Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Astroslik]

So chick I was digging was posed to meet up with her last night after she got off. She texts me saturday saying shes super sick, but still wants to see me and I should come into her job so she can buy me a drink. She bartends so I go up there and she is sick and gives me a martini. Shes busy so I kind of chill for a bit, say hi to her people and leave. I got bougie cracker vibes from the dudes but the ladies loved me, so I left before I said something ignorant to the dudes. Its weird because she said they all thought I was cool so its neither here nor there. I left feeling like it was a waste of time because we barely talked and I built up no further attraction, other than her female family was engrossed by me but who cares.

I text her a lil later like you sick as a dog come let me give you a lymph massage (I'm a esthetician/masseuse) and shes not having it. So I charge the night to the game and tell her I give equal effort. She said this week would be a no go beforehand because her family and holidays so I'm guessing hit her up like next fridayish and see what she on? I don't feel like I'm being chasey but I'm def pursuing more than I would like right now. I'm still maintaining mystery or w/e but I'll be honest the fact she wasn't trying to chill with a cold pulled back the blinds because if a chick is into you they usually will raise hell to see you. so interest isn't as high as I initially thought.

brehs how would you handle this. our first actual date she was all over me so I know she was into me. I haven't used the phone to spill my life story either. just texts to set shyt up, learn what I want about her, sharing snippets of myself

I would fall back


She's super sick but she can still show up to work?

She's super sick but she's handling customers drinks and staying within close proximity to them and her coworkers

Looks like she invited you to show you off to her coworkers/friends and/or seek their approval.


I wouldn't have even showed up to her job , have to let her know you're not that pressed to see her, especially when she told you she's "sick".


I would fall back asap, you're acting a little desperate/needy breh

 

[Deafheaven]

I would fall back


She's super sick but she can still show up to work?

She's super sick but she's handling customers drinks and staying within close proximity to them and her coworkers

Looks like she invited you to show you off to her coworkers/friends and/or seek their approval.


I wouldn't have even showed up to her job , have to let her know you're not that pressed to see her, especially when she told you she's "sick".


I would fall back asap, you're acting a little desperate/needy breh

damn. i knew i shoulda went with my gut but my day one homie said go think I may have fukked up a layup told me whats the harm in getting a free drink

wack, so should I just indefinitely put her on the sideline. It was like 4 months between when we first met and when we went out because I forgot I even had her number until I ran into her at another concert. I don't think I've came off as desperate, I pretty much only hit her up to set shyt up. but shyt, who knows. ya'll probs right, I said I hit her after the holidays but IDK any more

Edit: i went up there to see if she would rotate with me after. When it was clear sh3 wasnt I spok3 to her people, said bye and left. I didnt go just to go. I was there for like a half hour

 

[Solano707]

damn. i knew i shoulda went with my gut but my day one homie said go think I may have fukked up a layup told me whats the harm in getting a free drink

wack, so should I just indefinitely put her on the sideline. It was like 4 months between when we first met and when we went out because I forgot I even had her number until I ran into her at another concert. I don't think I've came off as desperate, I pretty much only hit her up to set shyt up. but shyt, who knows. ya'll probs right, I said I hit her after the holidays but IDK any more

Edit: i went up there to see if she would rotate with me after. When it was clear sh3 wasnt I spok3 to her people, said bye and left. I didnt go just to go. I was there for like a half hour

Take the L and move on breh

 

[Deafheaven]

Take the L and move on breh

Probably. Did err thing right up till last night too

 

[phcitywarrior]

Completely fall all the way back, not just a little bit, breh.

She sent it back so it's all good now. Still gonna fall back.

 

[Solano707]

She sent it back so it's all good now. Still gonna fall back.

That's whats up. But yeah falling back is good. What I learned, friend or whatever, people that got stuck in a rut and got a bailout will truly pay you back without having them being chased down. If they ducking and dodging or acting funny, you already know what type of person they are.

 

[phcitywarrior]

That's whats up. But yeah falling back is good. What I learned, friend or whatever, people that got stuck in a rut and got a bailout will truly pay you back without having them being chased down. If they ducking and dodging or acting funny, you already know what type of person they are.

