Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Water]

damn. this is fukked up. all i can say is have a discussion with her. do more listening than talking and really try to understand where she is coming from. if your suspicion is right perhaps you can let her know (with the proof) of your plans to propose. Itll "ruin" it a bit but could be an interesting story in itself. If its some other shyt she spewing then think about it and how it aligns with your own values/thoughts/expectations.

good luck breh
it cant Just be the proposal thing but a discussion needs to be had

So there was a lot said but one thing that stood out to me was her mentioning a lack of excitement in the relationship. Man ive been trying my best i swear i have but it just aint enough breh.

 

[Ohene]

So there was a lot said but one thing that stood out to me was her mentioning a lack of excitement in the relationship. Man ive been trying my best i swear i have but it just aint enough breh.

Damn! It is just like i said in that post.

Something is really wrong with women these days, they constantly craving attn and excitement. Very fickle

Youre in a tough posiiton breh

 

[Ahadi]

Damn! It is just like i said in that post.

Something is really wrong with women these days, they constantly craving attn and excitement. Very fickle

Youre in a tough posiiton breh

Social media / the need to compare / keep up

Women have to much access to “rich / luxury” life through their phones, It used to be a mystery. They couldn’t see as far as their own city

Now it’s “what if” I attempt to “class jump” what if I “try this experience” what “if I’m missing out”

 

[Ohene]

So there was a lot said but one thing that stood out to me was her mentioning a lack of excitement in the relationship. Man ive been trying my best i swear i have but it just aint enough breh.

i was kinda in a similar position with an ex btw. no matter what I did it felt like it was never enough. i executed bringing her to my country (from France), let her move in with me, paid almost all the bills, made her a French friend (who lived in my building) so she can get acclimated upon coming here, helped her with her english lessons (and paid for some), helped her get a job eventually. still, she was always upset and we was arguing every week about some dumb shyt. could i have been more fun? maybe...but a relationship is inherently gonna stabilize and become a bit monotonous. eventually i broke up with her because I just didnt see us getting on the same page.

i HATE to say this cause it may come across like some redpill shyt but patrice oneal said it the best. trying to please a woman is like negotiating w/ a terrorist

 

[Ohene]

Social media / the need to compare / keep up

Women have to much access to “rich / luxury” life through their phones, It used to be a mystery. They couldn’t see as far as their own city

Now it’s “what if” I attempt to “class jump” what if I “try this experience” what “if I’m missing out”

yup.

if a girl has a friend(s) whose boyfriend is more adventurous or generous or even single friends who are gallivanting its gonna make a girl feel like shes missing out or make comparisons. thats why i just laughed at that thread @cyndaquil and @The ADD were referring to earlier. the game is vastly different these days

i remember my ex saying how she wanted to travel more, go to places like Jamaica and shyt. I assured her that we'd start doing so once i got a promotion and because my finances were improving. she had the nerve to say sumn along the lines of how she wants to go and experience those places alone though because i had already been there



that was one of the final straws where I knew that chick and I were done

 

[The ADD]

yup.

if a girl has a friend(s) whose boyfriend is more adventurous or generous or even single friends who are gallivanting its gonna make a girl feel like shes missing out or make comparisons. thats why i just laughed at that thread @cyndaquil and @The ADD were referring to earlier. the game is vastly different these days

i remember my ex saying how she wanted to travel more, go to places like Jamaica and shyt. I assured her that we'd start doing so once i got a promotion and because my finances were improving. she had the nerve to say sumn about how she wants to go and experience those places alone though



that was one of the final straws where I knew that chick and I were done

Can’t fix that…..

 

[Ahadi]

yup.

if a girl has a friend(s) whose boyfriend is more adventurous or generous or even single friends who are gallivanting its gonna make a girl feel like shes missing out or make comparisons. thats why i just laughed at that thread @cyndaquil and @The ADD were referring to earlier. the game is vastly different these days

i remember my ex saying how she wanted to travel more, go to places like Jamaica and shyt. I assured her that we'd start doing so once i got a promotion and because my finances were improving. she had the nerve to say sumn along the lines of how she wants to go and experience those places alone though because i had already been there



that was one of the final straws where I knew that chick and I were done

She should be patient or atleast help schedule a trip that’s not as costly. Women are bad at planning long game, unless it has to do with a degree.

That alone suggestion is sus, could be lining up a side dude or something.

I don’t think women consider the dangers of traveling alone lol

 

[Ohene]

She should be patient or atleast help schedule a trip that’s not as costly. Women are bad at planning long game, unless it has to do with a degree.

That alone suggestion is sus, could be lining up a side dude or something.

