Thinking about it logically why would Tony Stark or Captain American reference a arbitrary kerfuffle with Daredevil or Luke Cage by some bodega when they got bigger shyt to worry about.
Seriously....
I get that people want to see team up and whatnot, but there's no reason for any of the Avengers (who operate on a global scale) to be concerned with what's going on in Hell's Kitchen. The only Netflix character that's even public is Luke Cage. Nobody knows about Jessica or that wack motherfukker Danny, and Daredevil is an urban legend.
Conversely it'd make no sense for any of those Netflix characters to suddenly join up with the Avengers and show up at a battle.
One of the most annoying things about the lead up to Captain America Civil War were all the bullshyt rumors about Netflix characters showing up (which made no fukking sense given the story).
As for Agents of SHIELD, there is a bit of crossover but not much. The Hellicarrier that Fury used in Age of Ultron was from an episode of AoS.
Nick Fury, Maria Hill, and Lady Sif have all appeared on Agents of SHIELD.
It's all loosely connected, but the movies are just on a totally different schedule than the TV shows. It's unrealistic to expect the movies to reference the shows.