Shorty Just broke up with me (update)

[WaveCapsByOscorp™]

I told her last Thursday that I would never consider having kids because I’m not the guy that wants multiple BM’s. And since then she’s been acting distant. We chilled Sunday night, I fukked and normally she chills with me till she has to go to work in the morning but she left after and didn’t even give me a reason whyd didn’t see her Monday, then she’s pops up at my crib today with that bullshyt.

don't know what to tell you. but, one question, what type of bagel was it? i'm personally a sesame seed bagel man myself...

 

[Brolic Scholar]

@He Won’t Die have you ever taken her on a date? Been seen in public holding hands with her or hugged up? Fed her an expensive meal? If not, she was delusional and did you a favor. But if you did all of those things, you were selling her a dream, no matter your intentions.

 

[Luke Cage]

Sounds like regurgitated internet bullshyt from
A nikka who’s never actually around women. But I’ll take it.

Alot of woman like to keep that casual arrangement in their pocket just to feel valued. Since it requires no commitment there's no real reason to burn that bridge even if you don't plan on going back to it. For some reason decided with you to severe that tie completely. So unless you were abusive, you got a weak pipe game breh.

 

[MikelArteta]

You only get like 3-5 smashes before the what are we pops up.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

yeah, she doesn't want to hang around you anymore. so, whatever the "arrangement" is, it's off...

Right. This is what it sounds like to me. OP is just in his feelings because he got bushed.

 

[onelastdeath]

don't know what to tell you. but, one question, what type of bagel was it? i'm personally a sesame seed bagel man myself...

Everything bagel like everybody should .

@He Won’t Die have you ever taken her on a date? Been seen in public holding hands with her or hugged up? Fed her an expensive meal? If not, she was delusional and did you a favor. But if you did all of those things, you were selling her a dream, no matter your intentions.

I mean we been to the movies once, and I went to her cousins funeral. That’s all I can really think of.

Alot of woman like to keep that casual arrangement in their pocket just to feel valued. Since it requires no commitment there's no real reason to burn that bridge even if you don't plan on going back to it. For some reason decided with you to severe that tie completely. So unless you were abusive, you got a weak pipe game breh.

I’m okay with having a weak pipe game. Thank you Dr. King internet stranger for this thorough diagnosis

You only get like 3-5 smashes before the what are we pops up.

She skipped the what are we and proceeded straight to the we’re in a relationship stage

 

[WaveCapsByOscorp™]

You only get like 3-5 smashes before the what are we pops up.

with good reason. any man that hasn't made his decision after that amount of interaction is just using an opportunity and walking around aimlessly...

 

[Obreh Winfrey]

And I didn’t even know we were dating

She came to my crib at 7 AM, brought me coffee
And a bagel and asked me to sit down. So
I did.

And she’s talking about how we want different things in life and how me not wanting anymore kids is a problem for her and how she’s 27 and can’t waste anymore time with someone who’s goals and ambitions don’t match her own. She starts tearing and kisses me on the cheek and dips.

And my boy is laying on the couch “sleep”, gets up after she leaves and asks me why I didn’t tell him I had a shorty and I’m like because I never did

This shyt is so awkward and I’m fake angry because this bytch broke up with me, but not really because I thought we were just fukking. I can’t tell how to feel. A part of me wants to laugh at the miscommunication and a part of me is like man maybe I missed out on something

I thought we were just hangin and fukkin, I been hittin other girls too. What the fukk

 

[MindOverMatter]

It sucks because you won't have her as reliable p*ssy anymore, but it seems to me this is a positive instead of a negative.

She handled it maturely and whatever the "situation" was it ended on good terms. She's looking for forever and you were looking for right now with no kids in the future. Past a certain point continuing to fukk is dangerous and a waste of time.

