Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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yup. I mean to be fair. beautiful big tittied in shape single mom bartender who was on some free love shyt. it was never gonna be serious but it could have been fun lol.

I was pretty against having a roster in the past but this last year has shown me in this current climate you'd be retarded not to so that's gonna be my mentality int he new year. I'll probs chill for the rest of this year unless something amazing falls in my lap. I was trying to play the mono game this whole year and that shyt, at least for me. is dead. I think I have enough drip to attract multiple versions of what I want to poly could be beneficial to me. Cuz usually its some shyt completely in the womans favor cuz they get dikk for nothing but if you got your shyt together as a man you should be getting cheeks at a similar rate. I do fine but I don't spread my wings nearly enough so thats gonna change.

With like minded women it's the way. Never having to chase anyone she either wants to be involved or not and if she doesn't someone else will step in.

I'm lucky I live in a city where there are so many busy career women who want occasional companionship and are grown and upfront about it. I also tried the mono thing earlier this year shyt was a headache. I like to be myself and not be under any female.
 

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edit: since I know neggas gonna be like what your dumb ass do ol girl was posed to link with me tonight. she texted me today and said she sincerely wants to see me but has to have mommy time. Okay cool, I'm like cool kid should come first np lets re schedule. she goes totally and says MAYBE sunday. I tell her I try to stay away from maybes, I like definite dates. She then says she doesn't know because she has plans with a friend but shes flaky so she doesn't know if she will show or not. Now....this is where I fukked up because I should have just said "okay well, have fun with your friend if you do hit me up when you have a definite time youre free" instead in my amazing display of hubris I said paraphrased "that sounds fukked. I want to see you but if its gonna be dependent on flakes, I respect myself too much to go along. If you not feeling it thats cool
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Lesson learned though.

Women nowadays don't appreciate the dude who really wants to see them.

But I mean she's a single mother..she knows she's not the ideal choice for most men with options. She should be getting mad at you for flaking..

-She's a single mother..you shouldn't have been pressed to see her that bad because of it.

-She has a kid so her time is already limited

-Being pressed like this kinda tells her and us you not getting p*ssy elsewhere

To be honest sounds like you were devoting to much time on her.

Were you just tryna smash or cuff her?
 

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:bryan:

Lesson learned though.

Women nowadays don't appreciate the dude who really wants to see them.

But I mean she's a single mother..she knows she's not the ideal choice for most men with options. She should be getting mad at you for flaking..

-She's a single mother..you shouldn't have been pressed to see her that bad because of it.

-She has a kid so her time is already limited

-Being pressed like this kinda tells her and us you not getting p*ssy elsewhere

To be honest sounds like you were devoting to much time on her.

Were you just tryna smash or cuff her?

Hit. She was cool though. Never cuffable. Hold up though. Im so pressed I told her naw Im not doing that maybe shyt instead I should of went along with it? I do believe I fukked up telling her why I wouldnt do it cuz that showed I cared however big or small. So I mean its a L regardless. But it would have been pretty desperate to just be like sure let me know sunday Ill wait for your text with bated breaths.

And honesly like I myself said communicating anything of importance over text is stupid cuz a lot is lost without youre voice. Oh well nothing great lost
 

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Hit. She was cool though. Never cuffable. Hold up though. Im so pressed I told her naw Im not doing that maybe shyt instead I should of went along with it? I do believe I fukked up telling her why I wouldnt do it cuz that showed I cared however big or small. So I mean its a L regardless. But it would have been pretty desperate to just be like sure let me know sunday Ill wait for your text with bated breaths.

And honesly like I myself said communicating anything of importance over text is stupid cuz a lot is lost without youre voice. Oh well nothing great lost
Nah I would've told her if She has time to let you know and if your schedule is clear yall could make something happen.
 

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Nah I would've told her if She has time to let you know and if your schedule is clear yall could make something happen.

I been doing that. Thats my go to. I was just overly annoyed more so at that let me see if my friend flake first shyt. Like bytch you serious? But its still a L for me allowing her to illicit a honest response so Ill embrace the L, loss and lesson
 

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Also, I should mention I am in a whole nother state, and she is willing to drive to see me(we from Georgia, I’m currently in North Carolina and she wants to meet up during her Christmas break) y’all think it would be an L for me? I should also mention I been seeing this other chick but we are not really dating just keeping shyt casual

just treat her like a thot, clap them cheeks up and then kick her out - this is YOUR MOMENT TO BE HEARTLESS to her. Literally, dikk her down and kick her the fukk out.
 

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Say brehs, my ex wants to meet up and has made it clear she might be down to fukk y’all think I should open up that can of worms?:jbhmm:

But here’s the thing, she has a boyfriend (he play football at clemson) and it’s the same dude that she was texting and sending nudes to which caused the reason we broke up. I had posted it in here a few months ago and y’all called me soft, :pachaha:but y’all think I should link up with her, fukk her and leave her? :win:

Also, I should mention I am in a whole nother state, and she is willing to drive to see me(we from Georgia, I’m currently in North Carolina and she wants to meet up during her Christmas break) y’all think it would be an L for me? I should also mention I been seeing this other chick but we are not really dating just keeping shyt casual

Man leave that foul ass bytch alone
 

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I been doing that. Thats my go to. I was just overly annoyed more so at that let me see if my friend flake first shyt. Like bytch you serious? But its still a L for me allowing her to illicit a honest response so Ill embrace the L, loss and lesson
U like this chick a lil bit too much.
U can’t guilt a chick into wanting to spend time with you. She knows u want her. That much is clear. Once a chick pulls that maybe sh1t, u don’t respond. U must not respond. Leave it on read. If she likes u she will double text and change her tune.
 

