Yup. Scarcity mindedness makes you feel like there isn't anything else out there.and @kevm3 is right, you will be ok breh
just remember with your ex, how you felt and then how you got over it. I know how some dudes may clown because she's all the while in japan but that doesn't mean anything. When your invested your invested and it always stings when you check your stocks and its enron status.
Trust me I spent like 5 years pinning, going back and forth with an ex basically my whole middle to late twenties, time I will never get back. Time WASTED!
Never again, there are way way way to many women out there, and not even that there is so much to do in life, your passions, hobbies, travel, help others etc. to stay pinning for someone who doesnt view you the same way.
Yup. Scarcity mindedness makes you feel like there isn't anything else out there.
There are more single women of every age, demographic than ever before and all you have to do is click with one.
Why waste your time if your not clicking with one
i have to say yall, i really love and admire the thriving camaraderie in this thread. i feel like almost everyone in here has each other's back. and i really appreciate that. when someone comes in here with negativity, they get pushed out. and that's how it should be. and when one of our guys gets got by a female, theres no shortage of GREAT Advice being given by everyone to help the man in pain see things with a clear perspective and to help lift him out of the misery he's in. keep up the good work guys!
while this thread is mainly about women and how to deal with them, i hope sometime down the line, we can all share advices on how to advance in the corporate world or the business world (hopefully a different thread). help progress each other's lives.
Something I've found is that most women are constantly talking to numerous guys, so everything might seem to be going swell, but then she can end up disappearing to no fault of your own and you sit there questioning 'what you did wrong'. You did nothing wrong. She just simply decided to explore another option, and sometimes they don't bother to tell you.
You can mope around and feel sorry or you can get angry, but the better solution is to 'move on', and it's important to walk in to every relation assuming that she'll leave at any moment. The punch that knocks you out is the one you don't expect.
This is one of the reasons why I'm against 'sacrificing' for a woman, such as up and moving to go to a city where she wants to go while sacrificing your own career in the process. For the most part, with a few exceptions, I don't find women very appreciative. Once they lose feelings for you, it doesn't matter what you did... you're toast and they throw you away. Most women you deal with, you will also find that they never ponder fairness. They only ponder their routine of being in the best position possible. How routinely do you find feminists arguing against when women benefit heavily such as in the court system? You don't see them argue as such. So you're going hard and doing everything to appease this woman when she will throw you away on a whim? You're worried about her when she's talking to 5 different guys at once?
I'm telling you, there are only a few decent women out there and they are very difficult to find. These are the women that DO NOT make you worry or make you 'feel insecure'. They aren't doing shady things like hanging with a bunch of guys and telling you they are just a bunch of friends. A lot of women are 'friendly', 'cool', and you can have a very enjoyable time with them, but they are not principled, meaning they are cool with 10 other men when you aren't around. Don't sweat these women, and when you get your gem, you better hold on, because now you see what lays out in the minefield known as modern dating.
Something I've found is that most women are constantly talking to numerous guys, so everything might seem to be going swell, but then she can end up disappearing to no fault of your own and you sit there questioning 'what you did wrong'. You did nothing wrong. She just simply decided to explore another option, and sometimes they don't bother to tell you.
You can mope around and feel sorry or you can get angry, but the better solution is to 'move on', and it's important to walk in to every relation assuming that she'll leave at any moment. The punch that knocks you out is the one you don't expect.
This is one of the reasons why I'm against 'sacrificing' for a woman, such as up and moving to go to a city where she wants to go while sacrificing your own career in the process. For the most part, with a few exceptions, I don't find women very appreciative. Once they lose feelings for you, it doesn't matter what you did... you're toast and they throw you away. Most women you deal with, you will also find that they never ponder fairness. They only ponder their routine of being in the best position possible. How routinely do you find feminists arguing against when women benefit heavily such as in the court system? You don't see them argue as such. So you're going hard and doing everything to appease this woman when she will throw you away on a whim? You're worried about her when she's talking to 5 different guys at once?
I'm telling you, there are only a few decent women out there and they are very difficult to find. These are the women that DO NOT make you worry or make you 'feel insecure'. They aren't doing shady things like hanging with a bunch of guys and telling you they are just a bunch of friends. A lot of women are 'friendly', 'cool', and you can have a very enjoyable time with them, but they are not principled, meaning they are cool with 10 other men when you aren't around. Don't sweat these women, and when you get your gem, you better hold on, because now you see what lays out in the minefield known as modern dating.
Now she hits me up talking about what's up??
I don't even feel like responding.
I just said "what's up?" and she's like "so-so.. you??" I'm like "I'm good."Like I say they always come back
I just said "what's up?" and she's like "so-so.. you??" I'm like "I'm good."
Then she goes "Fatboi1... I just wanted to say sorry for what I said the other day.. I know my words hurt you and i was thinking and I felt I should apologize." "I'm still thinking about me and I don't know the answer yet.." "I just wanted to tell you about it today."
??
I feel like telling her just "cool."
and then to top it off, she said the usual "Good luck at work!" message she usually sent me every morning(In japanese). I didn't even look at that shyt.We call that breadcrumbs, ala giving you hope.
She's not sure what she wants but stay in the wings and wait, hang to cliff of hope