rules are meant to be broken. Majority of women who REALLY want companionship don't hold themselves or men who they like to whatever "standards" they claim to have
rules are meant to be broken. Majority of women who REALLY want companionship don't hold themselves or men who they like to whatever "standards" they claim to have
I will give one example…spoiler alertI managed to binge almost all of A Different World in a few weeks and it might be the most underrated sitcom. Life I tell you…
Things may look different these days but all in all, shyt dont really change at the core. It’s a fictional TV show but a lot of the themes in it are still present today (for better or worse).
The ending makes for a good love story, but realistically there is no way Whitley and Dwayne last in the long run, and they never should have gotten together in the first place.
Essentially! Nothing has truly changed about the dating game. There are just new avenues to monetize it. The only people that came up are the podcast folks on both sides. These are the unchosen ones who have gained game and money trying to poison the dating well for everyone else spreading horror stories. But the ground rules remain the the same. Be the best version of yourself and tell the truth. You'll have plenty of opportunities and options to meet out here.Think about it
For all the talk about toxic masculinity, feminism, incels, mental illness, redpill, narcissism, and all this other shyt…what has really changed?
The same types of dudes who would’ve ate with women back then are the ones eating today…ultimately the ones who are unapologetic and go for what they want (e.g. Dwayne saying fukk Byrons wedding and stealing his girl lol).
I say all that to say block out all the noise you see online stick to the fundamentals. Be your best self unapologetically and go after the women you want. Don’t try to ever fit into or conform to what the world tries to tell you it is to be a man or what you must be to attract women.
Having an experience with a woman who was on your gameplan also helps a lot to identify bullshytAnd honestly, many men dont even know it and won’t realize it until its too late. Why? Because women are good at faking it. In their defense they dont even know thats what theyre doing sometimes, they think theyre being righteous and doing whats best but in reality theyre wasting peoples time. Thats the dangerous thing about “feelings”, theyre fickle.
I was talking to a married friend of mine about this last nightHaving an experience with a woman who was on your gameplan also helps a lot to identify bullshyt
I still use my ex as a litmus test for behavior I want and don’t want in a relationship
InterestingI was talking to a married friend of mine about this last night
In my opinion its almost impossible to find the older you get. Even he said if he wasnt married he wouldnt date a girl unless she was 25 or younger and were 33/34. People get accustomed to living a certain lifestyle and get so bogged down with baggage that it makes it hard for them to trust people. That includes men but it's even worse with [attractive] women who tend to be coddled and are thus used to getting what they want. And its even worse with black women because I think our cultures are more matriarchal. I could be wrong though. There are always exceptions but in my experience it's just very difficult and the trust of a woman is very fragile. The slightest slip up or miscommunication will trigger them and they runnin for the hills
All of this. When you experience that REAL, have a chick really into you, experience how its supposed to be easy and not like you dragging or chasing a mule it make you know what its supposed to be annd someone cant play you or gaslight you on some naivete. Probably cut off a large percentage of market for you also. Its just not worth it especially as the investing partyHaving an experience with a woman who was on your gameplan also helps a lot to identify bullshyt
I still use my ex as a litmus test for behavior I want and don’t want in a relationship
i agree. but have you ever had a girl that was REEEALLY into you at one point...only for her to completely do a 180 as the relationship progresses or grows?All of this. When you experience that REAL, have a chick really into you, experience how its supposed to be easy and not like you dragging or chasing a mule it make you know what its supposed to be annd someone cant play you or gaslight you on some naivete. Probably cut off a large percentage of market for you also. Its just not worth it especially as the investing party
Oh yea, them breaking bad almost seems inevitable, but the actual long term situations I can also say I had a part in when that happened also. I saw it mentioned here before but me now understanding how me being "distant" works great for short term dating, I see how it would have a negative ripple for long term. Thats probably a L I hold if I lay it on the table.i agree. but have you ever had a girl that was REEEALLY into you at one point...only for her to completely do a 180 as the relationship progresses or grows?
Always said "dating" is a young mans game. Like a large percentage of pool will be young brehs, then you have some older who probably got out of long term situation but they have already fulfilled their genetic and social obligations most likely. For brehs in their mid 30s, you playing by different set of rules depending on your goals. There was a thread in TLR I think while back where brehs in that demo were breaking it down.I was talking to a married friend of mine about this last night
In my opinion its almost impossible to find the older you get. Even he said if he wasnt married he wouldnt date a girl unless she was 25 or younger and were 33/34. People get accustomed to living a certain lifestyle and get so bogged down with baggage that it makes it hard for them to trust people. That includes men but it's even worse with [attractive] women who tend to be coddled and are thus used to getting what they want. And its even worse with black women because I think our cultures are more matriarchal. I could be wrong though. There are always exceptions but in my experience it's just very difficult and the trust of a woman is very fragile. The slightest slip up or miscommunication will trigger them and they runnin for the hills
I hear you.Always said "dating" is a young mans game. Like a large percentage of pool will be young brehs, then you have some older who probably got out of long term situation but they have already fulfilled their genetic and social obligations most likely. For brehs in their mid 30s, you playing by different set of rules depending on your goals. There was a thread in TLR I think while back where brehs in that demo were breaking it down.
And when I really sit there and think, even the most "select" brehs who have options beyond most wildest dreams get pulled off the market. I got a literal Unc, who used to be one of the biggest players I knew growing up (probably one of inspirations from my youth real talk), he used to have women coming to his brother house looking for him, he would have a pager and then have to run to pay phone and put in his emotional labor. Some women only knew to find him at our house, it was a different game back then before the tech ball n chains we have now. Ran into him at wedding after I havent seen in decade plus, I was legit likeIn parking lot of wedding, Im with my little cuz who didnt know the background and im like take my pic while trying to break it down for him. We taking the pic and chopping it up, and Im like yooooo "this was the biggest player...." and he stopped me and was like "chill got the ol lady in the car" Im like huh?? You used to have late 90s era dimessssss on gooo lol. Man we sat and chopped it up, and thats when you notice the aging, the deisel muscles gone, more worried about building and retirement, kids and helping them. Father time aint no joke. That was an eye opening thing because this was the select breh who could play "the game" forever. Growing up I knew a like 3-4 legit players, even had a cousin who was in church heavy but he was pulling different church girls, my young eyes couldnt even comprehend. All them brehs are family men now, older kids in college type. Brehs have to get clear on their goals and make sure their actions align, and from the pic posted above the game is getting dam near impossible if 4s are rewriting the rulebook due to oversaturation of options.
I hear you.
I think we overestimate how much time we have or how easy it is to find a woman (or woman finding a man). But what happens is you can be 22 years old fresh out of schoo. You spend a year getting to know random people until you find somebody yo actually vibe with. Then youv spend 2 years dating somebody before you break up. Then you spend another year fully getting over them and another two or 3 years dating somebody. Thats a total of 7 years and before you know it you are 29 years old and its crunch time.
I for instance ran through a lot of hoes but I always wanted something serious. I can honestly say I just wasted my time with certain people though. Two girls I dated but then they moved overseas leading to break ups. That was between ages 21-25. Then I moved out on my own and was exploring a bit while also hustling. Around this time I can honestly say I was still learning about women. From age 27-29 I dated one girl and we broke up around the start of COVID. Then COVID happens which stifles your ability to meet women...etc etc. Before you know it youre in youre early 30s and looking at a cess pool.
shyt creeps on your very fast and the culture shifts quickly as well. Comparing precovid dating to dating now is somewhat jarring due to the proliferation of social media. Nobody could have seen the changes being this stark.