No, you do need therapy. You need someone to help you see who you are and were. There's a lot of things in your life that you are not happy with. You talked about low self-esteem and need to build that up. Go to therapy.
Therapists offer a pay scale where if you can't afford their full rates they can adjust for their patients.
Everyone should go to therapy, especially black people. There's a lot of things we are walking around with that never gets dealt with. We keep pushing because that's what is expected but, we need to fortify and strengthen our mind and understanding in this life.
You need help. Take it while people are still offering.
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You're right but I don't want to rehash any old threads with this. I'll just say living currently in the most promiscuous era, growing up with porn being so accessible when I was a pre teen and just being average in looks.
It just has me in a weird spot. I'm slowly learning to just enjoy talking to girl as humans instead of just thinking about sex. Also being post simp phase yet knowing how easy it is to slip into having simping tendencies. Also consciously knowing the games girls can play. Just because vhow attraction is wired for them.
I'm not sad and yes I have shared my frustrations with my dad as well.
I feel like things aren't to be taken too serious but also the feedback I get whether desired or not. Doesn't make a difference.
I can consider why x happened but it doesn't matter if having y would cause z. At the end of the day I don't care anymore. Only thing is stagnation or occasional progress. Just feels like a routine.
Not even boredom, I'm just existing.
I can upgrade the hand I'm dealt with a bit. Nothing matters too much. If I get what I chase. Only becomes a check off goal from a mental list. If I don't then it's a story that's funny when looking back.
Just small highs of victory or "damn lol".
The day ends with me in bed.
Pretty much damned if I do get what I want or still damned if not.
Even after I do get my own place and shyt. Then what? I could have the ideal life and I think I'll eventually be bored again.
Then you do small shyt just to break the routine like buying ice cream or nother snack. Burn a bit of money on shyt you know you don't need.
I just don't have any materialistic desires anymore. I'm not even horny alone, it's like when I do flirt cause the girl right there. I want her attention more than sex. IDGAF bout dating. I want to win/woo her over just to have accomplished it.
I'm not asexual and soon I will get horny due to the testerone spike in my body naturally. I'm just saying life is fun in the moment whether it's vices, laughing with friends, etc or when you get what you want like a girl, some shyt you saved up for, etc. That feeling leaves quick afterwards when the minute/hour/day/night is over.
Then what?
Maybe it's my reward receptors are fukked from porn and fapping. As well as of late fixing how I view women but keeping in mind to still not simp. This is the adjustment period. Nothing matters anymore. I still try to do the right thing like be cool to people.
shyt feels like mini games with no real ending.