I don’t think women consider the dangers of traveling alone lol

exactly. i think my ex liked me and the idea of a serious relationship but when she got to know certain aspects of me and what a serious relationship really bout it was too much for her. she said it herself that she idealized me. mind you that was after maybe 9 months of us being together.

like why are you in a rush? the trips will come, the dinners, the experiences etc. will all come...these women dont realize they gon have 25+ able-bodied years to live out life with you and. WHAT IS THE RUSH?! Excitement??? You wanna break up with a nikka who ready to marry you over excitement????



but in this microwave, fomo, ADD, social media generation thats what you get. yet some 40 and 50 yr old nikkas wanna act like it isnt more difficult for men to get and sustain relationships with women these days

@Water I aint gonna tell you what to do but tread carefully lol.

 

[Apollo Creed]

Folks be trying the hardest to sound deep and don't be saying shyt


Legit may just go monk mode till my Europe trip end of June

 

[Ahadi]

exactly. mind you that was after maybe 9 months of us being together.

like why are you in a rush? the trips will come, the dinners, the experiences etc. will all come...these women dont realize they gon have 25+ able-bodied years to live out life with you and a good half of those years will be able-bodied. WHAT IS THE RUSH?! Excitement??? You wanna break up with a nikka who ready to marry you over excitement????



but in this microwave, fomo, ADD, social media generation thats what you get. yet some 40 and 50 yr old nikkas wanna act like it isnt more difficult for men to get and sustain relationships with women these days

@Water I aint gonna tell you what to do but tread carefully lol.

Nah they can’t wait they need it now!
They can only utilize their youth and looks for so long, they’re on a timer and want to make sure they bet on the best horse possible. They don’t wana end up like their mothers or grandmothers and be “slaves” they want to do everything they can, then relive war stories in their rocking chair.

@Water she found her next man. Time to let her go.

 

[Ohene]

Nah they can’t wait they need it now!
They can only utilize their youth and looks for so long, they’re on a timer and want to make sure they bet on the best horse possible. They don’t wana end up like their mothers or grandmothers and be “slaves” they want to do everything they can, then relive war stories in their rocking chair.

@Water she found her next man. Time to let her go.

bolded is harsh breh lol

 

[Ahadi]

bolded is harsh breh lol

They don’t say things out of nowhere. This has probably been calculated and spoken amongst her girlfriends during drinks. She probably had a time limit or u ultimatum set in her mind. If she’s older, into her mid 30s-40s, I expect her to especially have a time limit.

It’s kind of manipulation if you think about it because what if you give her hints that you’re going to propose and then you do it. It doesn’t really make much sense, because you’re doing it because you HAVE to not for the love of doing it.

But again we don’t really know your situation. We are kind of imagining and reading from the outside looking in so maybe your relationship is different but it sounds like the first paragraph.

 

[Ohene]

They don’t say things out of nowhere.

yea you right

This has probably been calculated and spoken amongst her girlfriends during drinks. She probably had a time limit or u ultimatum set in her mind. If she’s older, into her mid 30s-40s, I expect her to especially have a time limit.

It’s kind of manipulation if you think about it because what you give her hints that you’re going to do it and then you do it. It doesn’t really make much sense, because you’re doing it because you have to not for the love of doing it.

But again we don’t really know your situation. We are kind of imagining and reading from the outside looking in so maybe your relationship is different but it sounds like the first paragraph.

i hear you. women have these weird ways of setting up traps/catch 22s that can completely kill a relationship.

if homie tries to be more exciting, then hes doing too much and she will have too much power. his approval seeking behavior will cause her to lose attraction anyways.

if homie says fukk it and doesnt do anything differently, the relationship will end or she will just continue to nag, complain and maybe even cheat as you alluded to

only thing he can really do is accept that its done and then let her be the one to rekindle shyt if she come to her senses

 

[Apollo Creed]

yea you right


i hear you. women have these weird ways of setting up traps/catch 22s that can completely kill a relationship.

if homie tries to be more exciting, then hes doing too much and she will have too much power. his approval seeking behavior will cause her to lose attraction anyways.

if homie says fukk it and doesnt do anything differently, the relationship will end or she will just continue to nag, complain and maybe even cheat as you alluded to

only thing he can really do is accept that its done and then let her be the one to rekindle shyt if she come to her senses

dudes gotta call bluffs and let folks walk lol. Main thing is no pregnancies and don't cosign/put your name on any contracts involving her.

 

[King]

Women are gonna do wtf they wanna do.

She’s never yours, it’s just your turn.

Always assume that when your girl leaves your sight she’s fukking multiple fat musty broke losers.

And be content with that.