Eta:
Ok so she TRIED to handle it maturely but clearly she wants you to chase her despite the fact that she knows u ain't it for her. (Came to this conclusion after reading that text)

 

[Nicole0416_718_929_646212]

1. She met someone new and isn't feeling you anymore 2. It's a pre-emptive, I broke up with you (even though yall weren't official) to give her back control and to boost her self esteem, she was more than likely feeling bad about herself for having sex with you w/o the commitment bc if yall were just strictly smashing, the topic of children wouldn't have come up in the first place 3. hate to say it.. she probably wasn't feeling the sex anymore either (some women need intimacy, she felt that she wasn't getting that from you) 4) she also felt that she wasn't getting any benefits from being with you 5) you're feeling some type of way about it b/c you were starting to develop feelings for her as well - you cant fake angry.. you are angry about it, you feel rejected... it happens. (just my opinion from experience).

 

[Ghost Utmost]

I had a cut buddy convert to full gf on me recently too.

In my case she wants to turn every 4th dance lesson (sport fukc) into a damn counseling session.

She needs a hero. She has nothing left to give after working and single parenting. I can tell you drank a beer 4 hours ago and you know I don't like drinking (except when she feels like drinking. She doesn't like me drinking when she hasnt.. I know).

Which is whatever. I can deal with the ups and downs. But then it started to interfere with our meeting. She would end up sleeping instead or just be all pissy and hard to smooch.

So then I tried to remind her. You said you wanted the job of caring for my man. Once every 2 weeks or once a month is not enough to keep me all to yourself.

I let her know that about 1x a week is the right tempo. More is better but I at least need that.

Then she barks on me one day cause of being mad from work. Then I get fed and bounce. Then she keeps it up for a week. Before I know it I'm on sex punishment while we contemplate our relationship.

The relationship is the meeting up and fighting in the sack. If we ain't doing that then we ain't actually seeing each other. Just pen pals or whatever. I stormed off from that convo. Told her to hit me up when she wants to see me see me.

Silence. A straight week now. Guess the relationship that we agreed we couldn't support is over now?

I see it as her saying she could be cut buddy but secretly trying to swing it into full on gf. Hence the sex punishment. But nah.

Do not need.

 

[semicko82]

Not to be

but all this means is you have weak pipe game. When a fukk buddy you have no relationship says, i aint really trying to smash no more.
that means she made another friend who can dikk her down correctly and she can't even bothered to keep you on reserve because your pipe game is .

What happens when you have a mean pipe game is girl is like, i'm in a relationship so we can't fukk around anymore but keep in touch
AKA keep in touch just in case he doesn't hold it down. I'll be coming back for that D on occasion.

So all that wanting different goals was bs

 

[Brolic Scholar]

You went to a funeral with her @He Won’t Die ? (the irony of that post to username)



nikka do you have morals? God damn! I’ve sold a few dumb females a bag of nothing, but I’ve never played the I’m here for your difficult family times role. nikka you took it to Super Saiayan level 2 with that one. No wonder... and you took her on a date?!

My rule with fukk friends is we eat at your place or mine (takeout or delivery... you don’t cook for them and they don’t cook for you) and we watch movies on the sofa. You’re a wild dude.



Lucky she didn’t do something to you.

 

[onelastdeath]

Spoiler

 

[onelastdeath]

You went to a funeral with her @He Won’t Die ? (the irony of that post to username)



nikka do you have morals? God damn! I’ve sold a few dumb females a bag of nothing, but I’ve never played the I’m here for your difficult family times role. nikka you took it to Super Saiayan level 2 with that one. No wonder... and you took her on a date?!

My rule with fukk friends is we eat at your place or mine (takeout or delivery... you don’t cook for them and they don’t cook for you) and we watch movies on the sofa. You’re a wild dude.



Lucky she didn’t do something to you.

She asked me to go while she was was hysterical and came thru the day after it happened crying and shyt

What im supposed to say

“Oh ur cousin died? Sorry to hear that but get the fukk out ”

She Tripping and pretending it’s me