I don't think it makes them stupid. People want the ideal and the perception is that money makes achieving an ideal easier and a woman without a child is indeed preferred because it is the ideal. So when someone with money chooses not to adhere to the ideal, it causes controversy and people are upset or bothered by this. This kind of reaction is universal. The reaction from some men is just that: people discontent with an ideal not being pursued when it could have been. And it makes sense for black men, especially, who are constantly told to do better to say, "why should I be average and be part of that quadruple? Why can't I be more or want more? Isn't that part of being better?" In the end, dudes just want more than the average and are tired of the expectation of deserving less, even when they work hard. In Russ, they see someone who worked hard and still chose less. It doesn't sit well with them. And indeed this is America which brings me to my next question: how many presidents has this country have, that were men that wifed up single mothers? People love the ideal and cast aspersions on the less than ideal readily. Everyone.
Some dudes just want the ideal and see having money and accomplishments as part of that and seeing wifing a single mother as aiming low. Some may be on some hating shyt but I don't see that many dudes on that. They like Russ and are happy for him but think he made a bad decision overall.