what does “have it together” even mean? Are our standards so low for people than an adult having a job which pays their bills something impressive?
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what does “have it together” even mean? Are our standards so low for people than an adult having a job which pays their bills something impressive?
Yea, ima take the same approach..
Just kick it with her for a while but knowingly put her in a certain box without verbalising it. If we end up being friends or some shyt that’s cool.. but all that other shyt is dead
WoofBruh, I thought I met a solid jawn
but shorty a legit bird brain
29, no kids, never married, own 2 homes, got 2 degrees, gotta federal gov job …
I’m feeling her sexually .. the whole nine.
we get in a conversation today about ex relationships.
this dumb ass girl talm bout
“my ex bf was the jealous type. I’m too nice and sometimes I give my # out to guys. And when we were together, sometimes I would give attractive guys my # and text them. Sometimes I would go to dinner with them and he would get so jealous. You’re not the jealous type are you??”
What THE FUKK?!
To think I thought this bytch had potential. I just said “naww I ain’t the jealous type, that’s crazy”
in one convo, shordie literally fell from top 5 to not mentioned at all. I been gassing this chick up for weeks talking to my cuz and pops about her. shyt is embarrassing brehs
Why even waste your time? You lonely or something?
i mean she cool, i enjoy her company n shyt.
I'm the type where i dont judge nobody for where they are in their life, I just deal with them accordingly. now that she's downgraded from "chick that i might consider dating exclusively" to "just the homie" nothing that happens between us can really impact me negatively in any way. i've fully adjusted my expectations
You smart
KeysT
Playa from the Himalayas #ByrdGang
Exactly
How old are you? And being in proximity of another human can always impact your life, you aren't God. I guess I`m just confused at your end game. Are you looking for a Friend or something? What purpose does she serve in your life to continue to give energy (regardless of the level) to someone that is going nowhere?
I`m not coming at you just trying to understand the logic. I think as men we aren't intentional with our relationships rather internet or platonic. After a certain age we dont really make new friends per say outside of folks we meet via our journeys in life where some commonality brought us in proximity of each other. So I assume 'just the homie' means she is someone you feel would be an asset just not relationship wise? Me personally I'm not in the business of female friends who aint family so I find it interesting. Associates sure, but those aren't people I give energy too outside of when we come across each other.
that’s an interesting perspective and I feel the being intentional when choosing relationships part especially
when you said..
“'just the homie' means she is someone you feel would be an asset just not relationship wise”
that captures it.. p*ssy was good so sex is there conveniently. If we both bored one night, link and find some bullshyt to get into.
And also, when I do find the next chick that I think has potential, I’d much rather have a small bullpen in place to keep me balanced as I’m exploring that. If shyt don’t work out, I got shyt to keep me occupied
Similar to the shyt with her, I didn’t know her much so it wasn’t a big deal, I was a little disappointed for a day or two lol but it ain’t shyt really because I got a little roster in place where I ain’t tripping off anything as far as her.
she ain’t the one .. but she ain’t do nothing “wrong” to me personally.. So we can be cool, it’s no biggie fr
VertigoKnight
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pro tip go learn how to give back massages
perfect for setting the mod
Once I give a chick one of my massages it's a wrap.
It's also a great way to talk about intimacy without being corny and obscene about it. A lot of chicks don't find blatant sex talk appealing. This one is a slim big titty korean chick.
Couldn't believe how big her t*ts were as she wears loose sweatshirts To hide them and be modest. Gave her one of my massages and she was like putty in my hands. Second massage I oiled her titties up and had her legs shaking before I smashed her.
Actually seeing her tomorrow. She's invited me to her place spend the day together.
yeah the only reason i ask because ill see dudes be upset when a FWB/roster member falls back or moves on. Im big on transparency and often time we think something is going one way while the other person may think its something else. Thats why im like be intentional with what your doing because that “go with the flow” never ends well, especially if she is a good person , dont waste her time making her think she getting into something that you know isnt it. When the tables are reverse we would cry foul for example
VertigoKnight
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Yep one of the biggest rules I've learnt. I let any chick I'm engaged with know what's going on from the off and she can decide if it works for her or not.
Going with the flow leads to misunderstandings, crossed wires and hurt feelings.
My current thinking is whatever happens we leave each other better when we decide things have changed. Seriously, it's made my dating life a hell of a lot easier overall.
Exactly it estanlishes a baseline and minimizes confusions. The issue is dudes tend to not want to do it because there is risk of chicks not being down upfront thus missing out on sex. If you ask me that is a blessing because anything that is down with the plan SHOULD be minimal headache as long as you keep
Your end of the agreement up (and if she doesnt keep her end up you having something to call out when you walk away).
Rell Lauren
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What y'all getting into this weekend? Had a long week at work. Trying not to have that negative energy spill out on someone I may DM on Tinder.
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