Rihanna, Halle Bailey, Keke Palmer, Naomi Osaka, Skai Jackson. What’s Going On Brehettes?

[HARLEM AL]

This some lsa shyt acting like because the women have more money they are better than the men. Every black athlete who marries has more money than the woman but the bitter bytches and their pet negroes dont have a problem with that though.

As a black man you have to prove yourself. You aint shyt unless you are serving others.

 

[Wiseborn]

THEY'RE NO DIFFERENT THAN
ALL OF THE CELEBRITY BLACK MEN
WITH LOW VALUE BABY MOMMAS

THE COMMUNITY BEEN fukkED


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Marriage doesn't really make sense nowadays

 

[JustRegularBlack]

babies as accessories & promotional tools*

This is why many people have kids. Celebs and non-celebs, rich and poor. To make THEM feel good. The child's well being is often times a secondary thought that doesn't hit until much later, if at all.

 

[AAKing23]

It's a black American woman's right of passage at this point, it's a part of the culture and it transcends socioeconomic status, upbringing and class

A culture I want no parts of This shyt won't go away until black men abhorrently reject it

 

[AAKing23]

As a black man you have to prove yourself. You aint shyt unless you are serving others.

Yup and it don't matter what level you are on either, you could be Michael B Jordan or a fry cook at McDonalds and it's still the same thing

You gotta serve the women and the gynocracy at all times, it's how your value is determined

 

[JustRegularBlack]

Marriage doesn't really make sense nowadays

Definitely a valid point. Nevertheless raising a child is still a full time job for at least two people. A child in a household with two good parents beats being a child of two good parents in split households. Kids, especially young kids, need stability, an essential ingredient for healthy development. So I see it as being less about marriage itself and more about elements of stability and commitment which a good marriage could offer.

 

[RaspberryFitted]

As a black man you have to prove yourself. You aint shyt unless you are serving others.

Yup and it don't matter what level you are on either, you could be Michael B Jordan or a fry cook at McDonalds and it's still the same thing

You gotta serve the women and the gynocracy at all times, it's how your value is determined

As older BM, how did y’all detect those trying to make you prove yourself and how did you navigate through? I ask the former as sometimes it’s very subtle and can be brushed off as nothing.

and what are healthy emotions to have to this phenomenon? I know bitterness will get me nowhere and angry does nothing, so I’ve slowly built apathy but I want to make sure there’s a better outlet to view it from.

 

[HARLEM AL]

As older BM, how did y’all detect those trying to make you prove yourself and how did you navigate through? I ask the former as sometimes it’s very subtle and can be brushed off as nothing.

and what are healthy emotions to have to this phenomenon? I know bitterness will get me nowhere and angry does nothing, so I’ve slowly built apathy but I want to make sure there’s a better outlet to view it from.

It took me a while, Early 30s to be exact. Had 2 incidents happen to me at the same time. One with a co worker the other with a girlfriend(not the mention the shyt I was going through with both my kids mothers). I notice if I didnt do exactly what they said their was a issue. shyt irked the fukk out of me. So bad I cut them off. shyt felt like someone took 2 45lbs plate off my back. I finally understood the value of my time and attention.

Nah you are going to get mad. Everything you thought and learned from your elders was bullshyt. You cant help but be mad.. shyt you have to playa. Get that shyt out of your system. Once you do that and start looking at things for what it is you'll be better off.

 

[AAKing23]

As older BM, how did y’all detect those trying to make you prove yourself and how did you navigate through? I ask the former as sometimes it’s very subtle and can be brushed off as nothing.

and what are healthy emotions to have to this phenomenon? I know bitterness will get me nowhere and angry does nothing, so I’ve slowly built apathy but I want to make sure there’s a better outlet to view it from.

I'm only 32 don't know if that's considered old or not

But at every level of life as a BM you can sense that (some, not all) BW you encounter at that level will try to subtly challenge you in little ways or son you like you don't know what you're doing and need to be corrected.

It really doesn't matter what your qualifications are. They have a general distrust of black men leading things and will assume the worst about you until proven otherwise. And even then they won't apologize about it.

My advice is to maintain your distance from those types when you recognize the red flags.

 

[The ADD]

What else are they supposed to do in the GMB era?

 

[lib123]

I mean, correct me if I’m wrong but the biggest white pop stars: Taylor Swift, Ariana Grande, Dua Lipa, Billie Ellish, Sabrina Carpenter, Olivia Rodrigo, don’t seem dumb enough to be baby mothers at the beginning or peak of their careers.

Yet, it seems commonplace for our current rising black stars to sabotage themselves because birth control seems to be an after thought. Or having children within wedlock.

Again, I could be wrong but it’s just an observation.

Facts, those are white women would sabotage their careers if they became baby mamas. White parents wouldn’t be paying tons of money to send their young 10 year old daughters to go to Taylor Swift concerts if she was a baby mama.

 

[Wiseborn]

Definitely a valid point. Nevertheless raising a child is still a full time job for at least two people. A child in a household with two good parents beats being a child of two good parents in split households. Kids, especially young kids, need stability, an essential ingredient for healthy development. So I see it as being less about marriage itself and more about elements of stability and commitment which a good marriage could offer.

I agree with you but women generally aren't interested in life long marriage they want short term situationships

 

[Piff Perkins]

I don't see how the "men must serve" thing is unique to black men. Your (societal) value as a man is often measured by what you have and what you can do for others. The thing that differs by race is the aesthetics that are preferred. I know plenty of white dudes at work who dress a certain way because they know it makes (white) chicks go crazy. I'm talking about well educated dudes who don't know shyt about the "outdoors" but whip out that quasi outdoorsman/truck driver/urban cowboy look to get hoes. We know what the preferred aesthetic is for black women. Asian chicks often prefer that well fitted casual look of (white) office guys. And of course hood white chicks prefer the aesthetic that black women prefer.

 

[zerorequiem]

You know how many people have children every day? Failing to see the point of this thread.

 

[Dwayne_Taylor]

I don't see how the "men must serve" thing is unique to black men. Your (societal) value as a man is often measured by what you have and what you can do for others. The thing that differs by race is the aesthetics that are preferred. I know plenty of white dudes at work who dress a certain way because they know it makes (white) chicks go crazy. I'm talking about well educated dudes who don't know shyt about the "outdoors" but whip out that quasi outdoorsman/truck driver/urban cowboy look to get hoes. We know what the preferred aesthetic is for black women. Asian chicks often prefer that well fitted casual look of (white) office guys. And of course hood white chicks prefer the aesthetic that black women prefer.

We're all valued on what we have but other groups of men don't have to compensate for anti black male stereotypes working against then. IMO white men are assumed to be good providers, good fathers etc...