Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Youseenmywork]

sosauve has some decent gems
book of pook aint that bad

I ve always said there were goodfathers to the "manosphere " he is almost like the founder or one of them. People think its just a bunch of PUAs on sosauve but nun of those i guys if i can recall are PÚAs if anything it more like "the lil Gems with dealing with women thread" but its an actual blogsite. Hell they have a section for guys that are 25+, highshool game and so on .

 

[Turbulent]

man, since no one has blatantly said it yet, let me be the first to.

never again in ur life get in a relationship with someone that far again. NEVER. stop it. people talk about there being 6 billion people on the planet. yet u wanna waste time on someone in another country? i mean, come on. NEVER do that again. stop it.

its cool to chat with them IF and ONLY if you plan on visiting that place. but ur chats should be more on some "hey we can hang out while i'm there so i'm not alone" type sh1t.

word, i wouldn't even date a chick who lives in another city in the same province.

 

[kevm3]

Proverbs 21:19
It is better to live in a desert land than with a quarrelsome and fretful woman

Ultimately, the company you keep is what will determine a lot of your life. If a woman isn't bringing you peace of mind and joy, then she ain't bringing you nothing.

 

[kevm3]

You cannot control what a woman will do next, whether she will stay or go, etc. All you can do is be the best man you can be and let the cards fall where they may.

One of the keys in life is to focus on those things that ARE in your control and to thank God for the joys you DO have. Much of how you feel will be dependent on whether you focus on the blessings of life or whether you focus on the downsides.

Right now, the dating scene is an absolute minefield and finding a woman you want to spend a lifetime with is very difficult, but should that cause you to walk around life feeling sad and sorrowful? Absolutely not. Should it cause you to be desperate and put a woman in the passenger seat of your life that is not suited for it? No way.

You have to consider much of life sort of like the stock market and you have to allocate our resources into those aspects that will bring a return and you also have to know when to withhold. If I know I can't win at something in some particular point in time, then it makes no sense investing in it. For example, when the market is surging and everything is overpriced, buying in such a market will only cause you to lose money.

If the market isn't right at the time for you to date, don't date. Invest your time and mentality elsewhere. If it is right, then invest. But the key is to always focus your mind on things that will bring you joy and prosperity.

 

[kevm3]

If women aren't biting, then what do you invest in? Invest in getting your mind right. Invest in getting closer to Jesus, invest in spending time with your family, invest time in your friends, invest time in your business pursuits.

One thing as a man that is critical is to have some business about you. Having a ton of idle time is where you will get into problems. You have to fill your day with interesting activities. What are some places you like to hang out at? What are some great books you like to read? What are some destinations you want to go to?

The key in life is to be PROACTIVE and focus on the things you have control over. I can't control someone else's behavior, but I can control who I let in my life and whether I give them control over my emotions. Your life should be invested in God, in high quality people and in interesting activities. This will give you a huge buffer in the event some woman up and leaves or someone does you wrong. When you keep yourself up, you know that if one woman leaves, you are still in the zone that another one will find you attractive.

 

[MikelArteta]

Some people think I hate women or that many of us hate women when that is farthest from the truth, when you speak things folks don't want to hear you'll be lashed out, folks will do anything for vagina that they won't dare raise a voice even when they know its wrong.

Honestly I wish I had this thread when I was younger, I remember being young and arrogant and smug and thought I had it all. I remember older folks trying to give me advice and I just chuckled, then when I got played, life as I knew it and thought it would be was over .

I'd scour the web looking for how to do this and how to do that, I would read of folks in the same situations as me, I would post my own story and people would give me advice and I would be like no way, they don't know my girl, she's different, what we have/had is special , just rationalizing and putting shades over black eyes.

However out of every situation you can become stronger, ever watch like sports and a team is down like 14 in say football in the 4th but you don't see like the vet qb like on the sideline because he's seen it all before. I have seen and heard it all from women before, I've had a woman in my own home tell me to my face how much she loves me and she's so thankful I'm in her life, talking about the future and ish and a minute later when she's in the shower open up a key logger and see nothing but lewd activities going on.

The beauty is though I got over it, I've gotten over everything that's why now if a woman acts up I'm gone, if she discards me I'm gone, although yes we all deal with pain an disappoint we all react differently. I know although at that moment there may be a hole in my chest, that it will get smaller and smaller day by day if I take the correct steps. Just like in sports some guys can play through a sprain ankle while others can't. Some take longer to come back from a torn acl others come back quicker but they heal nonetheless.

