This is the post to end all posts about this topic.
Most women have submissive sexuality - regardless of personality type. I mean most like being penetrated for crying out loud.
So they get turned on the most when their partner can be convincingly dominant in bed.
Why do you think some bytches love doggy style? Or being spanked on the ass?
Or, to take it to the extreme, why do some like rough sex? Being tied or blindfolded? Or why some like being choked? Or slapped?? Or gagging on dikk? Or being called a bytch or slut? Or asking you to spit in their mouths?? Because it is a VERY submissive position to be in. It heightens the sensation of their submissive sexuality. It allows them to be lost in the submissive.
Naturally, this lingers outside the bedroom subconsciously for both men and women. Notice how I said they want their partner to be convincingly dominant. Because it's hard for a woman to have the sensation of being fully submissive if their partner isn't convincingly dominant. For most couples (not all), a dorky guy who is a little shy, not super confident, is kinda soft, doesn't get much hoes, etc. Is not going to be convincingly dominant in the bedroom. If they try it'll obviously look fake, and ruin the illusion, ruin the sensation. The woman can't get lost in the submissiveness. That's not to say they can't get girlfriends, but its harder for them to on average, and for some that do, the wife/gf gets tired of them or cheats.
This is why most women like traits that are associated with or look like dominant bedroom behavior: height, muscles, deep voice, strength, confidence, fearlessness, skillfulness, assertiveness, energy, virility, charisma, etc.
All of those things inspire lust in women because not only are they useful socially (in a evo-psych way), but because they can make a man convincingly dominant when fukking a chic.
And it's why so many women (yes, even well-adjusted women, not just hoodrats/hoes) can fukk dudes that are drug dealers, abusive, rude, a$$holes, flagrantly misogynistic, or have "toxic masculinity" etc. Because those types of dudes still usually display the traits that prove they can dominate a woman in bed: confidence, assertiveness, strength, charisma, energy, fearlessness.
And it's why there are some good dudes - even confident and attractive ones - who struggle. Because sometimes (not all the time, but it happens), being a guy that displays a lot of empathy, respectfulness, agreeableness, loyalty, etc. means you have traits that are at odds with being dominant in bed sometimes. It's hard to show a girl you are convincingly dominant enough to smack a girls ass or even spit in her mouth when fukking her missionary style when you display respectfulness and gentleness - let alone have traits like being dorky or shy or neurotic.
So women kinda do and don't know what they want. They, like most people want a loving partner. But what turns them on sexually comes easier to people who aren't loving.
A woman's description of a perfect dude wouldn't think to initiate sex by smacking their ass and bending them over without warning. They would feel reticent about having the guts to call their girl a bytch and tell her to shut up.
And that's it really. It doesn't explain all, but it explains most.
It explains toxic masculinity. It explains why those fukking redpill people are everywhere. It explains why some dudes got bad luck with chicks.