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U like this chick a lil bit too much.
U can’t guilt a chick into wanting to spend time with you. She knows u want her. That much is clear. Once a chick pulls that maybe sh1t, u don’t respond. U must not respond. Leave it on read. If she likes u she will double text and change her tune.

honestly I was doing the corey wayne shyt with the definite date thing instead of a maybe date. but I put too much effort into the response and showed how much it irritated me that she was predicating my worthiness over her flaky friend. so I did get annoyed real talk. like if she just said maybe and I don't know or w/e I would have left it alone but the actual reason was so disrespectful to me. i probs overreacted but if me saying I respect myself too much to be holding up my sunday night over what her friend does made her do a complete 180 that shyt wasn't gonna be anything beyond some ass anyway. This was my first attempt dealing with a woman with kids and I don't think I will try a second time.

Also I don't get brehs in here saying I seem desperate when wouldn't the desperate thing be to just be like yeah girl let me know on sunday I'll be waiting by my phone for that text instead of naw not gonna work make a time that works for you even if its like a week from now. IDK its so many conflicting viewpoints in here its hard to follow some times.
 

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honestly I was doing the corey wayne shyt with the definite date thing instead of a maybe date. but I put too much effort into the response and showed how much it irritated me that she was predicating my worthiness over her flaky friend. so I did get annoyed real talk. like if she just said maybe and I don't know or w/e I would have left it alone but the actual reason was so disrespectful to me. i probs overreacted but if me saying I respect myself too much to be holding up my sunday night over what her friend does made her do a complete 180 that shyt wasn't gonna be anything beyond some ass anyway. This was my first attempt dealing with a woman with kids and I don't think I will try a second time.

Also I don't get brehs in here saying I seem desperate when wouldn't the desperate thing be to just be like yeah girl let me know on sunday I'll be waiting by my phone for that text instead of naw not gonna work make a time that works for you even if its like a week from now. IDK its so many conflicting viewpoints in here its hard to follow some times.
I'm gonna provide a counter point to what the other crehs said and give my view

Be yourself..if the broad annoyed you, let her know. Then bush her.The a time to play it cool like Iceberg Slim or whoever but there's times too to just say what's on your mind. She's not the last piece of p*ssy on the planet and her butthole don't have a million dollars in it so who even cares if you smash? There's so many women out there, tell these hoes off every now and then
 

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honestly I was doing the corey wayne shyt with the definite date thing instead of a maybe date. but I put too much effort into the response and showed how much it irritated me that she was predicating my worthiness over her flaky friend. so I did get annoyed real talk. like if she just said maybe and I don't know or w/e I would have left it alone but the actual reason was so disrespectful to me. i probs overreacted but if me saying I respect myself too much to be holding up my sunday night over what her friend does made her do a complete 180 that shyt wasn't gonna be anything beyond some ass anyway. This was my first attempt dealing with a woman with kids and I don't think I will try a second time.

Also I don't get brehs in here saying I seem desperate when wouldn't the desperate thing be to just be like yeah girl let me know on sunday I'll be waiting by my phone for that text instead of naw not gonna work make a time that works for you even if its like a week from now. IDK its so many conflicting viewpoints in here its hard to follow some times.


Never make the "definite date" a big deal. Make it about coffee, or a slice of pizza, basically, introduce food but on the small scale. It shows you're not putting importance on just the date, and you're expecting to walk around. You want implied events, not "camps". You never want to cement the date, you want to end up somewhere, not be trapped at some movie or a restaurant. This also means you can walk away from a situation easily.
 

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I'm gonna provide a counter point to what the other crehs said and give my view

Be yourself..if the broad annoyed you, let her know. Then bush her.The a time to play it cool like Iceberg Slim or whoever but there's times too to just say what's on your mind. She's not the last piece of p*ssy on the planet and her butthole don't have a million dollars in it so who even cares if you smash? There's so many women out there, tell these hoes off every now and then


While you can find plenty of my messages on here, that agree with your point entirely, one still needs to sharpen their sword. Bashing around a blunt sword might get you some kills, but when you can slice through anything like a knife through butter, even the engages wherein you "lose" leave your prey with a lasting impression.
 

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Never make the "definite date" a big deal. Make it about coffee, or a slice of pizza, basically, introduce food but on the small scale. It shows you're not putting importance on just the date, and you're expecting to walk around. You want implied events, not "camps". You never want to cement the date, you want to end up somewhere, not be trapped at some movie or a restaurant. This also means you can walk away from a situation easily.

thats not what I meant by definite. it literal means what it says. definite as in a defined time and place. not some well maybe I'm free on thursday I'll let you know so you can let me string you along for a bit. Either figure out your schedule and get back to me with a actual time or move along. Its 170ish hours in a week. you can't come up with several you are for sure free? exactly. no ones that busy. This at least weeds out how much importance she places on actually seeing you. I don't see the problem with it.
 
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