Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[The ADD]

are you reading his post? the nikka is not going to be able to manage that shyt hence he needs to focus on self.



battle internal demons and give advise to spread it to the world brehs

You addressed none of my post.

There is zero reason in life to not engage with people that can benefit you (and Vice Versa) if it’s within a frame work that works for you.

Maybe you have damages that don’t allow you to do so but that’s not an absolute.

 

[RaspberryFitted]

hence nikkas need to focus on themselves for a period of time and learn to love themselves.

nikkas are using women to feel a validation of existence hence why this thread is so long and hence why women are giving them hell.

If you can't master self you will continue to be carried on a string by others.

it's idiotic to try and engage in this stuff when you are clearly broken and anyone saying otherwise is giving horrible advice.

I agree. It is the same nonsense women try to bring up when you start to think the relationship is progressing.

People in general are fearful to be alone, so they tie themselves to vices and ever changing identities to avoid facing their inner self.

 

[RaspberryFitted]

You addressed none of my post.

There is zero reason in life to not engage with people that can benefit you (and Vice Versa) if it’s within a frame work that works for you.

Maybe you have damages that don’t allow you to do so but that’s not an absolute.

accepting people in your life while you are dealing with turmoil requires a emotional maturity from both parties.

Person 1 dealing with their issues has to set proper boundaries and not drag anyone down with their problems, while Person 2 has to keep in mind where Person 1’s head is at and to adjust their expectations in whatever relationship they are building.

most people I’ve encountered in my young adult life seem to have difficulty in managing people/relationships, so unfortunately it is beneficial to be on top of your shyt from the get go.

I understand your perspective though in terms of not completely shutting yourself off to everyone you encounter, male or female, just because you’re down bad

 

[RaspberryFitted]

One of the biggest things you have to get past is that there's any sort of exchange of value, any sort of I am this, so I deserve this.

It's not a transaction.

You don't need to look a certain way.
You don't need to be a certain way.
You certainly don't need money.
Oftentimes you don't really need to perform any type of service.

They most definitely want you to think of it as a transaction...until it's time for them to pay up.

So when dealing with the females, remember it is not some type of equivalent exchange (or more realistically non-equivalent)

tying it to the recent theme of self-esteem, this is why it’s important to be self aware of who you are and confident in it.

I’ve learned people gravitate to those who can live comfortably in their own skin — a “what you see is what you get” or “that’s just how he is” type of man.

 

[Sleepy Floyd]

Isolation is kind of my go-to move.

We were actually talking about stuff like that. Self-improvement. Helping each other reach goals. She was actually cool as hell.

I just stopped seeing a therapist, but I'm going to contact them again and start going back.

Not all therapists are good therapists. I definitely prefer a male therapist x100

 

[Mandarin Duck]

Not all therapists are good therapists. I definitely prefer a male therapist x100

My last one was a female. For some reason I didn't feel comfortable expressing my feelings to a man.

What made you feel like male therapist are better?

 

[Apollo Creed]

I agree with this which is why I stopped talking to her. There's shyt I need to fix about myself before I can date and I don't want to project my insecurities onto anyone else.

Thats usually what happens. Others pay for sins they didnt cause

 

[Apollo Creed]

Not all therapists are good therapists. I definitely prefer a male therapist x100

This is also true . Many are misandrist

 

[Uncouth Savage]

I think a certain coli lady deserves an apology/explanation of sorts.
Hazel whilst I was bushed would come into the bushes and say "Hi, you okay"
And I might respond with "bytch I hate you....fukk you...i love you....take me back....i will be good...fukk anybody who flirt with you...you a fat wite lesbian"

And she got so offended/confused. Then I would pretend to curse out and malice all the men who typed to Hazel.

Point being, those are the things I desired to say to my ex-wife.
In real life.
But too coward to say it.
To say "I love you....I hate you....I miss you....fukk you....take me back"

Gentlemen, never be scared to tell a woman what is what.
Sorry Hazel.
Me is a mad poet.

 

[MikelArteta]

You live once brehs

 

[The Prince of All Saiyans]

Spoiler: You must register to see this message:

the only DP she should be knowledgeable of is Dr. Pepper

 

[Mandarin Duck]

tying it to the recent theme of self-esteem, this is why it’s important to be self aware of who you are and confident in it.

I’ve learned people gravitate to those who can live comfortably in their own skin — a “what you see is what you get” or “that’s just how he is” type of man.

That's where I screwed up.

I have work confidence. I know what I'm doing and I do it well.

My personality came out while training her.

But I looked at it as just part of the job.

But once I got the hint of her being attracted to me I lost it all. In my mind there's nothing about me she should like.

 

[The ADD]

That's where I screwed up.

I have work confidence. I know what I'm doing and I do it well.

My personality came out while training her.

But I looked at it as just part of the job.

But once I got the hint of her being attracted to me I lost it all. In my mind there's nothing about me she should like.

I struggled with that with my girlfriend quite a bit and I’m sure I’m much older than you. It happens but you can get past it.

 

[Mandarin Duck]

I struggled with that with my girlfriend quite a bit and I’m sure I’m much older than you. It happens but you can get past it.

Do you mean you feel like there's nothing that your gf should like about you?

What do you do to offset that?

 

[The ADD]

Do you mean you feel like there's nothing that your gf should like about you?

What do you do to offset that?

I didn’t understand/couldn’t really accept that she loved me to the level she does.

I mean she did things to show it other than words. I went to therapy, not solely for that but it was a topic. It took time, like a lot.