Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

The ADD

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Yeah, they’re quick to meet after work for happy hour, tea, coffee. I just don’t like wasting too much time on the phone, I rather pay $7 for coffee / tea or $20 for drinks and figure it out in real time.

Then I decide if I want to keep investing or not.
Plus joints who are out, are hornier on the weekday lol.
People should take note of this advice
 

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Any LA brehs out here?

Is Tinder and Bumble working for you out here? Hinge seems to be the only one that is still popping, and has a good ratio of real women to bots/timewasters (plus you can filter by more heavily :mjpls: )

I'm restarting my account, but I'm not sure if I need to wait a while before creating a new one.

In unrelated news, the weekend went pretty well. Bar crawl had a bunch of mid hoes, so I left after a while to venture on my own. Got a few numbers from some sistas in the clubs that I'm trying to make plans with.

Rooftop bars and lounges are where it's at. Ace in DTLA was bumping. Good crowd with a lot of good looking sistas. I'm going to start throwing in Meetup events and probably do daygame approaches. Need to find hos who are into hiking and shyt.
 
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these women really unmatch over nothing. I told her I have a roof deck. she says she has 2 roof decks. I said damn you're a double decker. You free to meet up tomorrow night? she said sorry I only date men with 3 roof decks. I said I am a quality or quantity type man as a joke and she unmatched me. This is after we were connecting good for a few days. You can't make sense of a women's mind but still sucks at first till you match someone else I guess.

I got 3 other dates lined up this week but she was bad.

:mjlol: for just being petty.
 

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Aight fellas, need some advice.

Before you read this and wonder why I don't just take my L, I should clarify that I'm a boob guy. It's #1 on non-facial things that make a girl attractive to me. Not even close. Nothing makes me happier physically. Anyway...

I swiped on this Latina who had some Autumn Falls type joints on an app. We match. I'm texting her to keep things warm before the date, and then I realize she doesn't have any full body pics. I'm like "uh oh."

We go on a date. She's wearing a loose fitting denim jacket and it's like 74 degrees outside- I can't see her midsection at all. That plus a dress right abover her knees. Pretty, but a bit of a round face, and she mentioned being from Texas, so I'm like OK I think she's probably Mexican and this might be a fridge in the mid situation.

Date goes fine, she's nice to talk to & we get along well. End of the date, she mentions having a wonderful time & conversation. I'm thinking...I can't play around with this when I got 2 days a weekend to see women and I have other matches I want to date. Your boy's trying to lock one down for good now and has strict criteria.

I text her later and curve her in terms of a 2nd date (said I didn't feel romantic chemistry), but she's cool, so we say in touch via text. I basically friend zone her.

Fast forward a few days, we connect on IG. I go to take a quick look at her pictures after I add her and......:bryan:. At the very worst she's just a little bit soft in pics from like a month ago. Chubby would even be too strong a word.

Pics from 3 months ago and she's looking like :wow:.


My mind is racing now and I'm like holy shyt this might be the 2nd worst fumble in my career.

How do I salvage this? We're still texting, but what would y'all do?

HELP!!! :damn:
 

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Just say you played it too cautious in not trying to play games but that since y’all are still in communication you are feeling her and take it from there.
 

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I mean, she's still talking to you and giving you her socials so she's obviously feeling you. Tell her you were just being dumb cause you were scared of your feelings or some shyt.

Hopefully a lesson learned though. You gotta be meticulous with this shyt. Never rush into a decision one way or the other.

And always get the IG before the date.
 

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I mean, she's still talking to you and giving you her socials so she's obviously feeling you. Tell her you were just being dumb cause you were scared of your feelings or some shyt.

Hopefully a lesson learned though. You gotta be meticulous with this shyt. Never rush into a decision one way or the other.

And always get the IG before the date.
yea im surprised he did that. thats some female shyt in my opinion.
i wont dash a girl away until i know for certain theres no attraction
 

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I swear the game has got easier since I've stopped actively trying :dahell:
I smashed two new women just off the strength this year, lined up a third after going on a date last night.

Was an old Hinge link that never went anywhere I can't remember why, but I still had the number.
Saw her pic on my Whatapp last week and hit the :leon:Sent out a passive feeler message and she was receptive.
Still remembered me and date was set up pretty quickly.

Within 10 Mins I knew I had it sealed.
She was all over me very touchy. Half way through I asked her what she was up to on the weekend and she hit the "Why? You tryna see me again?" :steviej:

Ended with a kiss and she's coming over this weekend.
Always remember guys, if she likes you enough dating should be really easy :ufdup:
 

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I got into a discussion with a woman because she showed this video and said how she likes Kevin and his silliness.

I told her that’s emasculating and her wife really feels like that. Was I trippin? I know he’s a comedian and has to pander to his female base but I told her he was doing too much. She says men should be more comfortable like him online.



He does skits like this literally all the time and is a whole goof.

Not that serious
 

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Your second mistake was not trying to initiate a situation where you could hug her and see if she was fridge built.

Your first mistake was not doing your pre date reconnaissance properly.

It can take less than 10 mins.

If i'm meeting a chick. All I need is her first name and what field of work she’s in, then I can see her socials, if she has any.

Her online footprint. Previous successes, If her pictures are recent etc...

Saved me some potential grief in the past.
 

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Your second mistake was not trying to initiate a situation where you could hug her and see if she was fridge built.

Your first mistake was not doing your pre date reconnaissance properly.

It can take less than 10 mins.

If i'm meeting a chick. All I need is her first name and what field of work she’s in, then I can see her socials, if she has any.

Her online footprint. Previous successes, If her pictures are recent etc...

Saved me some potential grief in the past.

I do this and fall back regularly. I always run into issues when their name is a short form of a long name where it could be 3 or 4 different names. It was in this case. Got her LinkedIn but that was it.

If the apps would just put in a damn build filter it'd all be solved, but nah...only height for the women.
 
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