Everything you need in life you have!! good health, friends, family, food a roof over your head, many don't have this. I can think of all the days, weeks, months, even years I wasted thinking daily about women in my life, thinking this and that, yet I had so much to give thankful for. There are individuals our age all over the world who never woke up this morning, rotting away in prison for life, homeless, sick in the hospital with debilitating diseases yet were because a chick ain't feeling us like we are her?

So yeah you can become bitter, angry, upset but that won't change the situation, or you can work on yourself and come back better and stronger and rush for 2,000 yards ala adrian peterson, because to me it's much better to become solid like a oak tree, what I mean is be strong, stand up tall, be rooted in good soil and you can weather any storms.

 

[b_priest9mm]

all these girls picking me to approach them but I can't.

I'm still working on my body game (a long way from ripped) and my place has no furniture. Can't bring a girl to a place that aint at least a little swagged out.

I'm feeling like but I feel like because I know I can't follow through with my opportunities yet.

Moral: Learn how to talk to these women and hit the gym brehs.

 

[The ADD]

Wrong mindset. Approach them if you want to. If they aren't open to where you are in life then so be it.

Solid chicks have different things they go for and a lot of it isn't what we think it is.

 

[MikelArteta]

Wrong mindset. Approach them if you want to. If they aren't open to where you are in life then so be it.

Solid chicks have different things they go for and a lot of it isn't what we think it is.

exactly like I said nothing in life is guaranteed, if your waiting to be "established" to spit game or until you get a 6 pac you may be disappointed.

I remember making 8.50 a hour, pay as you go cell phone, no car, prob was like 5'10 140lbs yet I had success because I was confident in who I was.

 

[kevm3]

Some people think I hate women or that many of us hate women when that is farthest from the truth, when you speak things folks don't want to hear you'll be lashed out, folks will do anything for vagina that they won't dare raise a voice even when they know its wrong.

Honestly I wish I had this thread when I was younger, I remember being young and arrogant and smug and thought I had it all. I remember older folks trying to give me advice and I just chuckled, then when I got played, life as I knew it and thought it would be was over .

I'd scour the web looking for how to do this and how to do that, I would read of folks in the same situations as me, I would post my own story and people would give me advice and I would be like no way, they don't know my girl, she's different, what we have/had is special , just rationalizing and putting shades over black eyes.

However out of every situation you can become stronger, ever watch like sports and a team is down like 14 in say football in the 4th but you don't see like the vet qb like on the sideline because he's seen it all before. I have seen and heard it all from women before, I've had a woman in my own home tell me to my face how much she loves me and she's so thankful I'm in her life, talking about the future and ish and a minute later when she's in the shower open up a key logger and see nothing but lewd activities going on.

The beauty is though I got over it, I've gotten over everything that's why now if a woman acts up I'm gone, if she discards me I'm gone, although yes we all deal with pain an disappoint we all react differently. I know although at that moment there may be a hole in my chest, that it will get smaller and smaller day by day if I take the correct steps. Just like in sports some guys can play through a sprain ankle while others can't. Some take longer to come back from a torn acl others come back quicker but they heal nonetheless.

Everything you need in life you have!! good health, friends, family, food a roof over your head, many don't have this. I can think of all the days, weeks, months, even years I wasted thinking daily about women in my life, thinking this and that, yet I had so much to give thankful for. There are individuals our age all over the world who never woke up this morning, rotting away in prison for life, homeless, sick in the hospital with debilitating diseases yet were because a chick ain't feeling us like we are her?

So yeah you can become bitter, angry, upset but that won't change the situation, or you can work on yourself and come back better and stronger and rush for 2,000 yards ala adrian peterson, because to me it's much better to become solid like a oak tree, what I mean is be strong, stand up tall, be rooted in good soil and you can weather any storms.

That's really the number 1 rule. You aren't special. If she did it to someone else, in time she'll do it to you. If she did it before, she'll do it again. Rule number 2 is that most women are transient. Here today, gone tomorrow.

It's easy to get caught up in 'seduction', aka a pleasant personality assuring you that it will never be so, but as a man you have to use your sense and understand that people operate on patterns of behavior.

