Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[lamont614]

This girl I had a one night stand with. She was worried I would block her on my way out. She insisted I stayed longer to cuddle even more but I was mad tired. We fukked all night literally.

Anyways as she walking me to the door she was like “Oh you still awkward “.
Shawty a damn nerd herself too. Showed me her damn Animal Crossing island and shyt after sex lmao.

She’s a teacher. She lives in a very nice neighborhood with some older relative cause I saw the walker and all that old head shyt when she sent me to the master bedroom to bring her washcloth cause she made me nut on her face.

Anyways she blocked me when I left despite her saying she was worried I would block her. I’ve told this story before and @Prynce says that’s most likely ADHD. I was overwhelmed by her “liking” me I guess.

Anyways I still got her address. Should I leave her a letter? I can’t find her on IG and she had some of the best p*ssy I’ve had. I haven’t seen her on tinder in all this time again. It’s been like a year at least.

Why didn’t you just call her from a different number

 

[Rozay Oro]

Why didn’t you just call her from a different number

Met her on tinder. She was so defensive before I pulled up because I was like let me shower and she was like don’t flex on me. Bish we matched, relax.

I thought of buying her some bullshyt animal crossing or anime art book, put a letter in it. Put the book in them big thick yellow envelopes. Leaving that shyt at her door. Is that weird?

 

[lamont614]

Met her on tinder. She was so defensive before I pulled up because I was like let me shower and she was like don’t flex on me. Bish we matched, relax.

I thought of buying her some bullshyt animal crossing or anime art book, put a letter in it. Put the book in them big thick yellow envelopes. Leaving that shyt at her door. Is that weird?

Why not? nothing to lose

 

[Rozay Oro]

Why not? nothing to lose

She lives with some older sickly relative as I can tell. Idk if more folk live there too. Would it be wiser to send thru mail and make the mailman deliver it for me? I would have to get a P.O. Box cause I don’t think you can send mail without a return address. Idk shorty last name. Or just put only her name on it and draw anime bullshyt on it?

 

[RawDogBandit]

My biggest thing this year is discipline and just learning to be alone. My ex let me hit on new years eve even though she's talking to another nikka and I told her I'm working on making myself better so if we get back together I'm in a better place spiritually, mentally, and physically. I wanna marry this mf but I know the type of wedding and lifestyle we require would mean a lot of work no dates etc and forget even her for a second I was complacent in my early 20's with my salary and career and now I know I need change and I'm taking the active steps.


Think my problem was I was still getting p*ssy with a pretty regular salary then I got into a relationship where she always wanted marriage and I didn't until she moved on.

I know I shouldn’t even be on hinge but I matched with a girl on hinge who is studying for the mcat and I broke down how I want to change my life and worry about my goals this year and she still wants to stick around. Talking about we can study together -you for certs and me mcat's this girl took my iPad and made a whole study schedule routine, She's night and day from my ex- younger, my ex- want's her husband to make 300k /her- more reasonable/ my ex- wants me to pay for everything, made it a point to say the new guy pays for everything. new girl- took me on date from some shyt from tik tok date and paid and will at least reach for her card when we go out.

We had sex and then I said we shouldn't be doing that because it will complicate things and she still is sticking around. She's a real nice girl and I don't want to hurt her, I can tell she likes me a lot

Idk why me and my ex are still talking before yall ask man. We go like 3 days without talking she'll facetime me frantic saying she can't find the earrings I bought her or advice on her job. I'll call her text her some random stuff some days and we facetime. Last time we talked she said well even if I wanted to get back with you, you said you wanna fix yourself first so. Then at first, she said if the nikka ask her out she gonna say yes, but then said she don't know cuz she talking to me and she would have to completely cut that out. And she dk why she still hits me up

Def think I need to go celibate rest of the year.

Your ex is using you fam...and you're using her. You're using each other as placeholders essentially. Let her go. It's blinding you and will have you off track for months/years if you're not careful.

The new girl is doing everything she can to show you she's wifey material and you're slightly tossing it aside(maybe for good reason). You want to achieve a certain level in life before you settle down. You'll end up hurting her unless you decide on commitment within the next few months or permanently put her in the friend zone(which is damn near impossible now to stay in forever ) Let her go or lock her down. You just described her positives to us. That shows how you currently view her. She'll probably be on of those girls you look back on in 5 years saying, damn she was a good one.

Move wisely in the next few months breh. This type of situation and the choices you make can largely affect how you move emotionally the next few years.

 

[RealCrownHeights]

Your ex is using you fam...and you're using her. You're using each other as placeholders essentially. Let her go. It's blinding you and will have you off track for months/years if you're not careful.

The new girl is doing everything she can to show you she's wifey material and you're slightly tossing it aside(maybe for good reason). You want to achieve a certain level in life before you settle down. You'll end up hurting her unless you decide on commitment within the next few months or permanently put her in the friend zone(which is damn near impossible now to stay in forever ) Let her go or lock her down. You just described her positives to us. That shows how you currently view her. She'll probably be on of those girls you look back on in 5 years saying, damn she was a good one.

Move wisely in the next few months breh. This type of situation and the choices you make can largely affect how you move emotionally the next few years.

I would marry my ex right now if I could afford it. We dated for 3 years, I'm thinking if I should ask her if she willing to build together while we wait to get our goals

And the new girl is excellent but sexual chemistry for me not really there

 

[RaspberryFitted]

I would marry my ex right now if I could afford it. We dated for 3 years, I'm thinking if I should ask her if she willing to build together while we wait to get our goals

And the new girl is excellent but sexual chemistry for me not really there

Is the chemistry something that could be worked on?

 

[RealCrownHeights]

Is the chemistry something that could be worked on?

