Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[jilla82]

After 2 months I decided to crawl back to my ex and apologize for mistreating herapparently she got new bf and said his better than me and treats her right.
When I asked one of my dude who knows her to come talk to me(she had me blocked on social media) she came running back to me

that going back to an ex shyt is a straight trap

youve been warned

 

[jilla82]

anyone in here at the age of 35+ and still dating- do yall still crave for a family, longterm relationship etc?

dont really crave it.

it looks nice sometimes...
...but whenever I take a real look at how married dudes are living it doesnt look appealing.

I can see dating a woman in a somewhat serious manner...
...but I dont believe in that dream we were sold.

You gotta find happiness in yourself
Relationship YT channels are so big because most people are looking for that via other people.

 

[Max.]

ive had multiple women agree to be fwb and than get fukkn cold feet 3 days later before we even meet

 

[Max.]

thoughts on how I shud play this?

22yo single mom…we grabbed drinks one time and she’s posed to come thru tmrw.

She hit me up tonight like let’s go out I’m kid free…told her to call n she been silent since…

I already know wat this means but should this be bushes or let her come thru tmrw and beat and then bush?

Beat and bush

 

[Dave24]

dont really crave it.

it looks nice sometimes...
...but whenever I take a real look at how married dudes are living it doesnt look appealing.

I can see dating a woman in a somewhat serious manner...
...but I dont believe in that dream we were sold.

You gotta find happiness in yourself
Relationship YT channels are so big because most people are looking for that via other people.

@jilla82 how are married dudes living from what you have seen? Got any stories/insights?

 

[jilla82]

@jilla82 how are married dudes living from what you have seen? Got any stories/insights?

No sex
both parties cheating
stressed
staying together because its familiar and their lives are too intertwined.

A long time friend of my ex's sister was/is married (havent seen them in 3 years).
The woman would openly tell her friends she didnt like her husband anymore but was sticking around so she could collect more money in a divorce.

Also know another chick that proposed an open relationship to her husband...
...of course she already had a man in mind.
The man she had interest in was married...she wanted to be in a relationship with him and his wife.

I gotta friend now thats fuking a married chick that says her and her husband havent had sex in 7 years.
Ol girl told my guy her husband would be dumb if he wasnt sleeping with someone else (he's in the military).

Last time I checked FB I changed my profile pick..
...right away two married women from my past private messaged me wondering what I was up to


Could go on for days.

I love longterm relationships.
My longest is 13 years.
I just dont see a reason to put all your hopes and dreams in another person.

edit: Ill add to this.
The person you marry will be completely different 5, 10, 20 yrs down the line.
What are the odds you like that person they turn into (and vice versa)?

 

[MikelArteta]

You can never tell what goes on behind those closed doors.

A ton of people selling a fantasy life that isn't reality.

No sex
both parties cheating
stressed
staying together because its familiar and their lives are too intertwined.

A long time friend of my ex's sister was/is married (havent seen them in 3 years).
The woman would openly tell her friends she didnt like her husband anymore but was sticking around so she could collect more money in a divorce.

Also know another chick that proposed an open relationship to her husband...
...of course she already had a man in mind.
The man she had interest in was married...she wanted to be in a relationship with him and his wife.

I gotta friend now thats fuking a married chick that says her and her husband havent had sex in 7 years.
Ol girl told my guy her husband would be dumb if he wasnt sleeping with someone else (he's in the military).

Last time I checked FB I changed my profile pick..
...right away two married women from my past private messaged me wondering what I was up to


Could go on for days.

I love longterm relationships.
My longest is 13 years.
I just dont see a reason to put all your hopes and dreams in another person.

edit: Ill add to this.
The person you marry will be completely different 5, 10, 20 yrs down the line.
What are the odds you like that person they turn into (and vice versa)?

What happaned in that 13 year relationship?

 

[jilla82]

What happaned in that 13 year relationship?

long story short I went broke.
Switched my hustle (ecommerce to IRL sales) thinking I would make more money because out of nowhere she started talking about marriage/kids.

Bad decision.
She got tired of taking care of bills.
She made $125k+, neither of us had debt, and we were living below our means so money wasnt the issue...
...but I understand.

After our relationship I went back to what I was doing (E Commerce) and started buying crypto at the absolute bottom of the market (2018/19).
Crazy how fast life changes.