What's cold is someone telling you they love you and all of that and then have someone else they are dealing with immediately after, but it's way more common than you think. I think it's best to assume that any woman you are talking to probably has several other men she's talking to at one time. It may be inaccurate some times, but I find it more accurate than not. Most women are in touch with numerous dudes, so if you find out you aren't the 'one and only', no need to get mad. Simply move on.

You have to make your base something other than women, because if it's contingent on women, what if all the ones you are dealing with are messed up? What if they all decide to peel off? At some point, you will be left by yourself, so learning to be alone and satisfied is crucial to making great decisions for yourself and avoiding dependency.

NEVER sit around and wait up on women or make your day contingent upon them. I find a lot of dudes get in a zone where they are sitting around all day hoping a woman calls back, and if she doesn't their day is ruined. To the contrary, they should be so immersed in various affairs of the day that it is no big deal if she doesn't call back. She just simply plays herself out of spending time with you.

Learning to stay busy is critical. It's important to make women such a small part of your life that if one leaves, you really don't trip because you are so busy with something else. NEVER make a woman a foundation of your life because they are so unpredictable. You could be 'doing everything right', and she could be telling you all the sweet nothings about how she is so in love, but she has a dude or dudes she's talking to in the background, having conversations that would make the average man's stomach churn and his heart drop. I simply think we're in the day and age where you no longer are able to 'build' with a woman because they are so transient. Rather, you let them 'participate' in your lifestyle for as long as they remain loyal and bring you joy and not worries. If she disqualifies herself? Oh well, time to go watch that movie I always wanted to. Time to go hang out with my homeboy. Time to hit the gym. Time to read the Bible. Time to realize there are several other women who want the opportunity she had.

 

[kevm3]

Wrong mindset. Approach them if you want to. If they aren't open to where you are in life then so be it.

Solid chicks have different things they go for and a lot of it isn't what we think it is.

I agree with you that if you wait for 'having what women want' before talking to them, you'll be waiting forever.

What I think is important for him is to get to a point where HE feels comfortable with himself as opposed to what he imagines a woman would want. If there is some glaring fault he feels about himself, that insecurity will always start flowing out. But to wait for what he think is the perfect package for women is going to have him always insecure because one day this woman is going to want this and the next day she'll want that. I've seen 'bummy' guys pull some fine females, but ultimately they were comfortable in their bumminess that it didn't matter to her.

 

[Ohene]

Wrong mindset. Approach them if you want to. If they aren't open to where you are in life then so be it.

Solid chicks have different things they go for and a lot of it isn't what we think it is.

i swear some of these dudes are clueless.

my brother is 28, still lives at home with me and my parents, and has a subway pass as his transportation. My bro doesnt even dress well man.

his girl comes here, stays the night and fukks here too. It's whatever. If a girl sees promise / attraction in you she will deal with it. Mind you she was doing this even when she had her own condo/whip.

I dont have my own place, car either but I believe I'm still that nikka regardless so i'll never let that stop me. Especially when not having a car has allowed me to save money very astutely.

 

[Ohene]

The sad part is depending on the age of some of us, most of these girls wont have their own decked out place/car either. If they do theyre probably in quite a bit of debt or living check to check between those expenses and all the extraneous stuff giirls like to do like buy clothes, go to the spa and wear weave extensions.

Think about how demeaning it is to feel like you HAVE to have these sorts of things just to be able to bag a girl who already might be feeling you. You gonna let these girls use you for rides to work and free shelter as well once you get your things? Cause thats what youre setting yourself up with having that mentality @b_priest9mm

 

[Pyrexcup]

i swear some of these dudes are clueless.

my brother is 28, still lives at home with me and my parents

his girl comes here, stays the night and fukks here too. It's whatever. If a girl sees promise / attraction in you she will deal with it.

I dont have my own place, car either but I believe I'm still that nikka regardless so i'll never let that stop me. Especially when not having a car has allowed me to save money very astutely.

agree with this. there are plenty of dimes fukking with absolute bums, guys who have no money or job and still live at home and still buys them stuff

 

[Ohene]

agree with this. there are plenty of dimes fukking with absolute bums, guys who have no money or job and still live at home and still buys them stuff

I'm saying. And thats not even to say my bro is a bum or that anybody who lives with their parents are...everyone has certain reasons. The point is that most girls dont fukk with dudes for material reasons unless the dude is a trick. Theres no way around it. In fact...a girl could even like a dude but as soon as he starts tricking I can guarantee she'll stop feeling homie and will just use him for gifts/favors.