A square? Not so much, however I’m definitely simping. Big issues looking back were not setting boundaries, or setting them, then allowing them to be breached. Thing is, I wasn’t even looking for anyone fr, she came to me and we REALLY hit it off. It’s been over 2yrs now.
thru that time, i noticed myself devolve/ weaken in a way. idk how to describe it, but it’s like there are so many things i wouldn’t put up w that i do w her. issues that should be talked about i decide against as i feel id be wasting my breath/ repeating myself. been put in a lot of uncomfortable spots due to her too, currently in one now. A lot of my frustration comes from her not listening/ doing what I say and also placing unnecessary burdens on me…it’s like my cup can never be full
as i consider and ultimately decide on breaking up w her, the biggest things on my mind are being lonely and finding someone else. I’m in scarcity right now in honestly
Its a common problem with men who compromise, you simp out of genuine feelings of passion, like/love, comfort, etc. Which again, can be a beautiful thing, there's peace in contextual compromise, but she is/was a user, and perhaps you enabled that because it was the easier thing to do, your fondness of her, made you forget that she's like the rest of them. Capricious children looking less for guidance and more for an enabler.
A square to me, is someone who's normal, they aren't rebels or assertive, they go with the flow. Of course this trickles down to work, social interactions etc. It has nothing do with being a thug or what have you. A lot of men just go with the flow, and settle for less and disrespect, these are the squares and simps of the world, the latter offering too much of themselves for no payback and the former at least having some respect for both their well being and everything else. It sounds like you were both to her, someone she could use, ignore and even put in horrible situations because you'd take it. If she's constantly breaking rules and has no respect for you as a man, and even more importantly, human being...you've stepped into worse waters than titles of simp/square, you've become nothing to her.