss it. I called her a few times this morning, no answer. I got a call from her daughter's father telling me their daughter isn't well, and so she took her to the doctor. Now, I get it. I've been pregnant, it's hard....BUT I mean, DAMN, your daughter is not a damn egg! She says oh she's young, she's fragile. I'll be honest, it takes a lot for me to say, "She wasn't too fragile to take that ddiiiiiiccckkkk!" But I don't. Lol. I don't understand, am I overreacting? Am I not being understanding? I mean, the baby daddy is also present at all the appointments, etc. It's not as if her daughter is alone.
I had to call out of work because my son is already on Christmas break, and I have no one to leave him with last minute. This reflects poorly on me at work, but I mean, they literally called to tell me this late this morning. I don't know if I should just fire her, or talk to her about this situation? I feel like an a$$hole being like, "You need to come to work and not jump at everything for your pregnant daughter," BUT I also can't look unprofessional at work, it's messing with my reputation.
So, since I finished up my LLB, I've been training at a law firm, it doesn't pay the best, so I kept a second job that pays pretty well, part time. Both jobs are demanding, and require a lot of focus, I barely have any free time. I'm currently saving for my L.E.C. so I don't want to drop one of the jobs. I hired a babysitter to stay with my son during the week, five days a week. She's off on Sunday and whatever day she chooses in the week. She'll tell me the week before if she has anything going on, and we work around her schedule.
I make sure my son and I have breakfast together every morning and dinner together at least three times a week. I work late maybe 3-4 nights a week. Sunday is our day, where he choose what he wants to do. I left work early last week and took him to see Justice League and gave her the afternoon off. Side step: Do any of you busy Moms have any advice on how to cramp more time with your kids into a hectic ass schedule?
ANYWAY, the issue! Her daughter is pregnant, five months along. She's 19. Whenever I come home, her daughter is usually at my place. That's fine, I don't care. I have explained at length to the babysitter that I give her the option to choose her day off the week before, because my schedule is super strict. I also work in a firm that's basically all men, and I am judged so much harder on everything I do, every time I leave early, or because "my babysitter flaked." It makes me look unprofessional.
She has taken numerous days off because of her daughter's pregnancy. She must be present at all doctor appointments, clinic visits, ultrasounds, if her daughter is feeling off, she takes the day off. I told her earlier this week, I have a VERY BIG MEETING on Friday and I cannot miss it. I called her a few times this morning, no answer. I got a call from her daughter's father telling me their daughter isn't well, and so she took her to the doctor. Now, I get it. I've been pregnant, it's hard....BUT I mean, DAMN, your daughter is not a damn egg! She says oh she's young, she's fragile. I'll be honest, it takes a lot for me to say, "She wasn't too fragile to take that ddiiiiiiccckkkk!" But I don't. Lol. I don't understand, am I overreacting? Am I not being understanding? I mean, the baby daddy is also present at all the appointments, etc. It's not as if her daughter is alone.
I had to call out of work because my son is already on Christmas break, and I have no one to leave him with last minute. This reflects poorly on me at work, but I mean, they literally called to tell me this late this morning. I don't know if I should just fire her, or talk to her about this situation? I feel like an a$$hole being like, "You need to come to work and not jump at everything for your pregnant daughter," BUT I also can't look unprofessional at work, it's messing with my reputation.
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Fire your current sitter, and get a new sitter that's 100% comitted. Also have a plan B & C on deck.