#WeAllFall
You could also ask the question "Why do women want other women to go through the embarrassment?". The roles are never reversed, because men never run and tell another man his girl is cheating with him. Nor do we get online and tell other men they woman was in our dm's. Unless we have a diss track coming out.
I do believe how above and beyond a man goes to not get caught,should be taken into some type of account. Not saying it has to be forgiven. But a man who goes to extremes not to get caught. Should NOT be put in the same box with guys who cheat casually with no regards for their womans embarrasment.
But ultimately men have to take accountability for whatever happens. And responsibility for messing with women on the side,when we know how yall are.