I think so. The second time we hooked up, I couldn't get I up for the first time in my life. I'm hard on accident most times pause maybe I was thinking bout my ex.

And she doesn't have much ass but she works out and is trying

 

[RaspberryFitted]

I think so. The second time we hooked up, I couldn't get I up for the first time in my life. I'm hard on accident most times pause maybe I was thinking bout my ex.

And she doesn't have much ass but she works out and is trying

So y’all only hooked up twice, you didn’t get hard (could be a number of reasons besides not being attracted to her) and she doesn’t have an ass…

Are those truly dealbreakers for a woman who actively wants you to do well and is willingly to help you get there?

 

[lamont614]

She lives with some older sickly relative as I can tell. Idk if more folk live there too. Would it be wiser to send thru mail and make the mailman deliver it for me? I would have to get a P.O. Box cause I don’t think you can send mail without a return address. Idk shorty last name. Or just put only her name on it and draw anime bullshyt on it?

just pop up deliver it yourself

girls luv crazy


If she like it or not she going remember you

 

[Rozay Oro]

just pop up deliver it yourself

girls luv crazy


If she like it or not she going remember you

When I went there I think her people were out of town or some shyt. Like I said I know she lives with at least one older relative but could be a whole household. What if I tape my Snapchat on her bedroom window?

 

[wastedmermaid]

How do y’all just casually date/have sex with women? I don’t have much experience with women, but what little I do have has always been long term dating or relationships. I’m not saying I want to just grab a woman at a bar and have a one night stand. Just something casual without eventually her eventually hitting the “what are we” conversation so early. I guess it would make the most sense to just outright say I’m just looking for something casual. But, I’m not sure the most effective way to say it

I’ve been on bumble/hinge and have have about 5 women that I’m talking to pretty consistently and managed to get their numbers from talking on the app. So, maybe I could work with that.

 

[Killigraphy]

@Killigraphy @The ADD @TRUEST Its really a classic case of my brain, heart, and dikk having a disagreement. I just wanted to smash then I caught feelings because I actually enjoy her company but like I said, it seems really unwise to try and lock down someone in that profession. Maybe I can go for the friends with benefits angle

It is quite the problem, share your heart with those who mean more to you than whats attached to a vagina. I have close family, a brother, and even strangers who will remember my name. My heart is for those who have earned it, who have sacrificed as I for them. My dikk is for fun, though it does not guide me. My brain is for myself and the people. I play Chess, so you don't have to, I risk it all for glory, I become a greater version of myself, and there's nothing wrong if some of the light coming off me, shines onto you. Emotions conflict even my strong will, but my logic...my intelligence, keeps them in check. If it means I sacrifice some of my humanity, then so be it....the hardest choices require the strongest wills.

 

[Killigraphy]

How do y’all just casually date/have sex with women? I don’t have much experience with women, but what little I do have has always been long term dating or relationships. I’m not saying I want to just grab a woman at a bar and have a one night stand. Just something casual without eventually her eventually hitting the “what are we” conversation so early. I guess it would make the most sense to just outright say I’m just looking for something casual. But, I’m not sure the most effective way to say it

I’ve been on bumble/hinge and have have about 5 women that I’m talking to pretty consistently and managed to get their numbers from talking on the app. So, maybe I could work with that.

You have to come to a realization that all of them will eventually say "what are we", you do your best to keep them from asking that question...don't make it a bother, just let them know by what you exude, that you aren't looking for a girlfriend. Keep in mind that "something casual" means you're forming some kind of relationship. You're still gonna text, talk and deal with this person outside of all that. A steady booty call is easy to control, especially if she's relying on you for happiness. Without me, a bird is just a bird, she has no real "fun", because its always the same with her and her tired friends. I'm an experience, she's only living in a moment with everyone else.

 

[Pyrexcup]

My biggest thing this year is discipline and just learning to be alone. My ex let me hit on new years eve even though she's talking to another nikka and I told her I'm working on making myself better so if we get back together I'm in a better place spiritually, mentally, and physically. I wanna marry this mf but I know the type of wedding and lifestyle we require would mean a lot of work no dates etc and forget even her for a second I was complacent in my early 20's with my salary and career and now I know I need change and I'm taking the active steps.


Think my problem was I was still getting p*ssy with a pretty regular salary then I got into a relationship where she always wanted marriage and I didn't until she moved on.

I know I shouldn’t even be on hinge but I matched with a girl on hinge who is studying for the mcat and I broke down how I want to change my life and worry about my goals this year and she still wants to stick around. Talking about we can study together -you for certs and me mcat's this girl took my iPad and made a whole study schedule routine, She's night and day from my ex- younger, my ex- want's her husband to make 300k /her- more reasonable/ my ex- wants me to pay for everything, made it a point to say the new guy pays for everything. new girl- took me on date from some shyt from tik tok date and paid and will at least reach for her card when we go out.

We had sex and then I said we shouldn't be doing that because it will complicate things and she still is sticking around. She's a real nice girl and I don't want to hurt her, I can tell she likes me a lot

Idk why me and my ex are still talking before yall ask man. We go like 3 days without talking she'll facetime me frantic saying she can't find the earrings I bought her or advice on her job. I'll call her text her some random stuff some days and we facetime. Last time we talked she said well even if I wanted to get back with you, you said you wanna fix yourself first so. Then at first, she said if the nikka ask her out she gonna say yes, but then said she don't know cuz she talking to me and she would have to completely cut that out. And she dk why she still hits me up

Def think I need to go celibate rest of the year.

Keep it pushing I’ve read a couple of your posts and sounds like your new x wants to live an instagram lifestyles which you clearly cannot provide you need to keep it moving or you will constantly feel insecure as you are broke