The dark men dating light skin shouldn't really be a talking point. (for most dark skinned men)
Let's just look at this from a logical perspective. The darker you are, the more the odds are you will date a lighter person. The lighter you are, the more the odds favor you dating a darker person. If you put the black race on a shade scale, what percentage of black women would be darker than the darkest black man for him to date? The answer is 0, so he would have to date a lighter woman. So the "best" he could do is match his hue, which would be 1% of the population. The other 99% of women would be lighter in complexion.
Exactly. Chris himself is married to a darker skinned chick. Does that mean he hates himself?
When white men date black women, we never assume that they hate themselves. When light skinned dudes show a preference for darker skinned women, we never say "you don't love yourself."
When people assume that a darker man hates himself because he marries a light skinned woman (or even a white woman), we are basically saying that blackness is somehow inferior and should be some mark of shame that you can't escape. It's an inferiority complex shining through.
Opposites attract. Never understood the idea of wanting to smash people that look EXACTLY like you
. That's kind of incestuous when you think about it. Cacs have all kinds of weird genetic diseases BECAUSE they fukked around with each other too much.
Not suggesting everyone should PAWG, but if a light skinned chick wants the dark meat, let her have it.
Does anyone clown a light skinned chick for dating some investment banker that looks like Michael Blackson? Hell no.
Why? Because again it's internalized self hate. We subconsciously think its OK for her to date dark because we view it as her doing some kind of good deed...like she's sacrificing. When the dark skinned brotha dates light, we somehow feel like he's upping his station by taking a shortcut. Trying to be "pro-black" but still a slave to colorism and ranking light skinned as better.
And his little bit about Muhammad Ali: Joe Frazier was born in South Carolina and had to leave because he got into it with some disrespectful cacs. They were probably gonna murk him and his family. That brotha was always pro black but we all followed the light skinned breh Muhammad Ali as he made Joe sound like a c00n.
Light skinned blacks usually had better access to education and so it would not have been a surprise to see them leading the way as community leaders early on.