A part of me wishes we didnt have to go through that...
...but on the other hand I make way better financial decisions as a single man (less stress) and know how to handle women way better.

You live and you learn

 

[EffYou]

long story short I went broke.
Switched my hustle (ecommerce to IRL sales) thinking I would make more money because out of nowhere she started talking about marriage/kids.

Bad decision.
She got tired of taking care of bills.
She made $125k+, neither of us had debt, and we were living below our means so money wasnt the issue...
...but I understand.

After our relationship I went back to what I was doing (E Commerce) and started buying crypto at the absolute bottom of the market (2018/19).
Crazy how fast life changes.

A part of me wishes we didnt have to go through that...
...but on the other hand I make way better financial decisions as a single man (less stress) and know how to handle women way better.

You live and you learn

Sounds like a success story to me

 

[MikelArteta]

long story short I went broke.
Switched my hustle (ecommerce to IRL sales) thinking I would make more money because out of nowhere she started talking about marriage/kids.

Bad decision.
She got tired of taking care of bills.
She made $125k+, neither of us had debt, and we were living below our means so money wasnt the issue...
...but I understand.

After our relationship I went back to what I was doing (E Commerce) and started buying crypto at the absolute bottom of the market (2018/19).
Crazy how fast life changes.

A part of me wishes we didnt have to go through that...
...but on the other hand I make way better financial decisions as a single (less stress) and know how to handle women way better.

You live and you learn

There is a reason why many men end up marrying a woman who is there for them when they are in the mud.

And that’s the scary thing as well so many will bounce if things change and in life things will change.

I even remember a girl I was dating years ago looking down at my salary

Literally five years later I’m making almost triple of what I was making at that time

 

[Slow Moving]

that going back to an ex shyt is a straight trap

youve been warned

She told me she don't love me anymore but somehow seek my attention. I told her I don't want to be used for attention I have zero interest in female friends=give attention while I give u nothing.
She's throwing tantrums deactivating her accounts and making me seem like the bad guy.
Lol she's clingy insecure female that needs constant attention I poisoned her telling current bf probably has other females hence why his not giving her attention she needs

 

[VertigoKnight]

I love longterm relationships.
My longest is 13 years.
I just dont see a reason to put all your hopes and dreams in another person.

edit: Ill add to this.
The person you marry will be completely different 5, 10, 20 yrs down the line.
What are the odds you like that person they turn into (and vice versa)?

Yeah, my relationship was 12-13 years. 7 years married and she did change a lot in that time and so did I.

But one of the more uncomfortable aspects of relationships is we do fall into putting all of our dreams into that other person and become both self-reliant and overly attached to them. This is why when things go south it takes some of us so long to get over it.

It's only in my single life I can see how unhealthy that is. And it creeps up on you without you noticing.

 

[EffYou]

Yeah, my relationship was 12-13 years. 7 years married and she did change a lot in that time and so did I.

But one of the more uncomfortable aspects of relationships is we do fall into putting all of our dreams into that other person and become both self-reliant and overly attached to them. This is why when things go south it takes some of us so long to get over it.

It's only in my single life I can see how unhealthy that is. And it creeps up on you without you noticing.

Would you give a long term relationship another chance?

 

[VertigoKnight]

Had a fabulous weekend on the island with one of the women I see.

Relaxed on the beach, ate good food and had great sex. Just what I needed to reharge.

On the way back on the ferry I was on the outside deck and these two east african chicks came out to take pictures.

I'd made eye contact with one of them earlier before I boarded but she was with a big group of her I assume family. they were rolling deep.

Anyway her and the other girl start taking pictures.


Now normally, I'd never do a creep shot. Had to do it for the coli.
But Brehs, when I say this chicks body was crazy, it was crazy, ultra slim waist and an ass that was popping.

Spoiler: Picture

 

[Ahadi]

Think I blew this date. A Breh had anxiety for some reason. Idk if it was the nofap or what, but she kept saying I was “tense”, but she was also pretty defensive as well, you know the usual “hurt” & trusting guys.

She came through, wanted to sleep over and everything, but she wanted to wait. I admit I was a bit distracted with work, but certain things in life happen for a reason I guess.



Gelling with someone properly takes time