I don't think she was ducking me, tbh. But I do agree I may need to fall back as far as hanging out with her. We set things up and then she has something come up or goes unresponsive. A few months back we were meant to hang out. We set a plan but then she went MIA so I stopped hitting her up.

She came back last week saying she wanted to hang out and that she had been texting me but I never responded but I see her video updates on What's app. I think the bolded was false but I gave her benefit of the doubt. But now she's shown me who she is (all over the place, indecisive). No point anymore, really.

Falling back is best at this point. Honestly, probably even moving on. It is what it is.

 

[VertigoKnight]

So chick I was digging was posed to meet up with her last night after she got off. She texts me saturday saying shes super sick, but still wants to see me and I should come into her job so she can buy me a drink. She bartends so I go up there and she is sick and gives me a martini. Shes busy so I kind of chill for a bit, say hi to her people and leave. I got bougie cracker vibes from the dudes but the ladies loved me, so I left before I said something ignorant to the dudes. Its weird because she said they all thought I was cool so its neither here nor there. I left feeling like it was a waste of time because we barely talked and I built up no further attraction, other than her female family was engrossed by me but who cares.

I text her a lil later like you sick as a dog come let me give you a lymph massage (I'm a esthetician/masseuse) and shes not having it. So I charge the night to the game and tell her I give equal effort. She said this week would be a no go beforehand because her family and holidays so I'm guessing hit her up like next fridayish and see what she on? I don't feel like I'm being chasey but I'm def pursuing more than I would like right now. I'm still maintaining mystery or w/e but I'll be honest the fact she wasn't trying to chill with a cold pulled back the blinds because if a chick is into you they usually will raise hell to see you. so interest isn't as high as I initially thought.

brehs how would you handle this. our first actual date she was all over me so I know she was into me. I haven't used the phone to spill my life story either. just texts to set shyt up, learn what I want about her, sharing snippets of myself

Is this the Israeli chick?

 

[Deafheaven]

Is this the Israeli chick?

Yeah breh.

 

[VertigoKnight]

Yeah breh.

Sounds like she's majorly cooled off. It happens breh. With those chicks you need to strike while the irons hot. If I was with a chick like that when I dropped her off if she lived by herself and was already in an aroused state. I would have asked to use her bathroom quickly. If she's on with it she'll let you up.

I been out with chicks we've been making out etc a day or two you message and it's like they're no longer horny and act different. Chalk it up and keep it moving if she's still interested she'll be back in touch.

 

[Deafheaven]

Sounds like she's majorly cooled off. It happens breh. With those chicks you need to strike while the irons hot. If I was with a chick like that when I dropped her off if she lived by herself and was already in an aroused state. I would have asked to use her bathroom quickly. If she's on with it she'll let you up.

I been out with chicks we've been making out etc a day or two you message and it's like there no longer horny and act different. Chalk it up and keep it moving if she's still interested she'll be back in touch.

Yeah seems that way. Wasnt really in the right situation to smash date one either. I got mad sloppy agreeing to something that only had a chance of edcalating to cheeks if err thing fell into place.

 

[VertigoKnight]

Yeah seems that way. Wasnt really in the right situation to smash date one either. I got mad sloppy agreeing to something that only had a chance of edcalating to cheeks if err thing fell into place.

Yeah turning up to see her probably cut your chances of bagging her again. I bet if you didn't turn up she'd have been messaging you.

The logic of these females is amazing. I'd go radio silence and see what happens.

 

[Deafheaven]

Yeah turning up to see her probably cut your chances of bagging her again. I bet if you didn't turn up she'd have been messaging you.

The logic of these females is amazing. I'd go radio silence and see what happens.

Yea in hindsight should have just chilled. If she onterested itll manisfest, if not lesson learned

 

[The Odum of Ala Igbo]

I think I might need a break. I was a serial monogamist before I entered this break period and I think it's become too much. I'm not used to this lifestyle. Gonna chill for a week. Focus on securing the bag for next year and reconsider if I should take an overall break before the New Year

 

[Silkk]

Maaaaaaaaan you definitely gotta know when to cut chicks off, the sooner the better. Dealing with the wrong one will have you ALL fukked up